Okay, I know this is completely wrong on my part but I just feel guilty. Last summer I broke up with my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years (4 if your counting being best friends) but she always got so upset with me for little things and I was hurt and I just decided to end it because neither one of us was happy with the relationship. So I broke up with her (I admit worst decision I have ever made in my life) and she was upset and depressed, and I felt relieved because I never had to worry about her being mad at me 24/7. Well after 2 months of hanging out with my guy friends and getting over it, I was notified that she was sleeping around with this one dude she has only known for 2 months! It took me 4 years to get to that point with her! So we are now almost back together and I just feel hurt about this and it always comes into my mind when we are getting intimate. And I totally understand why she did it but I just feel depressed. Am I a bad person for blowing this out of proportion? I love h
2007-04-27 17:26:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow, thanks for all the answers! I mean I was kinda jealous and such but I honestly understand what happened. I can honestly be a big jerk about this but I guess it's just me. Everyone is right, I'll have to get over it..and it was my fault in the beginning to leave her. I'm honestly sorry, and I want to make things work out better this time around. Thank you, for all the input makes me feel a little bit better that I'm not a complete jerk.
2007-04-27 17:42:31 · update #1
You seem to have unresolved feelings over it.
It seems your upset it took her only two months for him and four years for yourself. He was just a rebound for her from the break up. It holds no meaning for her over her feelings for you. After all she spent years with you and also now that your back together it is you she is with.
You need to resolve this for yourself and for her sake. It just isnt fair to either of you to let old baggage become part of the relationship. While you were broken up you both led your lives as if you were never going to be part of each other.
2007-04-27 17:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by LC S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this one is tough in a technique. I consider that she should no longer have jumped so rapidly into yet another humans mattress but commonly that is the panic reaction men and women have once they consider they have got lost someone. In the event you have been clear that this was once just a time to take a smash -but remain individual-then she had no right to do what she did. When you broke up, then I suppose she had the correct to sleep with some one nevertheless it does replicate poorly upon her that she did so swiftly after the damage. Dozing with any one does not always mean she's moved on-commonly individuals do this to fill the void when they believe lonely, however I for my part wouldn't need her again. Move on without her and get your self collectively. If she really loves you she is going to come back to you and express regret for dozing with any person else. When you rather love her, then you might try to works things out and also you would forgive her. I'd attempt to move on although-there was once a cause you felt compelled to take a destroy within the first location.
2016-08-11 05:36:37 · answer #2 · answered by bungay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aaaww you sound like a good guy. :)
That is perfectly normal for you to feel hurt. But she was hurt because you dumped her so she went on the rebound to get her mind off of you. People do that sometimes. I know because I have done that in the past. Just have a talk with her and let her know that you are hurt by what she did and you look at her as being sacred and special. Most times these days women/girls dont understand the value of their bodies. So if you love her, talk with her and let her know how that makes you feel. I'm sure she will understand. Communication is the key, so dont break up over petty things to begin with.
Good luck sweetie :)
2007-04-27 17:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave your past behind and stay in the present, just be glad that she's still interested in you since it was you who broke up because of little issues. Who cares of what you've been told about her, remember if you didn't see, than how do you know it's true. Don't make the same mistake twice or you'll lose her for good.
2007-04-27 17:34:32 · answer #4 · answered by J1 M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not a bad person. You obviously still care about her and you can't erase the relationship from your mind just like that, but you need to get over it. What she does is no longer your business, and she is not "sleeping around". Even if she was, it still would be none of your concern. It's time to move on.
2007-04-27 17:30:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but why are you going back with her? You really need to read everything you wrote. What the heck are you thinking going back to her when things will be exactly the same? I have been in a relationship like yours, and it does not ever get any better than it has been in the past.
2007-04-27 17:29:42 · answer #6 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sound like you are jealous that she went out and got with
someone right after you broke up. but you stated that you
and her were having issues. so all you can do is be honest
with her . keep things simple for now. if you get back for
the wrong reason it will cause problem down the road.
don't rush it. if it mean to happen it will.
2007-04-27 17:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go; she was missing you and trying to fill the void.
Just enjoy the fact that the two of you are back together; it is SO hard to find someone to be compatible with!
2007-04-27 17:30:17 · answer #8 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really, get over it before you push her away from something like that. She didn't cheat you and in four more years, she'll probably wait one week before being with someone else. She's more mature, so should you
2007-04-27 17:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Don Magias 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her just get over it. she didn´t do it while you 2 were still together so it´s not really cheating... she did it for her reasons and now it seems to be over... you have no rights to ask her why she did it or not... it´s just her business while she was a single woman... if you like her don´t let that bother you.
2007-04-27 17:30:10 · answer #10 · answered by Stephanie F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋