how do you let go of someone that doesnt want you...help?

Question

i was with someone for almost a year and now all of a sudden he wont talk to me wont take my calls or messge me back...i do love him so what can i do

Answer 1

well i been there before.. just find someone new. stop think about him. find some onese that makes you happy. get out have fun. forget about him. if he can forget you that easy then do the same. yes its hard but you have to try

Answer 2

Well there is something more to this. One of three things has probably happened. Either you offended him and don't know it, you offended and do know it, or he has wronged you and doesn’t want you to know it. You have to figure out which if you want to try one last argument to leave on his answering machine. If you know you offended him and he's calling it quits then the easiest solution is to move on. For you to work it out you both have to communicate and if he is not willing then you can't. If you have no idea what happened then try to get him to talk but again if he absolutely won't there is not much you can do. If you did nothing to offend him that you can think of and he won't talk to you at all then misunderstanding or not you are the wronged party. Even if he thinks you betrayed him somehow if he gave a damn about you he should at least hear you out because there is no way he could have proof that you did a thing if you didn’t. You tell him exactly that and suggest that the only other possibility is he is ashamed to talk to you because he did the betraying. If he condemns you without hearing then bitter though it may be, you’re probably better off with someone else.

As to how to let go... You do as a cat does. Turn your back and walk away without ever looking back. Keeping your pride will salve the pain a bit and time will heal it.

Answer 3

I know how you're feeling, this exact same thing happened to me. In the end I had to stop trying to contact him as he just wouldn't pick up, and you know what? 2 weeks later, he was back calling me. He didn't want me back but he didn't want to let someone else have me either. I wouldn't be surprised if at some point your ex does the same, BUT if I were you I would not waste time waiting to see if this happens and I would not get back with him - what he's doing is cruel and disrespectful, you don't need that! If he can do this to you, he's not the man you thought he was, and he doesn't deserve you. I know it's so hard now, but you will be ok. Find someone more worthy of you!

Answer 4

I experienced d same thng wd my bf. At first I thot i cnt possibly let go of him. But i did. He rejected my calls, didnt reply my texts...he completely ignored me.
But one time, i sent him these words... "You're hurting me. If you want me out of your life, just tell me so I can move on." He called and we talked. Then we really did broke up. It wasn't easy coz I really loved him. But I'd rather be loveless than be in a relationship feeling unloved. I know not everyone will agree with my next move but this is what i did. I concentrated on all the mistakes he had done. On all his flaws and weakness. And told myself that I dont need a guy like that. It was hard. But when you'll overcome it, you'll realize that what you're loving now is not the guy anymore but your happy moments with that guy.
But before you decide to let go, talk to him first. Find a way to talk to him coz maybe there are things betwin u that just need a little conversation.
God bless you!
Crying will help you. It helped me a lot. Tears really comfort the heart...

Answer 5

It's really hard to let go without closure but sometimes that's not an option......I am sorry he never gave you any sort of explanation and just cut you out of his life, that is cold. But use this as a tool.....he is a prick, so everytime you begin to feel bad, think of all the bad things he has done.

Perhaps this sounds petty or stupid but this technique is literally what got me thru my husband walking out on me and our 4 kids. I was overcome with emotion and could only think of the good times, glorifying them in my head. Once I started thinking of the bad, I realized it wasn't all that great. I still have to do it and he's been gone for more than a year. Good luck

Answer 6

not being rude, but the first step is to stop chasing him completely. What you have been doing isn't working, so why debase yourself? You are not going to feel good about this tomorrow or the next day. Something has happened lately, that is for sure. So many things...he may never have felt towards you as you do towards him, he may have been fooling himself and he can no longer do it, no matter...let it go. If it is meant to be, he will come around...but do not sit and wait for that to happen, get on with life..there are lots of others out there waiting for you to walk into their lives. And please do not be in a rush to fall in love again...it will not be real, wait until you have healed, for if you don't, you will be the one who refuses to return text messages, phone calls, and emails....good luck

Answer 7

There's an old saying... The best way to get over someone is to get under someone!

Seriously now... Unfortunately time is the only thing that will help you. It's like a drug - At first, you'll get sick to your stomach, nauseous, night sweats, uncontrollable crying... and then one day, after about a couple of weeks, you wake up and he's not the first thing you think about. And that's when you know that you'll be OK.
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Answer 8

"if you love someone set them free... if they come back it's meant to be" Take care of you and let him be the next one to make contact. It can be really hard but you can't wait around for someone who may or may not call you back. Keep yourself busy, do things you've wanted to do, hang out with friends and have a good time without him. Maybe he will come around, maybe not. No boyfriend is better than a crappy boyfriend!

Answer 9

Have you ever had someone hang around you that you wished would leave you alone? Remember how annoying it was?
Well, the sad fact is that it takes two people to have a relationship but it only takes one to want out! Ask yourself WHY do you want someone who no longer wants you? You'll be hurt and sad but face the reality and then get on with your life.

Answer 10

let someone else or something else distract you untill the heartache passes. rebound is not the best way but a broken heart is probley more dangerous. women have the power to make there mind up and the heart will follow very quickly never to look back if need be.

Answer 11

i am glad to see i aint the only one that is going through this it is really hard to do but you have to try and think of other things to keep you mind off him or her and you have to distance yourself from the person when you see them it does get easier after a while its has been 2 years for me and i still am stuck on someone that doesn't want me but it isn't as hard as it was before at least her and i still talk and are friends but i think that makes it even harder