Suicide... I need answers please help me?

Question

my bff got a bf that she is happy with but we just found out that her bf's cousin is in my class so i'm kinda like the info person for all of them anyways his cousin likes my bff. And he says he will kill himself if he she isn't is his.and we belive him because i went out with him once and i broke up with him and he cut himslef really bad. We really don't want him 2 kill himself me and my bff were wondering do u think she should brake up with her bf just so he doesn't kill himself...we haven't told her bf yet.. and her bf can't talk 2 his cousin casue they hate each other

Answer 1

It sounds a lot like issues the bf's cousin has deep down, but also uses as a control tool to get what he wants. I wouldn't discredit his issues as a whole, but going out with him is not going to solve his problems of wanting to commit suicide. He needs to be seen by somebody and you and your bff need to go report him to the school psychologist or counselor. Do this anonymously and if he confronts you two, by all means, act like you have no idea who would have told the counselor (because of his demeanor, who knows how he will react knowing who told?) Your friend's bf needs to know what's going on. This is his family, whether they get along or not. He can talk to his parents about it and have them talk to his aunt or uncle about it. This kid really needs help! Unfortunately, yes, it's sad that he uses this as a control method to get who he wants, but at the same point, he does have valid issues that definitely need to be sought out by the proper authority figures (parents, school counselor/psychologist, etc)

Do not let this go unresolved, this kid has some issues far deeper than just wanting a specific girlfriend!!

And, to specifically answer your question, NO she should NOT break up with her bf to go out with his cousin. His control issues are one reason, and this will not help his issues! She will not be happy with him! It is not her issue to deal with or to solve. Just go to the school counselor and voice your concerns and have the bf talk to his parents, or you and your bff talk to the bf's parents if he won't!

Answer 2

Be careful. A person who is contemplating or threatens suicide needs help. You can be there for this person and support them but they need professional help. Don't try to do this yourself and/or recommend that your friend keep a safe distance. With this said, don't just dump on this person. This person needs a friend. But, there are deeper issues and this person is not ready to be in a romantic relationship. It sounds also like this person uses the threat of suicide as a way to control or get what he wants. That is unfair and this person is placing a heavy load onto his friends and family. If you think this person is serious then tell someone who can do something about it. Talk to a school counselor to get more advice.

Answer 3

He is not in a healthy condition and it is not good to be his girlfriend. Worse, he is threatening violent action if she doesn't meet his demands. He could be dangerous to himself or others, specifically your bff.
The best bet is probably for her to call his parents and tell them she is going to break up with him, and to keep an eye on him because he has threatened suicide.
Also, if he threatens again after she does break up with him, call 911 and tell them. They will go make sure he doesn't harm himself.
You guys have enough on your plates without having to deal with suicidal people that you're not even qualified to help. Just let the parents and the professionals do their job.

Answer 4

Regardless of whether people believe he will kill himself or not, this is not something you want to try to handle on your own. This guy is in need of professional help. Talk to his parents and let them know about his threats and about what happened when you broke up with him. Call the suicide hotline in your state (find it at www.suicidehotlines.com) and ask if they can advise you on how to handle this situation. There needs to be some serious intervention here and you and your friend should not try to handle it on your own.

Answer 5

THIS PERSON NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. in New York State, if you confide in a police officer or social worker they manditorily will admit someone like that if they threaten suicide, or harm to themselves or others. TALK TO YOUR PARENTS ABOUT THIS PLEASE!!!!!! I BEG OF YOU, I HAVE HAD A FEW PEOPLE I KNOW KILL THEMSELVES OVER THINGS THAT SEEMED LIKE A BIG DEAL AT THE TIME, BUT HONESTLY LOOKING BACK THESE PROBLEMS COULD HAVE BEEN TAKEN CARE OF. TELL SOMEONE ANYONE AS SOON AS POSSIBLE!

Answer 6

He, won't kill himself. It is a manipulation. My Sister-in-laws boyfriend was the same way. People who are truly suicidal don't go around threatening to do it. Your bff just needs to live her life and ignore the weirdo.

Answer 7

i don't think that your bff should break up with her bf just because of this, but i think this cousin really needs some professional help. you should really tell his parents or an adult and try to get him to see a psychiatrist.

Answer 8

Most important thing here is the person who is threatening suicide has a mental illness. Get them professional help. It is not something to play around with.

Answer 9

First, you need to talk to his parents and share your concern. Contact the suicide line and get their advice to, 800-784-2433. This person need some help. If he is playing games, this will be his most ultimate mistake at the end!!

God Bless

Answer 10

this is a hard situation, i've been in a similar one myself. i would suggest telling a close friend/doctor/etc. of his to keep him company and stick around and make sure he doesn't do anything to himself when she breaks the news to him that she's happy with her bf. make sure he's not left alone, it's harder to commit suicide when you're constantly being watched.

i really hope this helps. good luck.