I've been with my partner for over 2 years now, and she's been with his brother for 3 or 4 years. They are engaged and an engagement is on the cards for us too (I hope!). She's so nasty to me, and it's not subtle, it's out in the open. She always finds a way to put me down and is always making nasty comments towards me. I've tried talking to her, and she said that she doesn't like my personality and that I have taken my partner away from her, which i don't understand because judging from what she said I haven't done anything to hurt her, she just doesn't like me for no reason. Also, she is really nasty to my partner and they were never close before I came along either. I think she doesn't like me cause i'm a smaller dress size than her but it's just a suspicion. I really don't know. How do I handle this? What can I do?
2007-04-28 12:22:22 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its my partners brothers fiancee, not my brothers. My partners family are all really close, so I see her quite a lot
2007-04-28 12:26:41 · update #1
I can't see how she'd be stressed about her wedding. It was supposed to go ahead in 2009, to give them a chance to save up, and rather than do that they bought a 2 new cars and are now in 30grands worth of debt.
2007-04-28 12:51:01 · update #2
Hi, Oooh! she sounds like the jealous type to me, she must have wanted the monopoly on the family and you coming along have stopped all that. What did she mean by you taking your partner away from her? she is with his brother. I would just carry on being your normal lovely self, show her no malice and then she can't say you are nasty to her. But i would try not to be in her company, ok there will be family parties and then it's just unavoidable to not see her. If they are in debt now goodness help them in a few years time when they come to get married. Nasty piece of work this one. Keep out of her way. My sister in law was nasty to me, luckily she lived away and i did not see her much, but i know it's not nice and it makes you feel uncomfortable. The rest of your partners family must see that she is nasty. Good Luck ..
2007-04-28 22:54:09 · answer #1 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not marrying her nor are you marrying a family. Living a useful distance away is a help. Refusing to rise to the bait will too. The woman is obviously jealous of you. You are probably a really nice person and she wanted your fiance and he wasn't too struck on her. She sounds like a particularly horrible spoiled brat! Tell your partner (is it a law firm?!) she is hurting you and you don't like it and would rather not see her. Both of you should give her the cold shoulder for a while. When it is her birthday or Christmas buy her something really special. (Why?) Well the Bible says if treat your enemies with kindness it has the same effect as pouring hot coals on them. Just be calm and remember it is she who has the problem and not you guys.
2007-04-29 05:55:52 · answer #2 · answered by pwwatson8888 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds just plain nasty. Try to stay away from her.
If you have to be around her and she says bad things to or about you I would pre plan some really good comebacks. Not nasty , you don't want to be like her. Just something to stop her in her tracks. I am sure someone on here can think of something.
I would probably say you must find me very interesting since you talk about me all the time.
2007-04-28 19:37:33 · answer #3 · answered by bobbi123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is she interested in your partner if she's with the brother? This makes no sense, she just sounds like a strange person. Perhaps she is a bit uptight because of the engagement and wedding plans she anticipates? I don't know, I stay away from people who are mentally irregular.
2007-04-28 19:36:55 · answer #4 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this woman doesn't matter to you or your partner.... tell her to get lost..... or maybe a few more colorful words.....
She is not part of the happiness in your life or his, and if she doesn't want to be around you or him, then just accomodate her wishes and disappear!!! At least from her. If that is not possible, then just don't let her back you in a corner.... stand up to her, let her know she's not part of your party, just the barback-- and if she's not happy with the atmosphere, then she should find somewhere else to work "the crowd".....
Be yourself, and who gives a crap what other women think of you? Your man's happy, right?
2007-04-28 19:32:29 · answer #5 · answered by crankyissues 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello,
You might as well turn yourself away from this kind of relationship, and finsd a better way to get the wedding job done, you don't need bitchin' by this woman, and it's gone on for long enough, So tell your man you want to do it another way and find yourselves some happiness, then see if she is still jealous of you, Oh!, and don't invite her to the fabulous wedding you and your chosen one are going to have...Good Luck Honey.....Tony M
2007-04-28 19:29:21 · answer #6 · answered by tony m 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The next time she says nasty things to do you, please tell her, in front of everyone. that you will only respond to her if she speaks nicely and with respect. And then stick to it.
It may not do much good. She may still be nasty, but your partner and his brother will both know why you are not answering her.
2007-04-28 20:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say leave her to her nastiest. If she doesn't like you then...sorry but she doesn't like you. I say keep your distance from her, if you have made the effort to try and get along with her and its not working the f*** her. There is no point trying to win a losing battle, why should you let her keep on insulting your kind mannered ways. I say be assertive and tell her, that you do not want any conflict with her, if she doesn't like you fine...you don't want to spend more time with her than necessary. If she doesn't like you or your partner then she should keep her mouth shut and keep her snotty opinions to herself.
2007-04-29 07:51:59 · answer #8 · answered by Darkchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sis-in-law sounds like a heavenly angel compared to mine. Mine once helped my husband out of a tight spot, which was all fine and good. What she was doing in the meantime was telling everyone that he was in love with her because she was helping him. Had everyone believing her too. Trust me she has a reason for not liking you, she's just not forth coming with it. Speaking of being nasty; each and everytime my husband calls his brother she slams the phone in his ears and its a long distance call. (we are living in Saudi Arabia.) She even slammed the phone in his mother's ears too. How you can handle it is to stay away from her. What you can do is stay away from her. My sis-in-law hates me with a purple passion and I found it best to stay away from her. You know something people like that are poisonous and no one needs that.
2007-04-28 19:32:40 · answer #9 · answered by Laela (Layla) 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They say you marry the person not the family. That's a lie. I would just not be around her. You do not have to associate with her...if she is going to be somewhere simply tell your partner your not going, tell him why and allow him to attend the function on his own without you giving him a hard time. He should not want to go without you.
2007-04-28 19:29:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋