I've learned recently that my grandmother is having a hard time living. She has always been really healthy, but now she and everyone else in my family seems to think that her time is comming soon. She's comming to live close to her family so that she can get the care she needs. I don't know how to act around her. She is the first person in my family that has ever had serious life threating health problems. How do I act around her? How do you act around someone that is dying?
2007-04-28 08:12:07 · 14 answers · asked by ♥Lilly♥ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Lilly, it is natural to be afraid but you need to stick the fear aside for now and just be yourself. You can help to make the time that grandma has left a wonderful time just be doing things with her - ask her to tell you stories about the changes she has seen in the world since she was your age. Ask her to teach you how to cook your favorite thing she makes for you. Ask her to tell you about your mom/dad when they were little. Grandparents are the keepers of the memories - help her to give you some very special memories to last you a lifetime. -k-
2007-04-28 08:20:10 · answer #1 · answered by kbama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be natural, you all may think she is dying but in reality she isn't thinking that way, she is moving closer because she cannot do the things she use to for herself any longer.. Be your sweet self ask her if she would like a cup of tea now and then or to read to her. Just don't panic around her and treat her with dignity, after all she deserves it i am sure. Honey just be you. Let her have good memories of what time she has on earth....
2007-04-28 08:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by brown eyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As normal as possible. Just be there for her - spend time with her and love her as much as you possibly can. You get to make her last days on earth enjoyable; it's a privilege. You may feel strange, weird, awkward, etc. and that's normal, but try not to show it.
2007-04-28 08:18:43 · answer #3 · answered by Delvala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lilly, I would be as natural as possible and love on her. Let her know both in speech and action that you love her. Take the time to do things for her and with her.
2007-04-28 08:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by twin2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just be yourself , and treat them with respect and give them dignity, spend as much time with her as u can,tell her how much u love her, take care of her and make her little things u know she likes ,like a favorite meal or watch some good movies with her,keep her room bright colored and cheerful, just help out the best u canand make her as comfortable as u can,i had to watch my momma pass ,it was hurtful my mom was only 54, i miss her dearly but i'm glad i spent a lot of time with her and had good times with her, god bless u all and good luck
2007-04-28 08:23:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act yourself, go to visit often. Try to be postive and let her talk and you listen...don't tell her she's not going to die if she brings the subject up... Death is part of everyone's life here on earth!
2007-04-28 08:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her your love for her. Be honest with her about your feelings, you may be surprised by her response. she may not be afraid to talk about dying. Most of all be yourself.
2007-04-28 08:17:14 · answer #7 · answered by Krys M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like yourself. Like you would to anyone else. You need to enjoy her and get to know her before she leaves...
Best of luck.
2007-04-28 08:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by Grandma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Show her lots of love bcuz you never know when your love one is going to die. So just use your time wisely. And be nice.
2007-04-28 08:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Bri 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
discuss death w/ her right from the start. that being out of the way you can carry on normally.
2007-04-28 08:16:16 · answer #10 · answered by absynthian 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋