we have been together 2.5 yrs & we love each other so much, but, our personalities & opinions clash sometimes & we end up fighting. its so painful for both of us to leave each other, what can we do?
2007-04-28 08:52:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there Toby here from NewYork with my opinion on your delemma. If, in spite of your difference of opinion on certain subjects you're still together, it means that the love that you 2 have for one another is strong enough to keep you together. Learn how to give in at times, specially when the discussion doesn't directly effect your relationship. And by giving in few times you will see that he will eventually do the same. And you know what also works? Right in the middle of the argument, just throw your arms around his neck and kiss him. that will make him lose control . and maybe add......this conversation its not worth it to get mad at you. Bottom line is this, Personalities can not be change, there are however many ways to deal with them. Hope my response was of help to you. Regards Toby, a caring person
2007-04-28 09:16:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in a very similar situation- infact my relationship is also at the 2.5 mark. That must be the magic, rocky relationship point. Me and my BF's personalities and opinion clash quite often. But, we still can't break up. You just have to find ways to deal with the bigger issues in your life. You have to pinpoint exactly what bothers you (both you and your BF need to do that.) And see if you can come up with ways to eliminate or smooth these problem areas. Also, take a look at both of your lives right now. Is something stressful going on? That could also influence your moods and cause you to be more angry and more likely to fight. So maybe it's not ALL the relationship, but outside problems that are trickling into the relationship.
Hope this helps. But I am in the same boat as you and am not completely out of the storm yet.
2007-04-28 15:59:07 · answer #2 · answered by January 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I used to go through this all the time. Try to listen 1st then react. 2 ears, 1 mouth helps .
Count to 10 if you can or walk to the other side of the room to do something like pick up the remote controll/change channels or put the kettle on.
The next day you can generally look back and regret so dont do and try biting your tongue if you can then speak about it when youre calm. Good luck to you both
2007-04-28 16:00:39 · answer #3 · answered by NATH 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it's hard to be in a relashinship when you don't get along, but to put it to the test think of it this way: if you guys can't break up because you like eachother too much then that's pretty good. That means you both really care for eachother and need to work out problems, and just be open. Hope that helped!
2007-04-28 15:57:00 · answer #4 · answered by *sue* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting.
Negotiate.
Communicate.
How?
Face to face. Flip a coin.
One talks until finished. The other listens, and then repeats back what they heard. All.
Then you switch.
Now you are communicating. Not interrupting.
You now know what the other person thinks.
The goal: you both get much of what you need!
I know that you can do it.
Get him involved, and try it.
What you have to lose is the fighting. Let it go.
You both win, or you both lose.
Okay?
Start fresh, in a new way.
2007-04-28 16:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, don't change your personalities. Changing who you are will destroy the relationship. Find a way to compromise when you feel the relationship is suffering over a personality clash. If it hurts, it's love. Good luck
2007-04-28 15:56:52 · answer #6 · answered by inkinheaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When compromise fails, just take a break; it's scary but couples who do this that really love each other usually end up getting back together being more crazy about each other than before.
2007-04-28 15:58:06 · answer #7 · answered by hsawaknow 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept it and live with it or move on. I've been there and done that. Only once out of a dozen has it been better to stay than move on.
2007-04-28 15:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't leave stop fighting. Aren't you adult enough to have some control?
2007-04-28 15:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let those little fusses interrupt your love for eachother. because later you would ralize how it effects you.... and its not a good affect.
2007-04-28 15:56:38 · answer #10 · answered by A Girl With a Dream 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋