Do you want to get a guy to be crazy for you, just as you are for him? You have to be very patient, especially if you feel like you want to take it to a level beyond just curious interest. Here are some helpful hints on how to charm a guy, while still being yourself.
Steps
1. Be yourself - whether you're goofy, silly, crazy, or whatever. You've seen this advice before, and you'll see it again. Develop your identity as an individual and stick with it. There's no point in getting him to like someone you're not--you're only setting yourself up for disappointment (not to mention him!). Guys like confident, interesting girls who have their own lives.
2. Get his attention. He can't fancy you if he doesn't know you exist. If you haven't caught his eye yet, then get him to notice you. You've got to walk before you run, right?
3. Make conversation. Take an interest in who he is--what he likes, where he's coming from, where he wants to go--and show him who you are, too. While some guys don't like to talk that much, it's nearly impossible for someone to like you if he doesn't get to know you--unless he "likes" you for all the wrong reasons.
4. Crack a joke. Having a good sense of humor makes everything better. That doesn't mean you should be a giggling fool, laughing at everything that crosses your path. Rather, learn how to find the ironies in life and point them out in a witty and interesting way. It's much easier to like someone who you can have a good laugh with once in a while.
5. Do things together. If he loves rock-climbing, ask him if he can show you how, and make a good-faith effort to see why he's so into it. Have an open mind. Find out what you have in common, and include him in your world. If you love a certain kind of music, ask him if he's ever listened to a particular artist and offer to play a CD for him. Finding activities that you can enjoy together can really lay down a bond and further his appreciation of you.
6. Be an all-around great person. If you focus on being a clean, motivated, kind, and humorous individual, how can anyone resist? Some guys might be intimidated, and they're too insecure to be worth your interest anyway. But it's only a matter of time before a guy who can like you for who you really are will come around and see that you're an awesome person to be around.
7. Have patience. These things take time. You can't force someone to like you, and trying to hurry things up can ruin the courtship altogether. Give him some space and don't be obsessive. Let things progress at a natural pace, or fade out of natural causes.
8. Pay attention. Eventually he'll tell you one way or another whether or not he's interested in reciprocating your affection.
Tips
* Some people prefer being friends first, others prefer to avoid the "just a friend" zone. Ideally, you can be a little bit of both--a friend and a romantic interest.
* Keep in mind that you cannot control what other people think and do. He may be the object of your interest, but that does not create any obligation that you be his. Turn the situation around. If there was some random guy who took an interest in you, is there anything that he could do to make you like him? Probably not. You will like him or not. You will find him attractive or not. You will find him funny or not. All he can do is try to be the best person he can be, and hope that you agree. The reverse is also true. Be the best person you can be, and let it develop--or not--from there.
* Don't talk about your other prospective guys with the guy you're interested in. It's just not good form, and it's a good way to get rid of him.
* If there is no sign of him being interested in you, that doesn't necessarily mean that he isn't interested. He could just be shy, or be a little frightened, especially if he hasn't dated anyone for a long time.
* Show him the ways you would be a good mate, not just a fun moment. Looking nice and being friendly is important, but guys generally look for more than pretty and available in a long term partner.
* It doesn't hurt to look good, dress well and have good hygiene. This'll give you the confidence you need to flirt with him.
* Flirt physically. Touch his arms or shoulder when talking to him, do it like nothing's wrong. He will like it and even it will motivate him to ask you out.
* Try not to blush too much, though some guys think that's cute. If you can't help it, then just try not to be looking at him at the time. If you are looking at him, make it obvious you were looking at him by quickly looking away. Make sure he can see you blush.
Warnings
* Don't play stupid mind games or send mixed signals. This confuses the guy and has tons of potential for self-embarassment.
* Do not tell your friends about him. They will immediately start staring at him and start giggling and chatting and so on. No matter what you say to them, they will look at him. The worst case scenario is when your friends go off on their own and start pestering the guy with a whole lot of questions that all sound a lot like 'What do you think of Jessica?'. This will send him packing.
* Trying too hard to "get" a specific person to like you can be manipulative, something that no one finds attractive or wants to be the object of.
* If these steps work a little too well and he comes on too strong, let him know to take it easy and don't do anything you feel uncomfortable with.
* Don't confuse kindness with him liking you. Sometimes it's hard to tell the difference, but be attentive and you'll figure it out.
* Be prepared for rejection or lack of interest. Sometimes you might be incompatible in ways that you don't see, and sometimes a guy just isn't ready for a long term relationship. Don't take rejection too personally. It happens. Not everyone in the world is going to like you.
* If he is dating someone else, he is completely off limits. Respect him by not tempting him to get involved with someone else.
Good Luck!!
2007-04-27 22:28:21
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answered by Anonymous
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well, I ask myself that question b4. But there's nothing u can do 2 get the boy like u. U can't force some1 2 like u! The best way is... Just b urself! Just be friends with him. Be nice, be sweet and be a realy good friend! Dont do the things that he dislikes. And give him the best conversation ever!
2007-04-28 05:25:07
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answered by Just me! 3
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it depends on what type of boy, Majority of them you only need to simply look the better then any other girl, or have a big behind or big breats, and very few of them want a girl to be with out of love, for boys will be boys if you want a meaning relationship i suggest to not give up your innocence until you become a young woman and men are more mature id say bout 22
some good advice is
If a guy says he doesnt care about sex then, he's a lier its nature for a boy esspeacially to care for those things.
Now about flirting flirting is good but with a boy it erupts his ego, so take a note of that.
Do not expose to much of your feelings towards a guy then he'll feel as if he is a pimp if you makle him feel to loved, then he'll think he';s in control.
2007-04-28 05:18:51
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answered by Anonymous
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You can't really get someone to like you unless you become flirtatious with them, get somewhat physical (nothing too krazy now u dog), and just hint tothem that you LIKE them...smile at them, look down and back up and when they see you and u will blush...
guys can pick up on these things sometimes...
OH and MOST importantly, please be YOURSELF.
2007-04-28 05:14:55
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answered by Anonymous 3
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