I Can't Control My Anger...HELP!?

Question

I started having anger issues at age 12. They didnt get really bad until about last year. I scream at the top of my lungs until my voice gives out. I get so angry that I can't see. I cry for hours just to make myslef feel better. Now I'm 15 and it just keeps getting worse and worse. But the part I don't understand is that my outbursts come out of nowhere! Even the littelest things will turn me from happy and calm to crazy and Hostile. I've been in several fights and every time I do get into a fight I end up hurting the person really bad. I need help. I can't control my anger and I'm afraid Im going to hurt someone worse than I already have. Do you know what Could possibly be wrong with me?

Answer 1

I don't know what helps... but i had the same problem... i would get so mad that i would black out at times... but u know.. i don't know u jus gotta find some1 to calm you down ... like me ... the only person that could calm me down was my good friend now girl friend then... i don't know... she was the only one that could help me out.. but u should find help that is not healthy but i know that u understand that already. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Just the regular hormonal changes that happen to everyone as they go from adolescent to adulthood. Your system is just probably a little sensitive, which causes you to feel each change in a dramatic fashion.

Turn this into an advantage; you should be able to put a lot of energy into things that you want to do, and also exercise to the point of exhaustion. This will leave you calmer for those everyday irritants.

Also, I found the link below very helpful, and I've read the books and used the techniques described for years.

Answer 3

Let your parents know you want to see a doctor about how you are feeling. Anger management classes could help but you may be bi-polar. Talk to your parents, school counselor or your minister/priest. One thing that helps me immediately is, pretending Jesus is shadowing me, you know, following me around for the day (everyday). Would you go off on someone if Jesus was watching you? No. You would eventually learn to calm yourself and keep the rage inside and get rid of it by jogging, weight training and prayer does not hurt at all. Good luck sweetie and God Bless You!

Answer 4

You could possibly be the type of person that has a hard time with telling people how you feel. Do you hold things in? If you do I would suggest that you start telling people how you feel immediately to avoid blowing up. We are like time bombs. Eventually time runs out and we explode.

You could also be frustrated with a lot of things going on in your life. School(homework), Peer pressure (friends, no friends), or family (mother, father or both). It is very important to take breaks. Take deep breaths and go for walks. You might be doing to much and have high expectations for yourself. Slow down to avoid burning out.

Join a sport or Gym. Football, Karate, or school wrestling team. This might be a good way to get out aggression.

Are you in a relationship that is frustrating you? You might need to seperate from that person and spend time with people that make you happy.

Fight for a cause. Join a charity. Helping the elderly, sick or poor. It will make you feel good to help someone. It will also help you to realize that when you think you have it bad somebody has it worse. Angelina Jolie is a good example. You watch her behavior in the past vs today. Her behavior has changed drastically ever since she started adopting and fighting for causes around the world. Why? Because it helped her to realize that her life was not that bad. Today a lot of us are unhappy because we watch T.V. and and crave the life of the people we hear about and see everyday. We are pressured by everyday life and feel like failures. We always think that we need more. Look around the world. Your life probably could've been ten times worse. Learn to appreciate the things that you have. Your lucky enough to be able to type on a computer and express your feelings. You are blessed. Before you do anything else. PRAY! PRAY! PRAY! Not just for yourself, but for the people in the world suffering from hunger or dying from diseases. Pray for these people to feel love. Pray for people that don't experience the freedom to do and say what they want. Pray for your family and friends. Do not pray for material things. Pray for happiness and for peace of mind. May God bless you.

P.S. Your problem is not something that will go away by just sitting in a room crying. You are doing good by recognizing that something is wrong. I would suggest that You talk to school counselor about problems. With all of the incidents happening now with children in school I'm sure your school will have all the right resources available to help you. If your not comfortable with talking to counselor. Ask mother to enroll you in program. Some programs are free and your mom will not have to come out of pocket. Search the internet and look for places near and ask your mother to schedule an appointment because most places require parents be there to fill out forms. Remember very few doctors on this site so seek professional help. Hope this helps you:-)

Answer 5

You probably have some kind of disorder. It sounds like biopolar disorder, my boyfriend deals with that and he can get angry at times when he wasn't on medication. You should ask your parents to take you to a doctor to do test to see whats wrong.

1. Bipolar disorder is characterized by periods of excitability (mania) alternating with periods of depression. The "mood swings" between mania and depression can be very abrupt.

2. Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD) is behavior marked by a pattern of frequent, persistent worry and anxiety over many different activities and events.


3. A panic attack is a sudden surge of overwhelming fear that comes without warning and without any obvious reason. It is far more intense than the feeling of being 'stressed out' that most people experience

Answer 6

This is not a problem to handle alone. Talk to your parents - this is stuff they ought to know and help you with. If they are not helpful you need to seek professional help - see your school nurse, counsellor, or primary physician for assistance in finding help. You may find you need medication &/or therapy to help yourself.
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You say that you've physically injured people, if you've ended up in the court system because of it you could also ask for help there too.

In the meantime it helps to make a plan of what to do when you feel yourself getting upset, whether it's taking a time out, counting to 10 or doing deep breathing exercises.

Answer 7

Try meditation and talking to someone. I have anger issues myself and have been trying to cope with them for a lifetime. I am 22 and my best source of relief is meditation. As soon as you feel as you're about to get upset, let you mind clear and think of the sound of your breathing. Focus on the sound untill you feel as though the anger is going away. Walk away from the fight, if it is there and stretch to help relax your body. A clear conscious and a relaxed body may do wonders if you are seriously pissed off.

Answer 8

Hi hun-
You should have a long overdue talk with one or both of your parents.
When I was a teen and had some issues- I wrote a note to my Mom kind of highlighting what I was feeling and said I think we need to talk. I left it on her dresser one morning and left it to her from there.
She met me at my bus stop that day and we talked for hours.
It didn't solve everything that day- but it was a start at learning where I needed help and it made me more open in my adult life and with my children.
Good luck.

Answer 9

try:

counting backwords from 20.

like..20 19 18 17 16..&& etc.


another way is too take DEEP BREATHS,and imagine a square.

when you inhale you go across the top part of the square thenn exhale when you go down..

also try getting away from the situation.

this also a veryyy common problemm.


hope this helps :]]

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Answer 10

I can't think of what's happening, but I'm guessing it's a reaction to something that's happening in your life that is bugging you. I would suggeset seeing a school councler. It might sound dumb, but I had a problem once and went to a councler, and it really helped. My problem was the fear of my parents getting divorced, and the councler figured that out. They really can help.