9 year old in diapers?

Question

How can i make changing my 9 year old sons diaper easier? He will not allow me to do it, it is a very big struggle just to change him. We have tried pull ups but the diapers with the refastenable tabs work best for us changing him (if he lets us). We have tried giving him a distraction when changing like giving him a toy to play with or a book to look at. We have tried singing, and telling him a story, but he is still struggling. How can i make it easier for me and him?

my son has the mentality of a 1 year old

he is physically and mentally disbled. all that he can do is scream, cry, grunt, kick, sit if propped up and has just started to roll. i just want the best for my son.

i dont like to use pull ups on him because he kicks too much and can not get them up his legs. thats why the ones with the refastenable tabs work best for us

Answer 1

I have a mentally challenged child also however due to her disease progression she no longer fights during changes and we use pull ups on her. A friend I meant through one of her therapies has an adorable little boy with Angelman Syndrome and they would have to end up fighting with him the way you are fighting your son. In the end she ended up giving him the top off the wipe container, something small to keep his hands busy, talking to him and making faces at him {because he would repeat the faces not the words}. She's also learned to be VERY quick she must be the quickest diaper changer in the south! I have an 11 month old neurologically intact baby and he is also a squirmier so I followed her lead which I learned from her years ago and when I'm making faces at him or shaking my head {he usually repeats it} he'll lay still. Anyhow her son Andrew is now 15, and it is still working for her. Also if your son goes to therapy of any sort or any clinics such as CP clinics or clinics for developmentally delayed at hospitals you can ask the therapists there for more suggestions. Good luck..By the way don't you love how most ppl always assume AUTISM!

Answer 2

Do you mean 9 years or 9 months? If it's 9 months, then I know the feeling. My 2 year old is the same but luckily old enough to be in the middle of toilet training and she can be told she's a big girl etc and she seems to listen sometimes. She still doesn't like getting the nappy on but I do it as quickly as I can and just make her. I just use disposables too because it is so much easier. Hopefully it's a faze that he will grow out of soon. If distraction doesn't work, then there may not be much else you can do except be patient and keep trying and doing it anyway whether he likes being changed or not. Personally I often wonder why they choose to be dirty because what an awful feeling - wouldn't they rather be clean?

Answer 3

I grew up with one of my friends, her sister was like a baby at 5-6 years old and in diapers, couldn't sit up. Her father was determined to help her advance, he would come home from work everyday and work with her. Exercising her legs, arms, encouraging her to progress. It took him along time but she progressed to walking (though, ackwardly, she walks which is a miracle), toilet trained (that took awhile as well).

She's 36 y/o old now, though mentally handicapped she still remembers who I am, when I visit.

I can only wonder at the struggles that you must go through on a daily basis. But continue to work with your child and don't give up hope that you won't be able to train him, keep trying.

As far as the diapers, try engaging him in the process have him hold the wipes (that are not in the box) for you, encourage him for doing a good job.

If he's ripping the diapers off, try turning them around backwards (I had to do that for my son when he found out he much rather preferred going buck naked at 1 and half).


Best of luck!

Answer 4

Do you actually mean 9 MONTH old?? If nothing else works, hold him tight and change it as fast as possible.

EDIT: Sorry, didn't know the details. I really don't know what can help. He will get even stronger as he grows up so that might become even harder. Is there anything at all that can hold his attention? Songs, a cartoon, anything that will distract him for a while. You can choose a nice DVD with simple songs and lots of colors and show it many times until he starts liking it. Then maybe you can use it as a distraction.

Answer 5

Have you tried food? I worked at a summer camp with a 10 year old with Aspergers. He was very happy to stay still for a pop tart. Sometimes its just a matter of finding the right distraction. Whatever happens, get some help. Does he let your husband/partner do it? Find a support group in your area or online. People who have been there have the best advice. Good luck.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

hi there i am really sorry to hear your story and my heart goes out to you and your whole family. how long has this been happening for? if it is only recent could something have triggered him off like a fright, a bad reaction, constipation or something out of routine. i would suggest try and get into a routine like changing his diaper or pullup after a meal or a drink and try and make it fun for him like in his favorite room, on top of his favorite blanket, infront of the telly. maybe you could also show him you changing your underwear and then do the same for him. i only say this beacause i read your statement when you said he is like a 1 year old. at this stage of age they learn by seeing and repitition by their providers. also get in contact with your pedi or gp and they could probably open up mor avenues for you. take care and all the best.

Answer 8

ok...we need more information...why is your 9 year old son in diapers?? what are his physical and mental (dis)abilities?? it sounds like quite a challenge for you...give us more info, so we can better help you...if he's 9 months old, that's a different story...
EDIT: do you have a support group?? is there an agency that can help you out with these issues?? i would hope he was being seen by an agency, and they should be giving you suggestions....please look into it if he's not...your pediatrician should be referring him to all the agencies in your area...

Answer 9

im so sorry to hear about your son but i can clearly see that you love him and just want whats best for your son. Have you recently changed the brand of diaper you are using? Or the brand of baby wipes? Maybe he has had a reaction to them and is in pain.

Answer 10

If your child is still in diapers cuz he has medical condition that prevents potty training him then I would suggest using pull-ups cuz he does not have to be laying down to put them on or take them on. Its actually really easy to get a pull-up off by just pulling them apart at the seams on the sides.

Hope this helps.