My 4 year old daughter accidently saw my husband and I having sex.....
My husband is a young doctor, so when he comes home he is exhausted. So lately, we've been having sex in the morning before our children wake up.....well, we didnt lock our door and our daughter came walking in, she told us she heard wierd sounds coming from our room and woke up......Is it possible our daughter knew what we were doing?
2007-04-27 18:50:17 · 42 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, now would be a good time (depending on her age) to explain a little of what mommy and daddy were doing! But dont be totally vulgar or blunt. Just say that when two people love each other...yada yada yada...dont be totally vague either. If she has questions, answer them. But she needs to know the honest truth, because if she doesnt, she will unfortunately learn it elsewhere because this world is a different one than the one we grew up in! I hope you get it resolved. Best of luck!
2007-04-27 18:54:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Relax...all children hear the weird noises and go observe. Some see something and some don't. I walked in on my parents watching a porn and thought the guy was fixing the girl's butt with a really huge finger. I was in kindergarten.
She really is very young to know exactly what was going on. Just sit her down and reassure her that Mommy and Daddy are okay and that you two know all about the noises and she need not be afraid of them. I guarantee that the noises probably scared her and she wanted to make sure that her parents were okay. Tell her not to get out of bed when she hears them, and that you and your husband will take care of it. if that's too much, tell her it was the tv or radio or something. Or, if you're really brave you can try to explain the birds and bees to her without going into all the detail. That's a big decision, though. Just reassure her that the noises are normal and you and your husband will take care of it! Also, try to remember to lock your door.
2007-04-27 18:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by no_name_jane 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh I can only imagine how you must be feeling. But I think at four youre fine saying as the other poster said, that daddy was hugging mommy. I bet she didnt say much about it right? Its just that how can that be? "My baby seeing me having sex?!!" I think it was probably a lot more traumatic for you. Hang in there good mommy, this isnt the only embarrassing thing thats going to happen being a mom! LOL Oh I know, its so much fun isnt it?? LOL yeah but we wouldnt trade it for anything, its the best!
2007-04-27 19:01:26 · answer #3 · answered by ♥☼♥☼♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She’s too young to know what you all were doing and will forget it sooner then later. But hey at least you’re not like that one lady who posted about her 3 year old son walking in on her having an affair with the Child's dentist.
2007-04-27 20:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
attempt to recollect lower back to once you have been basically 4 years old, could you have had any concept what intercourse became into at that age? it is enormously no longer likely. Your daughter is youthful adequate to settle for that mammy and daddy have been taking part in a grown united statesrecreation. probability is she became into nonetheless sleepy and did no longer see something besides. it ought to be nicely worth beginning off to introduce privateness on your daughter, issues like knocking in the previous getting into your room - to steer away from a repeat overall performance. i think of you will locate that had you locked the door your daughter could have been apprehensive whilst she got here across she could no longer get in after listening to the strange sounds.
2016-10-13 23:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oooops! BIG oooops!!! I can remember things from when I was 4 years old, so your daughter may also. Too bad. Maybe you should move to a house where her bedroom and yours are at opposite ends.
2007-04-27 18:54:37 · answer #6 · answered by Constant Reader 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe. It depends on her level of thinking. But I don't think that it would be a problem. If she ask any more questions you have to answer. Even if she didn't ask any question it will be on her mind. You don't have to lie that sex is bad. But try to make her understand that it is done only by married people, and/or grown up people. I think you better tell her.
She needs to be understood that it is not a child's play.
2007-04-27 19:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not at 4 - at four you guys were simply playing doctor fix mommy's owie - wait a few years and if she walks in then be concerned.
2007-04-27 18:52:57 · answer #8 · answered by MysticalMinds 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, don't worry, my friend was making love with her husband one Sat. morning, their young sons always watch tv- always! well she turned to the side and her little boy was watching them! she thought oh no! he's scarred for life- but all he said was; 'mommie when you're done doing that can I have a glass of milk?' ---point is he din't know what he was watching.
2007-04-27 20:08:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt a four year old knew what she was seeing...the best thing to do would be to explain that she saw something that mommies and daddies do in private, and to knock before entering :)
2007-04-27 18:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by rita_alabama 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋