HOW CAN I DO THIS ??????? my dad's gone mad?

Question

i reily want my tounge peired and my dad wont let me n i am only 14 and he is reily strict being nice to him dnt work and buying him pressant's dont and when eva i bring it up he get's in a stress plz answer me ! i nead help i want this done badely !

Answer 1

show him how grown up you can be ,help around the house and stuff then ask him if you can have a chat with him and tell him how you feel ,i do think you are a bit young yet to have it done also if any place would do it for you they may get into trouble if your dad wasn't in agreement,maybe a compromise with your dad to wait another year then if you still want it done OK

Answer 2

Why do you want it done so badly? Your dad is trying to protect you. Instead of being so desperate about it approach him in a more mature way. Ask him to explain his reasons for not wanting you to get your tongue pierced. Consider what he says.

Also do some research on the internet about the good and the bad experiences people have had. I've heard of people getting extreme infections and coming close to dying after getting their tongue pierced. Maybe your dad has heard things like that, too.

Don't throw a tantrum, don't whine, don't say things like "everybody else is doing it". Do your research and present the facts to him. Then listen to his side and try to come to some kind of agreement. Maybe he would agree to it if you agreed to waiting until you're 16. See what kind of compromise you can work out with him. Approach the subject as if you were doing a business proposal considering the pros and cons of the issue. When he sees you acting more maturely about things, he might be impressed enough to listen and perhaps bend a little.

Answer 3

Sorry, know you don't want to hear this but if you are 14 I totally agree with your dad. If you were 16 still wouldn't like it but would let you go ahead as at the end of the day it can always be removed. Why then doesn't the same thing apply at 14? Simply because no matter how mature you consider yourself you are under age for ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING. You may think it just is a bit of fun but believe me although probably not your intention doing things like this at 14 makes guys think you are a push over. They recognise the immaturity you don't. Not only guys but puts you in a category of 'not a nice type' . I know you are not going to believe a word of this and think I am as bad as your dad. However, do one thing for me please? Print this answer off and look at it again is 10 - 15 years time and see if you feel differently? At this moment in time you don't realise how lucky you are at having a dad who cares so much about you but one day you will. He may seem ancient to you but believe me the years pass quick until you reach his age and he probably remembers situations, although perhaps not piercing that he got in to and is just being caring in what he is doing. I appreciate you will read this and laugh as I am sure my own daughters would but one day you will be sooooooo grateful for the advice, just hope you take it. This is sent to you with much love.

Answer 4

Ask your dad why he wont let - be mature about this and ask him as if you care for his opinion. He may be worried because of stories about bleeding quite badly, infections, breaking your teeth - the stud bangs your front teeth and not many piercers are willing to do it till you are 16.
Are you also aware it is not just one sitting - because your tongue swells after initial sitting they need to put a bigger stud in and then you get it changed for a smaller stud when swelling has gone down.
The swelling will take time to go down so will you be able to talk properly at school?
You also have to drink soup and other liquids/liquidy food.
So your dad may well be justified in his worries!!
So give him a break, poor man. Lol.

Answer 5

well i agree with your dad, i used to do the same things to my dad ( like throw a fit ) when i didnt get what i want, but now that im older i realize they told me no to protect me and so on...aannnyways....you are too young, and i have my tongue pierced and its nothing all that special, noone sees it ever unless you play with it outside of your mouth which some people find annoying and gross anyways, and your dad has every right to get mad everytime you ask, he said no once, hes not gonna say yes if u bug him its just gonna tick him off, and acting grown up wont help either, cos your still 14...youll just get a pat on the back for being a good girl and doing your chores for once:)

Answer 6

I would kill my daughter if she came home at 14 with her tongue pierced.
No studio will touch you,you are far too young,if they do,they are running the risk of prosecution and deserve to lose their license anyway.
It hurts getting your tongue pierced,it swells to double normal size and you bleed quite a lot.The swelling takes a couple of days to go down,during which you can't eat anything that's not puree.Get somewhere else pierced before you embark on this...

Answer 7

It is illegal to have this done at your age, I am afraid. Tongue piercing can be dangerous - go to someone unskilled and you could literally bleed to death or get a very nasty infection.
Why do you feel you have to do this?
I know this is not what you want to hear, but he has your health and safety in mind when he says no, so give him a break!

Answer 8

Your dad knows your body is still growing and you could alter your beauty. Your dad knows that tongue piercings can go very very wrong and cause the most horrendous facial disfigurement. Your dad loves you and is making the right decision.... the reason he get distressed is, he knows things you don't.

Answer 9

i wudnt if i were u coz the only place that will do it for you will be braking the law so not very good , its also quite dangerous as it can paralyse your face , wait till your 18 and then get it done in a recognised high street parlour not a back ally

Answer 10

Wait four years and try again. Sometimes an idea needs time to work through, I think 4 years would be enough time to work it out.