is it too soon to have sex?

Question

ok i hav been goin out wit this boy for a month and a half but we have been talking for 4 months. even before we went out, we always liked eachother and he wud always tell me that he loved me and we always acted like a couple. so one day we made it official .but anyways now he says he wants me to hav sex wit him. i want to do it but i think its too soon in our relationship- even if we do love eachother. what do you think? by tha way i`m 14 and he's 16 and we're both virgins

Answer 1

WAIT!!!
You are too young to be having sex...so many young people think they "should" be having sex or want to experiment with it
your body is a precious thing...the most precious thing that you have and you should wait until your married...
guys aren't what they seem to be...
they'll tell you all kinds of stuff to "get in your pants" but once they get what they want they want to leave and if they don't leave they stay only because of the sex...and you want a guy to be with because of the way he feels about you emotionally not physically..
naturally you want t experiment with your body as a young adult but please wait!! You'll find you wont regret it!
...If he's pressuring you to have sex END IT NOW!!
you don't want someone pressuring to have sex..don't feel bad for saying no..
your body belongs to YOU NOT him and if he doesn't agree in waiting the tell him to BOUNCE!!!

Answer 2

I'm sure you have read everyone else's answers that tell you you are too young, so I won't tell you again, I think you get the message on that.
I would warn you that if you do have sex with this guy, most likely, if he is like 99% of 16 year old guys, he will dump you and move on, because he has gotten what he is after.
I don't know him, so I can't say for sure, but the last thing you need at your age is him spreading all over school to anyone that will listen that he nailed you.
Then guess what, you become the school s l u t.
Don't put yourself in that position, you haven't really known this guy all that long, no my dear, 4 months is not that long.
He is thinking that he has invested 4 months kissing your butt and now it's time for you to give it up.
If he means what he says about loving you, he will wait and the subject won't come up again until you bring it up.
If he pressures you, or constantly insists you give in and spread your legs, he is after only sex.
Take care of yourself, and your reputation, because as soon as you lay down with him, the next day, the whole school will know about it, trust me.

Answer 3

Every relationship is different. There is no set time limit. Some couples had sex on the first date, some waited until marriage. You do it when it feels right for you. If some guy thinks you are playing games because you are waiting for the right moment, he sounds immature, so you don't want him anyway. As far as guys not taking you seriously because you sleep with them too soon. Well you can usually tell which guys are only out for sex, and it wouldn't matter if you waited or not, they would never take you seriously, cuz that's not what they are looking for. It all depends on you, and the type of guys you date as to whether or not they want to take it to the next level, not when you sleep with them.

Answer 4

Well you both are young plus he shouldn't be pressuring you what if you get pregnant at your age what can you do and you must be in 8th or 9th grade you have so much life ahead of you so what is the rush and the 16year old BOY wants it more than you so he is going to pressure you into doing it but you don't have to fall for it ...SMILE and wait and besides talk is cheap you can't prove that he is a virgin wait until marriage ...OK

Answer 5

You're 14! There is plenty of time for sex when you're older and you've had enough dating experience that you don't need to ask perfect strangers whether or not you're ready!

Of course he wants you to have sex with him, he's a horny 16-year-old boy. Guys are not very mature at that age and if you starting having sex now you will probably regret it later.

Answer 6

YOU are 14 and want to have sex!!!!! Have you gone insane???

You shouldnt even be on this thread talking about dating You should be in school. You can think about sex when you are older. Not at the age of 14.

Answer 7

See wat u need 2 look @ is r u ready 2 handle a baby @ 14. Will he stick around as the dad? Are you emotionally ready 4 this.

1) ur too young
2) Too early in a relationship
3) he probably told u i love u to make u feel better bout doin it
(srry if this is offensive, talk 2 ur parents, not us)

Answer 8

look he might use u he is 16 for gods sakes. so wait about 6 months and then ask the same question and yes the answers is yes too soon for sex !!!!one month and a half into the relationship come on!!!!!

Answer 9

Only you know if you're ready or not, but in my opinion, you're only 14, it's probably illegal for you to have sex, depending on where you are, and it's illegal for a reason, the government is trying to protect you from making a mistake you could seriously live to regret.
The fact that you have to think twice about having sex would to me tell me that you know you're not ready for it, and if he's not willing to wait for you to be comfortable with it, he doesn't love you.

Answer 10

With all the risks involved with pregnancy and you being 14 and him only 16 years old, and you said that part of you feels that it is too soon for it, so go with that gut feeling. And if he is pushy about it, he is not worth it. You are way too young to worry about that anyway! :)