so last night i ended up spending the night at my boyfriends house. we had a few to drink, and we were just getting open and talking about things we cared about. it was really nice to just relax and comfortably let our feelings flow. my boyfriend came out and told me 'the other girls i was with dont even compare to you and me...when i was with them i felt a relationship, but not a friendship like we have' he said ive become his bestfriend etc etc....i know he loves me but i dont understand why i have to be compared to his other girlfriends at all! girls, would you be upset? guys...do you agree with my boyfriends statment, are some girls just 'girls that mean nothing' and others 'mean the world' .....?
2007-04-28 03:40:55 · 28 answers · asked by Ash 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i have been with my boyfriend for four and a half years and he still has a tendancy to come out with things like that...."i love you more than anyone else...none of my other girlfriend's were like you"! and yes sometimes its irritating. but my ex husband did it the opposite way..."she was better than you at this and prettier than you in that" and blah blah blah. so it really sounds like he is calling you his number one! and to be his best friend AND his girlfriend is really something special. if he loves you enough to feel this way maybe you can tell him how much you appreciate those feelings but sometimes you aren't comfortable with him making such comparisons outloud too often. i told mine that i loved him dearly and i didn't like to think about him ever being with another girl even though it was before me. it didn't curb it entirely but it did slow it down. why do guys compare at all? who knows. i don't even know if they are aware of it until you point it out. sounds like you may have a keeper though! hang on to him and see what happens. good luck!!
2007-04-28 03:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you reading into this tooooo much. I don't see anything wrong with being compared to other girls and his past relationships. Long as it's positive then I wouldn't mind at all. Actually I ask my bf's how were their past relationship and am I like the other girls they've dated and what made them choose me. I have this thing about me where I always want to be different and I want the bf that I with to feel like our relationship is the best he's had thurst far. I wanna be that girl that sticks out in their head years and years from now or even when they are married and say yeah "she was one of my coolest gf's or one of my best relationships". My ex's and I never really broke up on bad terms, I am still cool with them and mostly all of them always and still to this day when I talk to them, ask could we try again. I say no because I don't go backwards, but the point and moral of the story is to be thankful and happy that your bf feels that way. You will always know that no matter what you will have a special place in his heart.
2007-04-28 04:04:09 · answer #2 · answered by misscancer10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that he didn't mean to actually compare you to the others. It sounds like the relationship is a good one. He said you were his bestfriend as well as his girlfriend. That is how it should be. Besides, you were drinking, and guys say things all the time that they would not normally say when sober (my husband does that every friday night!). Be happy, don't be upset. That would be ridiculous.
2007-04-28 03:46:30 · answer #3 · answered by BamBam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a true case of "Foot in Mouth Syndrome" to me. But you know the guy and we don't so you can judge if it was a really lame line have sex or an attempt however clumsy to compliment you and express his feelings. If your quotes are really accurate then you already put a few words in his mouth and colored them for the worst. Did he actually say the other girls meant nothing or did he say they didn’t compare? One is a pretty callous regard to women and other is a clumsy compliment. I suggest that you take what he said with what he did or wanted to do. Then you can judge his words with his intent.
2007-04-28 03:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I worked with the county medical system and the director had the stats to prove that 80% of the prostitutes on the street were former catholic high school girls. And in my home town EVERYONE knew that if you wanted to score ANYTHING sex, drugs or rock and roll, you headed for the catholic girls acadamay. An interesting fact, when they did some major landscaping at a huge complex that had a seminary on one side and a convent on the other they found several newborn skeletons.
2016-05-20 23:03:08 · answer #5 · answered by layla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's actually the best compliment to get from a guy! You should be happy, if not overjoyed! REALLY! You know how many women would give their last breath to hear that come out of their man's mouth? I understand it sucks that he is comparing you, but he's a guy, that's what they do, that's actually what we all do...don't be mad, that would be the most irrational thing you could do. You should be gloating if anything!
2007-04-28 03:51:07 · answer #6 · answered by gmoney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to tell you how he sees your relationship. Let him know you don't like having your relationship measured against the others. It does sound like he might be trying to say he feels more for you than people he dated before. Either way you both need to be clear about what is going on, preferably before someone misunderstands what's being said. Keep in mind that booze does mess up your brain so he may have wanted to say things better than he did.
2007-04-28 03:47:39 · answer #7 · answered by Acorn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he thought you'd take it as a compliment?
Um...this was kind of a confusing question but he called you his best friend?
Doesn't sound good - but maybe I'm wrong.
I don't know, sounds like he was trying to make you feel as if you are the cream of the crop - out of all the other girls - you can't be compared.
2007-04-28 04:03:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont agree with your boyfridends stament. All girls have something special about them inside.we boys usally just look at the outside of a girl and her physical apperance. Some of us never take the time to get to know the girl inside. We are special through Gods eyes. Take this reply from a boy, who seen and wanted to date beautiful girls, but rejected others.
2007-04-28 03:49:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel complimented by that. It means that he loves you a lot more than just as a girlfriend - he loves you as a friend as well, which means that you can get an even stronger relationship and you'll benefit from that.
2007-04-28 03:44:29 · answer #10 · answered by volume.10 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋