2007-04-28 03:13:06 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
no kids pick up on that stuff and eventually they will suffer from the negativy the parents give off , they will get used to you being gone and at least when you are together it will be happy times and not memories of arguments.
2007-04-28 03:16:21 · answer #1 · answered by gotta be Stella 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No. I think that if a relationship isn't working then it isn't working. It doesn't matter whether you are married or not, if the relationship is not working I personally feel that it is better to leave the relationship. My parents stayed together for 'the sake of the children' and me and my siblings were surrounded by my parents hatred for one another. By mum would ***** about my dad, and vise versa. We (the children) have grown up not knowing what a stable happy relationship is. I can't blame my parents for bad relationships, but they are supposed to be the first example of a good relationship. If my parents had divorce when we were young, they would have had the time to develop new relationships with other people and we could have witnessed a happy union. Do the kids a favour and separate. It will be hard on them at first, but trust me kids are resilient and will manage as long as both parents are happy and no bitching occurs
2007-04-29 08:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by Darkchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not, children are not clueless, they pick up on everything. You will only hurt your children more if they know you are staying in a marraige for them but you and your spouse are constantly fighting, etc. They want to see their parents happy, I had to go through a divorce and my children live with me and see their father and this way we are both happier, and treat each other with respect and get along for the childrens sake. We are not under the same roof fighting all the time (it takes a toll on the kids). If you divorce you can work out custody and/or visitaton and your kids will be okay.
2007-04-28 21:55:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no way if he ant happy theres no way he should stay for the sake off the children this will be loads of heart ache all round children pick up on parents feelings as well has there own let him move and find some where to live and then have the children t weekends or something best luck hope all works out...x
2007-04-28 10:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by skye 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No definately not, but he should always maintain good contact both for his sake and the childrens, A couple staying together for the sake of the children can sometimes do more harm especially if there is alot of srguing in the home. Chilldren do pick up on bad vibes even if there is no arguing.....
2007-04-28 10:19:05 · answer #5 · answered by McCanns are guilty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No if things are not right at home then for the sake of the children go your separate ways. the children will get over it and be a lot happier, they will still have two parents that love them and both parents and children will get on a lot better
2007-04-29 17:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you can live together without constant arguing, yes.
If you fight or shout at each other a lot, the children will be affected emotionally so it can be better to seperate and share custody.
But if you can and are willing to be friends for the sake of the children, it would be the better option. Children often blame themselves for their parent's divorce, many develop behaviour problems. Their school work suffers. Young children can regress to bedwetting. To have both parents together gives a sense of belonging, a sense of security and stability.
As a teacher, I have seen many children from both situations. The children that suffer the most are the children living in a home where the parents are constantly fighting, shouting at each other and / or using the children as a means to hurt each other. In that case, it is far better to seperate.
But children of parents that have agreed to remain together and be civil, are generally better off than children who's parents have divorced. So if you can work it out, please do. Marriage has its ups and downs, with some give and take a lot of issues can be sorted and peace made. You just need to work out your priorities.
2007-04-28 10:22:31 · answer #7 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No No No, you have to remember the most important thing which is that as parents you are examples for your children. If the relationship is verbally abusive or even physically, you are not setting the best example. It is better for the children to see you get along seperatley, rather than not get along together. You want your children to know what it is like to be a part of a healthy relationship.
2007-04-28 10:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by midgee81 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in most cases no i dont agree with it. You cant just stay with someone for your kids sake.\The chances are if you are not getting along your kids will pick up on it and it will have an effect on them so most of the time its best to split up. There are some cases i have seen where the parents dont really love each other anymore but they make it work for their kids sake. As long as it doesnt effect the kids thats whats most important
2007-04-28 10:39:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jessica Rabbit 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no my dad stayed till i was 21 and the heartbreak knowing this was so painful
knowing your parents lived a lie all those years is too painful
as long as you come to an amicable agreement with shared time no bickering in front of the children no bad mouthing the each other the children will accept it better
hope nthis helps
life is too short to play silly games
2007-05-02 06:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by chefstress 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the parents need to grow up and get along for the sake of the children and be less selfish!!
2007-04-28 10:19:44 · answer #11 · answered by Georgia Peachy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋