About two months ago I met this guy. We hit it off pretty well and we ended up sleeping together. At first what seemed like a booty call, now seems like more. We don't just mess around anymore. We now go out and just enjoy being with each other. I know I made the mistake of telling him how I felt about him a couple of weeks ago, but I guess you can't help your feeling. Problem is he said he didn't feel the same at the time. Next problem..last week he slipped up and called me his girlfriend..I asked him what meant by that. He said "Well I don't do what I do with you with my friends, and you are a girl and my friend. Well your kinda of the space in between friend with a benefit and a girlfriend!" MY big problem is...what is that space between a special friend and a girlfriend, if there is such a thing. I'm so confused and don't know what to do anymore.
2007-04-28 01:49:35 · 6 answers · asked by CeCe 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Quit thinking! One of the problems today is folks think to much. He was honest with you - he doesn't want the commitment just yet, but it will get there eventually. He just needs more time. You are well on your way to becoming the official girlfriend and I wouldn't be worrying about there being anyone else. He seems pretty stable with what he has, he just needs to bring himself to accepting the commitment a "girlfriend" entails. Sometimes things just show up in our lives that we don't expect. Every person adjusts to their new surroundings differently. Time is the key here. Don't stress. It will all work out in the end.
2007-04-28 02:00:54 · answer #1 · answered by pagudus6669 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he's scared to admit commitment.? "the space between friend with a benefit and a girlfriend" would mean just that. You're more than a friend as he doesn't have sex with his friends...but your'e not his girlfriend cuz he obviously doesn't know what that is...so you're the inbetween of that.
I would just talk to him and say.....how you feel. IF you're fine with this arrangement (hanging out and having sex ) then ok..but not his girlfriend, therefore if he meets someone else...he can have the same thing...."she'll be another space in between friends with benefits and a girlfriend"
Ask him what his definition of a 'girlfriend is" cuz you have the 'space inbetween friend with benefits " down packed*
Best wishes*
2007-04-28 08:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to talk to him where your relationship with him stands at. Sounds like he likes you too and you like him very much. Nowadays people get confused because some call it friends with benefits, some people don't realize they are in a relationship and they haven't gave it a label. If you felt that way about him, then why not make it official that you guys are boyfriend and girlfriend.
2007-04-28 08:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make it very clear to him that you are looking to have a relationship with him. Ask him to be specific in how he feels about you. Don't get mad or pushy. Just tell him you want to move the relationship to the next level and wish to be exclusive. Then, see what he says. If he gives you the run around, then leave.
2007-04-28 08:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just friends with benefits right now. If you're fine with the situation, then just go with the flow. I don't like FWBs they tend to be very one-sided, and one person ALWAYS catches feelings. If you can pleasure him in all the ways a girfriend does: sexually, emotionally, mentally...why not just give you the title? I suspect he's just using you.
2007-04-28 08:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain on this one, sister! I am dealing with almost the exact same thing at the moment with a guy who I've got a major crush on who claims he doesn't feel that way about me, but last night we slept together and he was all cuddly and kissy and telling me my skin was "so smooth" and cuddling afterwarsd for over an hour.. damn guys, it's SO hard to read them !!! good luck with him!!
2007-04-28 08:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by embryonicreject 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋