I dont like doing things behind my moms back so I dont want to lie about anything. My boyfriend and his family invited me to go to his motocross race next weekend and they are leaving at like 4 or 5 in the morning...earlier than my parents would want to take me to his house. His parents suggested that I just stay the night and sleep on the couch downstairs. I told my mom and she completely flipped out I know she thinks we are going to have sex or whatever but we really arent! Seriously the only reason I want to stay with him is so it wont be as much trouble to leave in the morning. I really will sleep on the couch with him in a different room. I have a week to convince my mom of this and I really want her to trust me what should I say to prove to her that Im responsible enough?
2007-04-28 05:57:04 · 20 answers · asked by ---- 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
have your parents talk to his parents, then it doesn't look as sketchy. by talking to his parents, she will know they aren't going to leave you guys a lone, and it is for a legit purpose. or make them drive you. good luck
2007-04-28 06:01:27 · answer #1 · answered by paintballer6575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm guessing you're in high school.
I think what's getting her is the whole "sleeping on a couch WITH him." This is why you can't be 100 percent honest with her, and since she has already gotten upset, there isn't anything you can do to get around it. There is no way you can convince her you're "responsible" enough to sleep at a boyfriend's house. It has nothing to do with that.
Have his parents talk to your Mom. Hopefully they can compromise.
2007-04-28 13:02:46 · answer #2 · answered by Ask Aunt Amy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she would be willing to take you in the morning. I wouldn't allow my child to sleep over at their boyfriend's house, it is an understandable thing for her to say no. Perhaps your boyfriend's parents could pick you up in the morning. Sure, you can say you'll sleep on the couch, but after his parents go to sleep, he could always sneak into the other room and .. well you know the rest.
Also, if you're truly not wanting to have sex with him this could put you in a dangerous situation if he does decide that he wants to have sex with you after his parents go to sleep.
The thing to keep in mind here is that your mother is looking out for your best interest even though you don't agree with her answer.
2007-04-28 15:12:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should b working on talking your mom into getting up real early and taking you over to his house instead. It's not an issue of whether your mom trusts you or not. It's a matter of keeping you and your boyfriend away from a tempting situation. Your mom is just using common sense and trying to b a good mother. That doesn't mean she doesn't trust you, it just means that she's being a good mother and protecting you. So, again, I think you shoud b working on getting your mother or dad to get up early and take you over to your boyfriend's house in time to catch a ride with them to the race.
2007-04-28 13:06:14 · answer #4 · answered by BadBudha 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask his mom to talk to yours maybe as a mother she could reassure that nothing will be going on. Does your boyfriend have an sisters you could share a room with? If that's a no go then ask your mom if she'd be willing to take you there a 5am and see if she'd rather drag herself up at that time to drop you off. This is all based on the fact that your mom already said you could go to the motor cross races.
2007-04-28 13:11:05 · answer #5 · answered by Kathleen 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your mom sounds like she has little interaction with your BF's parents, because she obviously doesn't trust them to keep things on an even keel. Would it be possible for your BFs parents to pick you up in the morning, or better yet, if your mom doesn't want you to stay at his house, why won't she drive you over there?
2007-04-28 13:04:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have his parents talk to your parents about what kind of safeguards they will have in place to be sure he does not sneak down to visit you on the couch.
(or get a chastity belt . heh)
I think it is great that you are holding off from having sex with him period.
Good luck!
2007-04-28 13:02:10 · answer #7 · answered by blazebrightartist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Mom I will wear this heavy cast iron chastity belt for the rest of my life".
She trusts you, she does not trust him.
Your mother is protecting your reputation.
Stay home and go to the next meet.
Your Mom is right on this one!!!
Kudos Mom.
2007-04-28 23:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by MissUnderstood 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well as much fun as that sounds/ you should respect your mothers decision . to sleep over (with your boyfriend)puts you in a situation where : well it just doesn't look good and rumors could get started even if you don't do anything==maybe his parents can pick you up in the morning
2007-04-28 13:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by mama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If his family invited you they should be willing to pick up up. if not ask her to take you over a 4am so you can go to the race. it's the best your going to get. She may trust you and not your boyfriend. don't take it too personal it's a common sense thing I wouldn't let one of my son's do it.
2007-04-28 13:34:31 · answer #10 · answered by Holly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have his parents call and tell your mom that will MAKE SURE that you wont be in the same room and tell your mom basically all you told us. that or just say fine then will you take me to his house at 4am? that should help! lol
2007-04-28 13:01:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋