Feeling at the end of my rope...?

Question

God help me, here I go....

I've been dealing with clinical depression, anxiety, and OCD for a few years now, through high school and college. They seem to have followed me to adulthood and I just feel as though I'm at my wits end.

I recently moved about an hour away from home to start a career with high hopes of a new life, a clean slate, and people liking me for who I am. I mean, I'm an adult now, right? People should appreciate that I have a career, am a nice person with high morals, and not care I wasn't the captain of the cheerleading squad. It should be easy to make friends.

Wrong. I feel just as lonely as before, if not more. I swore up and down I would make friends here and go out; I have yet to make a single friend. I approached a guy that was giving me signs of liking me on transit, and now he acts like he hates me, too. I don't know why people just don't like me.

I feel so disengaged from my God, and so alone. My depression is acting up full force, and I

just don't know what to do. I've been on medicine and in therapy before and I don't feel like they've helped.

I just want to be normal, what can I do?

Answer 1

Try diving into Louise Hay's book YOU CAN HEAL YOUR LIFE.... I know it has helped me. And maybe you are trying too hard my dear. Just relax and be yourself. Spend some time trying to find yourself as well.. you've just gone through being and doing what your parents wanted, being and doing what the education system wants, now you are trying to be and do as your career dictates. You are young yet...enjoy some time trying to discover who you are and what kinds of things you truly enjoy on your time off. As you discover these things, it will be surprising how people will just start to come into your life.... don't rush it all though. I had some of the same anxieties when I started to work a new career many hours away from home.. and slowly I am starting to get to know co-workers and other people in that community. It will get better.. I can promise you that. Email me any time if you need some words of encouragement.

Answer 2

Do not give up!! .When others treat you badly because you are shy or a good person. They do so because they have a lot of problems- not you!!!!!.This is done to make themselves feel better .Always the sign of a loser.
I have set my standards for friends these days very high .I know longer put up with the person with anger problems. The freak who talks endlessly about how great they are .The women who feel they need to tell me every couple of hours that men hate tall thin women with long hair. (I wonder why they are always alone if that is true) the loser who can not be bothered to help homeless animals the list goes on..

Think about why they are this way?? I have had depression my whole life .I am very dyslexic and have ADHD-- Heck you can just about name a LD I have it ,It sucks--I am not doing it to wreak everyones day ,when people act like I am .It is very telling remember that!!!

I came from a very abusive home and was the poor kid in a rich area.It sucked.But you know what? .Once I saw these people for who they really are!! I learned alot. they are scared and ugly- inside and out. ( once you know what to look for they are open as a book!!!)
If they need to put someone down for being shy or a good person that is the only place they are coming from ,end of story!!! they fall much harder than you ever will !!
.Sent your standards high .I still fight depression everyday its not easy.But I do the best I can .Do not sell yourself short

Answer 3

If you have clinical depression you should seek the advise of a psychiatrist, however, you can also do a few of the following. Exercise (even walking 30 minutes) in the morning. Add whatever other exercise you like. Do imagery. Tell yourself you are a good person! God does not create junk! Also, pray and ask God to take away the effects of mental illness. He can move mountains - remember? Develop a relationship with your God, he is waiting for you to come around. Good Luck

Answer 4

First of all, go to your family doc honey. Make sure there is nothing physically going on. Your doc will suggest a therapist possibly.

God is not disengaged from you. Keep your Faith in Him strong, He won't fail you. I promise.

Feel free to contact me anytime. I'm on line three times a day working. I'll be here at some point. I have also prayed for you and will continue to do so that you find peace. My best to you.

Answer 5

Family doctor to psychiatrist for definitive diagnosis and meds; then to therapist with phd. Don't half do this; throw yourself in to getting better and along the way to recovery you WILL meet people while feeling better. Make the appt today and if you are really low then go to ER and get referred to psychiatrist through them. You have suffered long enough.

When you are feeling better you will have more energy, a more optomistic view on life and you can join some clubs. So...what is stopping you....get started. If you have trouble affording the therapy have the doctor/psychiatrist refer you to mental health clinic where you can get services for free. Take your life back.

ps finding the med that works for you can take time; but well worth it.

Answer 6

You ARE normal! But please don't judge yourself by how other people react towards you. You have to start really, really loving and appreciating yourself FIRST and then you'll authomatically attract likewise people. I believe that you unconsciously send out signal saying "I'm depressed and people don't like me" - this is so easy to pick up, you don't need to be a psychic. Go to a coffee shop, study some of the guests there and guess what they think about themselves - I'm sure you get it right!
You sound like an intelligent, smart young person - treat yourself like that! Be your OWN best friend - what would you do?
My best wishes

Answer 7

You are dealing with clinical depression, anxiety and OCD- are you on any anti-depression meds? This is key....your problem appears to be physiological, not social or emotional. If you are taking meds, they should be checked by MD or pharmacist for effectiveness. The correct meds would make all the difference in your day-to-day ability to cope. Confidence, relaxation and zest of life are what we all strive for. I'm sure you will get there..take care

Answer 8

The problem with moving to a new place to start over is that you always take you there with you. So, if you weren't happy in the place that you were at then it is likely that it will be just as hard where you are going. Just by ready your question is seems to me that you are a very inteligent person with alot of good hearted feelings, so maybe you have to just believe in yourself first and the friends and other things will come later. Try not to rush things as well....part of being OCD is that we always want to control every situation and that just isn't possible...we have to learn to stop trying to control thing and become more permeable to our enviroment. I feel that our desire to try to control makes us more miserable than anything else in this world....just a prison that we put ourselves in. Keep your head up and try hard to stay positive.

Answer 9

i saw this question in your profile but i will just say this.. i have the exact same thing!

my work load was tearing me apart, but me growing up was also as bad, being kicked out of home twice and living with a witch i had to call step mum. i grew up havin not so many friends. being locked in my room all the time and never really getting the justified grades i deserved, i felt hated..

when it came to the end of high school i had made loads of friends and now im alittle more happy but my depression comes back every now n then, even i am considering seeing a doctor.

I have OCD and a thing where as i just dont like when people invade my privacy or move my things around, having been cornered for alot of life and being looked down on etc ive grown up to just protect myself.

even people think im cold at times, or greedy because i dont spend much money but this is because i want to be independant.

and when i met a girl of my dreams this year at college she seemed the perfect girl. we spoke n spoke and it looked like we would end up together. but now it would seem she played me along because she never got back to me and i feel now that evryone in my class hates me for makin a move on the one girl i like =[ this makes me want to quit college quicker because i feel humiliated. and rejected. people dont acknowledge me.

its like ive had bad luck all along, to tip things off im not rly a confident person either but i wish i was. this is pretty much my story, hope i dont sound the whiney type. remember its them who are bad not you, they want to feel better than everyone else and thats because they are horrible people. i hate it when im alone too.

this depression also causes me to lose motivation and i cant get out of bed in the morning.

im most likley to see the doctor soon, i think you should too. He can help im sure.

take carex

Answer 10

you must step out and find places where people are! firstly, join a depression support group. think of it...if you are going, that means others~ with careers, and high hopes of having good friends and happiness~ will be there too.
also, identify what your interests are, and become involved witha related program or organization.volunteer!