He cant decide between me or his girlfriend?

Question

im very upset and disappointed right now. Recently, i become very close with this guy who's attached. And now it has come to a point where we both have fallen for each other. But he cant seem to breakoff with his girlfriend. He said that he doesnt want to be a jerk and dumped her coz she's been a nice girl. Neither does he want to end things with me coz he said he loves me and feels more happier when he's with me and that he kept thinking bout me all the time and he gets agitated whenever he sms me and i take quite some time to reply him. He just cant decide and we ended up arguing earlier coz he said he'd rather remain single and end things with both of us so its fair. when i told him if he want me to backoff and let him be with his girlfriend, he said it wont solve the situation coz its me that will always be in his mind. so im juz very messed rite now coz i love him and i dont want to lose him. but he cant make up his mind which troubles me.

Answer 1

think about this for a second. say he leaves his girlfriend for you. you two go out for awhile, then he meets and gets close to another girl. do you seriously thingk he won't do to you exactly what he is doing to her? he is cheating on her with you, and you think if he is with you instead he won't cheat on you like this? you need to break it off with this guy all together because you are setting yourself up to get hurt. he should have left his girl a long time ago if he had feelings for you. he is stringing her along like an a**hole. he is doing the same thing to you. he doesn't want one or the other, he wants both of you at the same time. he is a jackass and a dog, and you will be better off without him in your life at all, and honestly so would his girlfriend. i think you need to let her know whats going on, so SHE can decide if he is worth her time anymore. its not fair to her what either of you are doing, and its not fair to you what he's doing. stop it now, and find someone worthy of your affection, not this cheating, lying, manipulative jerk.

Answer 2

HE can't decide? Maybe he doesn't want to at this point. He has 2 women who love him and wether he is or isn't a player, he must be in his glory...Why would you want a man who breaks off with a woman to be with you? He will do the same to you in the end. If he were friends with both of you and not in a relationship, that would be different. Give him space and keep yourself busy and give him all the time to think about what he wants. If it's you, then that's great for you but if it's not, know that there are other people out there who would love to be with you. Go out with your friends and be independant. Never rely on a man to make you happy. Only YOU can do that! Good luck and hope this helps.

Answer 3

Admit you have been cheating and see what happens. I can't just leave it at that. You might want to ask yourself what have you done to foster a loving relationship between you and your wife? When was the last time you put in the same amount of effort into your marriage as you have with this new girlfriend? When was the last time you made any effort to spend quality time with your wife? Last time you surprised her with a dinner reservation at a nice restaurant AND made the babysitting arrangements? Last time you vacuumed the house to give her a little break? A girlfriend who I personally feel is like yourself morally flawed for being part of this love triangle. No great catch to begin with. Saying it is wrong does not make it forgivable. The whole reason for marriage is a promise to stay faithful during the lulls. To provide a stable home for the children the two of you chose to bring into this world. Pulling the suicide card does not relinquish your responsibility for causing this mess. You weren't too depressed to bed a sexier, exciting mistress, now were you. But it is your responsibility to seek professional help for your depression. There is little less destructive to a child then having a parent kill themsleves. As if you haven't already done enough. 1-800-SUICIDE So you asked and my thoughts are that you are a jerk, selfish, lying and overly dramatic ***. Poor you wife won't have sex with you, the husband who was open to cheating. Who continues to lie to his wife even after she suspects. SHAME ON YOU. Like I said tell your wife that you have been cheating. She deserves to know - I do hope she leaves you.

Answer 4

She is HIS girlfriend you aren't..back off already. He is in a relationship with someone else. You are interfering in a sense. Yes sometimes people meet and like each other..it's usually called cheating? However, they are not married yet lol Draw a line, tell him it is not proper being involved with someone else's boyfriend. Falling for each other? I hope you haven't had sex? If he has really fallen for you he will make up his mind..it may take awhile or it may not happen at all. Basically being a friend is one thing but dating or sex changes that friendship forever...besides if he became your boyfriend would you ever trust him to be friends with other girls? heck no

Answer 5

It sounds like this guy wants to 'have his cake and eat it to".

You really do need to make him make a decision. Otherwise, you will always be the 'other-woman'.

Even if he is worried about 'being a jerk' to this other girl, if he loves you like he says he does, it should come down to priority for him to resolve the situation. He should not be content with having you in some kind of relationship-limbo.

Tell him that a choice needs to be made.

Answer 6

Honey - you are going to lose him no matter what. Don't you realize that he will do the same thing to you after you have been dating a while? He'll get comfortable with you and then become friends with some other girl and then he'll be torn between breaking up with you and getting it on with a new girl.
Get away from him FAST!

Answer 7

I'm not trying to be rude in saying this, but you can't "lose" someone you aren't with in the first place. If he really loved you as much as he claims he would be with you instead of staying with his girlfriend. This guy sounds like a weak, selfish jerk.

If I were you I would steer clear of him and not have anything to do with him unless he quits stringing his girlfriend along and breaks it off with her. But really, even if he does would you really want to date him? He's already shown you that he'll cheat when he's in a relationship.

Myself, I wouldn't want anything to do with a guy who acted like that.

Answer 8

well, he isn't going to break it off with his "lady" or he would hagve done it by now and if he truly loved you he wouldn't have such a big problem. If this is what he really does he is worth neither your time or energy let him keep sweet talking you if you want but you are just going to get played you are his back up girl and that ias a terrible position to be trust me i have been there. he is not the guy you want to be with

good luck and best wishes

Answer 9

I think you should move on and let him be with that girl. What makes you think that even if he does stay with you he won't find someone else when he is with you. Every girl deserves a man's full attention and loyalty don't settle for anything less than what you deserve!!

Answer 10

sweetie, walk away, he's playing you!he knows you want him and since when does a man cheat on a 'nice good' girlfriend and can't leave her? he wants her to be the main girl everyone knows about... and you the secret along with who knows how many others... and when he sms you and you dont reply fast enough it's because she'll be near him soon... he taunts you with threats that he cant choose you over her and rather be single...that's what u want?