I need someone's help before it's too late! I am contemplating suicide!?

Question

My life is a mess. I graduated with a business degree from the university 3 years ago and I still haven't been able to find a decent paying job. I'm 26 years old and still live home with family because I do not earn enough money for a place of my own. I'm completely frustrated and unhappy!! What's worse as well is that I am a lonely individual without much friends. I do everything alone. My social life is terrible, which as a result may be the reason why I never had a girlfriend. I've been walking in a dark tunnel for many years...and it's getting worse and worse as the years go by...there is no light in sight. I did not sign up for this lifestyle. What else is there to live for???

Answer 1

Stop beating yourself up over the past. Remember many 26 year olds have no job, girlfriend, or social life. You likely have some type of deppresive condition that you have suffered with most of (all of) your life, and this is preventing you from living a normal life. It is difficult for you to get help, since you probably don't have health insurance, but if you can seek proffesional help, please do so.
Your life is not a mess! you have a degree, which is a far greater accomplishment than about 75% of your peers have acheived. You have a skill that will allow you to be a productive member of society, and in america we need more of your type. A good job, girlfriend, and a social life are not pre-requisites for happiness. Many have none of these things and are perfectly content. But being depressed is putting you at a serouis disadvantage in obtaining these things in life.
Perhaps you need a radical change in your lifestyle.
You must associate yourself with good people. You must find a higher purpose in life, maybe this is finding god, or maybe it is helping others. You may want to join a church group or do volunteer work. This will put you in contact with good people that will help you overcome your problems.
If you have knowledge of a foreign language you could even join the peace corps or sometype of volunteer work in another country. This will give you a purpose and trust me, will lead to happiness. You have lived far too secluded and this is giving you a false sense of hopelessness.
I have known several people including close family members and friends who have taken their own life. You cannot fully understand the harm you will cause your loved ones if you give up. Please before you give up, you must make every attempt to change your situation.

Answer 2

Speaking from experience. I lost someone to suicide. And 15 years later it still ruins my life for the most part. If he had waited a few more months his life could have been what he had wanted it to be. He gave up too soon.

There is nothing worth killing yourself for. What is a job? What is money? What is a girlfriend? I mean you gotta live for you and live for the Lord and for those who love you. Think of what it would do to your family. They would never get over it and never stop blaming themselves no matter what you were to say in a note.

My life is not what i wanted it to be either. But i keep hanging on hoping tomorrow will be different. I pray to God. I try to help others and that makes me feel good. I have hobbies i enjoy.

Seek a Christian couselor or even the Crisis Hotline. There are people who do care. People jut dont seem to know how to show it anymore. You may also have a chemical imbalance. Keep hanging in there and when you start feeling this way, talk to someone. Rent a funny movie. Go to sleep. Anything to keep your mind off of it. I will pray for you.

Answer 3

This is the first time I'm answering anything in this. I don't know what I can do except let you know that someone is reading your question.

If you're thinking of suicide you need to get help. You don't have to live like this. I think you should start with your family doctor. He/she can make sure there is nothing physically wrong that is making this worse. If your parents drive you or pay then you don't have to say why. You can be evasive without lying. Or tell them, depending on what you feel is best.

I don't know if you have a job at all but if you don't, then I think you should find something. Even if it's not in what you want to do for a career. Then find a way to volunteer in what you want for a career. Starting with Volunteering can lead to paying jobs. That can help your social life also.

There is a lot to live for. You can find it. But don't do it alone.

Answer 4

Pierre, you're asking for advice and that makes me believe you still have some hope. I'm VERY impressed that the "answers" community have not challenged your question. I'm 37, currently unemployed, live at home with my Mother and my best friend met a guy online and is getting married in the summer. So YES I understand what you are feeling. Rest assured, as cheesy as it sounds, things DO get better. None of us are lucky enough to "sign up" for a certain lifestyle or the world would be full of people who get to sleep all day and get paid millions for it ; } There will be light and dark days. If nothing else you have the friendship of everyone who cared enough to answer you, and that has to be worth SOMETHING.
We're here to chat, just ask!!!

Answer 5

You must acquire confidence in yourself and your abilities first of all. The job market is not great in our nation at present and it varies depending on where you live. So the second thing to do is stop blaming yourself. Not everything is your fault. Some things just are what they are. Take whatever job you can get until a better opportunity comes along. Your social life will probably improve if you stop being so depressed. People generally don't like being around someone like that because it drags their own mood down. I know where you're coming from man, I contemplated suicide myself about 3 years ago. Do me one favor PLEASE! Before you off yourself, send me an e-mail and give me at least 24 hrs. to respond!! There is always SOMETHING to live for. I will help you in any way I can.

Answer 6

Pierre..life is always a mess..But first of all pick up the pieces.
If you have a business degree, you should be able to find a reasonable job if not what you wish. And save enough to make a small cushion for emergencies. You can fix your target so that you obtain what you need in say, 6 months.
You will feel better and think higher of yourself. your achievements will make you proud and this will walk you through rough spots too.
You will also find people who appreciate qualities that you will project, like persistance, determination. Most likely you are not the many-friends type but you will find people who will be special or make you feel special.

Answer 7

If you are contemplating suicide, you need to seek medical attention immediately. Many ER's offer support in a crisis situation like this.

Many of the symptoms you describe here are very consistent with depression. And depression is treatable. There are many medications that are available that work well, and going through therapy can help change your life as well. With the combination of these, there's a good chance you'll be able to build the life that you want.

Answer 8

What is there to live for you may ask....Well, you said you did not have many friends but how about those few you did have. Think of the impact it would have on them if you did chose to terminate your life. Also, life is throwing obstacles at you just so you can succeed in the end. The object is to succeed and not give up trying. You are giving in you cant. You have to be strong and fight this all. Prove the world and everything wrong, that you can achieve the life you want to live.

Answer 9

As someone who recently almost died in a coma, life is a great gift... There are many hardships and society does not always provide you with the sustenance that your soul requires... But that does not preclude you from seeking it out, living a full life, taking risks... Enjoy the moment. Be thankful for the sheer experience of it all. It is the little things in life that we often overlook. At the very least, be thankful for the simple act of breathing oxygen... Truly, you are very young... You may not believe me - but your whole life is before you to explore and enjoy... Find your passion.

Answer 10

If you are suicidal go to the ER; depression is temporary, heaven is full, and there is good life after depression and the proper treatment.

In the long term; once you get settled on meds and in therapy you can plan to move out; maybe get two roommates which would cure your lack of social life.