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A guy who i like is 23
iam 17

i told him how i felt he replied he liked me back and wanted us to work something out toghter.

He said things like
i dont see these feelings going away...
i would be an idiot to let u slip away...
if it were down to me youd be my girl ect

and i was really pleased
some issues are
he is friends with my bro and sis who are alot older also my brother in law and knows my parents well.

and i am so much younger

i text him agian saying id been thinking about what was said ect

and replyed he didnt want to jepordise any frienships ..
wanted to leave it for now
then he said he would be there for me and maybe we should chat!

i am so confused does he like me or was he trying to blow me of, if he was ehy didnt he do so when i first text him.

i still really want him and need to talk to him but i dont want to seem needy.

helpo please

Answer 1

Well, it doesn't really matter what others think. It comes back to what the 2 of you want to do. If he really loves you and wants to be with you, he will wait until your 18 if that presents a problem, otherwise, he wasn't all that serious. Just be together if that is what the 2 of you really want.

Neurotically Yours,
NightSpawn

Answer 2

Awwww. I completely understand. I always seemed to like the guys that were older. When I was seventeen my boyfriend was 21, and at the time that was huge, so I can imagine what you are fearing with him being 23. The family is definitely NOT going to approve, at first. But if things do get off the ground, eventually they will get over it. Because as you get older, even in just a year, when you are 18 and he 24, its not that big a deal.

I dont think he is thinking about trying to blow you off, he is probably genuinely concerned about upsetting you family. He may have talked to someone after you guys messaged each other, and that person may have warned him off. That may be why he is suddenly acting colder. I would just keep up things as they were, friends and all, for just a little while, and if he has true feelings for you, he wont be able to keep them hidden for long.
But if you just cant help yourself, then maybe wait week, and then you could ask talk to him face to face.
Say something like, "I have been thinking alot about this, and I know you have reservations because of our age, but I know how I feel, and if you feel the same then I think we should just let it happen. Eventually our families will see that we really care about each other. I dont want to hide it because that will put to much strain on the relationship. But, if you dont want to jeapordize our friendship and your put your friendship with my family at risk, even for that little while, then I will understand and step back. Its up to you."

If you talk to him like a grown up then maybe he will be more likely to see that you are mature enough to handle it.

Answer 3

I think he does really like you but he is looking at the
bigger picture. At the moment you are very young
and he has a few years on you. Give it another two
or three years and you are more mature and the age gap
does close the older you get. He is being a 'sensible'
adult here, and I very much respect that. So you stay strong too.
Take it slowly and just be friends. Don't look for any more
than that. This way - you are still free to go out and enjoy
yourself. You will not have anxieties and will not feel needy.
If the family like him - they will be more accepting of him but
a little later on.

Answer 4

You asked this yesterday, I remember. I had a similar experience at about the same age. He is being kind to you - very kind. He probably REALLY likes you. However, from the blokes point of view there are two problems.
1. The age gap in HUGE at the moment. I know it sounds silly but when you are 20 and he is 25 the age gap won't matter.
2. Your brother (and possible your father) will KILL him. You are young and other males will expect him (at his age) to be very sexually active. "Treat 'em mean & keep 'em keen" This will cause friction as your brother will be happy for his mate to shag anyone but not his sister.
He could easily tell you to F off but he is being gentle and caring.......could very much be a man for the future.
I hope you don't feel too rejected as you sound like a nice person.

xxR

Answer 5

Well babe, i do think that he likes you as much as you like him but it sounds like he is genuinely worried about how this relationship will be taken by everyone.
I know he said that he would be a fool to let you slip away but he has probably thought about the consequences of dating you and thought it would be too much for your family and his to except.
Please don't take this as a rejection because it isn't, he does like you but just doesn't want to jeopardise his friendship with you or your family. Maybe if you both can wait till you are a little older then maybe you can see how it goes at being more than friends.
Good luck babe xxx

Answer 6

i would suggest that like you he is concerned about the age gap --- and while it may seem large at this point as you get older it will become less important

i can agree with him in wanting to wait --- there are many problems at this point and if your feelings are real and deep then waiting maybe a few years before getting into a romantic relationship will not hurt --- you can still be friends --- best wishes for now and the future

Answer 7

He does like u. He just knows there will be trouble ahead with your family if things don't work out. Why not see if you can chat to him... ask him why he changed his mind... if he tells you what I have said, maybe you could suggest spending time together without necessarily telling your family...That way if it doesnt last long then no one is any the wiser... and If it does last then you wont be scared to let your family know.
good luck xx

Answer 8

he likes u but in his eyes ur jail bait cuz ur 17 and hes 23 he probably want to wait till ur 18 cuz u noe then ur an adult and he cant go 2 jail for doin anything wit u and u u dont wanna seem desperate when u talk 2 him if he doesnt reply to ur messages wait a few days to message him again trust me

good luck :)

Answer 9

You really need to ask him to be on the level.
At first it sounds like he is all ready for a relationship, and then it sounds like he has time to think, and is a bit wary.
He has to be honest, if he really does like you, he won't care what others think.
Also, there is a age gap, but you are 17, so the gap is fine :-)

Answer 10

I hate to burst your bubble but some guys really have the gift of gab. They string you along with pretty words and are really playing you. Be careful, this one sounds like he really has his technique down pat. he will probably chat with you awhile to tease you and then turn on the charm again. If he does this see it as a warning sign, and again please be careful with this.