how can I convince my parents to let me sleepover at my friends house??

Question

I dont kno what happened, but before, sleeping over was a lot less complicated.
Only, a couple of months later, my parents are totally against me sleeping over at a friends house, even if they are the same sex.
Im only 14! I have so much more life to live, and all my closest friends sleepover and I really feel so left out.
I've tried to convince my parents numoerous times, last time I tried, I packed my bag and tried to leave the house. My dad dragged me back and tried to hit me and throw a chair at me. I really dont want to go through that hell again, but I really cant stand this anymore
Its not fair, please help me

Answer 1

Can you say Jacob Wetterling? Etc..........
It is obvious to me you have a very bright parent that will not allow a minor child to stay at someones house they do not know extremely well. I feel the same way about my children.
Even as adults my children have run into situations to disturbing to discuss. Fortunately they were not harmed but came far to close for comfort. Be safe never set a meeting with someone ( no matter how innocent it appears) and go alone into an area that would leave you isolated from the general public.

Answer 2

I'm a mum of a 14yr old girl. I let her sleepover at friends houses IF:
* I've met the parents and they are responsible
* I know the house and where she'll be sleeping
* Boys and girls are sleeping separately, if both sexes are invited
* I know who's invited
* She takes her mobile and can call me anytime she needs me to pick her up (if things go wrong)
I let her have friends sleepover here if she's up to date with homework, they get some sleep and don't stay up all night, she helps me get the beds ready, and if I don't have to spend huge amounts of money on junk food and movies for everyone (that's all they seem to want).
I know teenagers LOVE sleepovers, but they are noisy, messy, and a lot of work for the parents. Teenagers also get very tired and cranky after sleepovers because they never get enough sleep. My daughter changes her mood when she has friends sleepover - she gets smart mouthed and cheeky (showing off) - this is not pleasant for the parents, because we then have to gently discipline the kids (without saying 'this is the LAST sleepover you'll ever have young lady' - which is what we really want to say). Maybe you need to look at this from the parent's viewpoint too.

I know you love sleepovers, but you have to show that you're trustworthy, honest, helpful and appreciative, then maybe you'll get to join in a few more of them.

Teenagers can get together during the day you know... movies, shopping, friend's houses - it can often be just as much fun.

Don't pack your bags. Understand why they're resisting, and discuss it with them without shouting or getting upset. Lay out the ground rules, let them know that you realise why they don't want you to go - they care about you and they worry that something might happen to you. Don't give up.

Answer 3

What your parents needs is a guarantee that it would be a responsible adult there at all times. Contact your friend's parents and explain the situation with them. Request for them to visit your parents and talk with them about the sleep over.

Your 14 year old and your parents understand that now you are going through the most critical part of your life. They are going to be more caution of your life until you are legally 18, and even afterward they will always worry about you.

You are doing something that you wouldn't of done five year ago. You would of never pack your clothes and attempt to leave the house without their permission. If you want your parents to be relax on rules you must start showing them some responsibility. Never attempt to leave the house when you are told not to again.

Go to your dad now and apologize to him now! Tell him what you have just did was totally uncool and babyish.

If the parents agree to come and talk to your parents, tell your parents you will keep a cell phone available at times doing the sleep over. Let them know you will call them when you are on your way home. Be a responsible girl. There are a lot people in this world that would do some very nasty things to you, and parents knows it!

God Bless

Answer 4

Why not try it the other way around. Have your friend sleep over at your house. Your parents will get to know your friend better and might lower their guard a little bit at least for this one friend.

The other thing is that at 14 the sleeping over thing changes a bit. Sleeping over as you get older means telling your parents you are staying at a friends house but really hanging out somewhere causing trouble.

The sleeping over with a person of the opposite sex is definetly not going to happen. As you get older you will find out that sleeping over with a girl you being a guy, or or a girl sleeping over a guys house goes under a different name and for different reasons. So, forget about that notion. It ain't happening.

Lastly, about the person who called it child abuse. Yes, it is somewhat wrong for your parents to hit you but, sometimes a good slap in time can save a child from a lot of trouble. No parent wants their child to be an outcast or a drop out. Parents want what is best for their children. No parent wants their kids to ruin their own life so what are we as parents to do. Would you let your child just run away because you disagree with a dumb decition. I mean who runs away from their house because their parents don't let them sleep over. If this is the childs reaction to every little problem then it trully shows that this child is not ready to make big desicions. So, it is up to the parent to how shall I put it?! put some sens into the boy.It is called saving other people from themselves. I mean if after talking and dealing you get nowhere what is left to do. Just sit there with your arms cross watching your child ruin his life?

Answer 5

Try to tell your parents to talk to your friend's parents about you sleeping over. Of course the parents have a right to be paranoid since youre a girl and anything can happen. That's how my parents were too... They didnt let me sleep over my friends house, who was also a girl! But my parents got to know my friend's parents alittle bit as well as my friend- thus letting me sleep over.

Answer 6

What your father did amounts to child abuse.Have you given them to distrust you?I would tell your parents when and where your sleeepovers are so if they are worried they can contact you or vice versa. My daughter is 12 and I let her go to sleepovers provided I have contact numbers. and details of when she is coming home.She is going tonight to a party sleepover..Its pouring with rain andI am scared stiff that the parents will have an accident.I understand your parents concerns.Give them constant reassurance.

Answer 7

It might not be the fact of sleeping over but that your friends parent is a male & doesnt know if he would rape you.
My dad was the same way its pathetic. I think ringing the parents is a good idea,

Answer 8

They know you and know that things are different than the sleepovers were back in their caveman days. Don't get mad at them, because it will be you who calls them to come and pick you up when that party gets out of hand.

Answer 9

i'd be candy with them simply by fact being advise and being a brat with them isn't goons paintings(been by way of that already) and purely tell them which you would be contained in the homestead the entire time and your the right age to safeguard your self if something kinda is going incorrect and say that in case you somewhat get to comprehend her and her mothers and dads the way I do, they are rather very advantageous and candy and which you promise to be sturdy!

Answer 10

seems to me you are leaving some things out. did you do something to lose their trust in you? maybe you havent been being honest? maybe your grades have slipped. you'll ned to sit down with your parents and plain old talk it out.
AND IF YOU ARE 14- WHY IS YOUR NAME - SEXXIBABE???? stop trying to grow up too fast and get your nose back in the school books.