We have a good relationship..but i dont know. im scared he might dump me right after we have sex. I feel like he thinks i dont love him because im not doing anything. i need advice.
2007-04-27 15:02:33 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you feel its right to move to this MAJOR step in your relationship and you're ready both physically and emotionally then yes, have sex. HOWEVER, once you lose your virginity you cant get it back, so what does sex mean to you? if you have a good relationship like you say, then he will respect your wishes to wait until you're ready. AS for thinking that he thinks that dont put words into his mouth. Dont jump to conclusions without knowing from him what he thinks, and dont let him guilt you into sex by making you feel that way!!!!!
And if that is how he feels DUMP his sorry ***, because he cant say he honestly loves you if he's not willing to wait you're 15 for gods sake and have the rest of your life to worry about sex . Trust your instincts and how you feel about it before you do anything. You are far more important than that!
2007-04-27 15:16:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not a great suggestion because I'm not writing that you should wait till your married but.... in most states, the age of consent is 16. i would tell him that you are going to wait till you are 16 to prevent him from possibly getting in A LOT of trouble. This should give you some time to think things out and decide what you should do. Also, there are many things you could do besides being intimate. You could go to the park, a movie, etc. I understand that sounds corny but i think at the end of the day, the decision is truly yours and i thank if he were my boyfriend and i didn't have a solid foundation in my relationship and was worried, i would test him. I'm not saying your relationship is week! I'm sure you enjoy one another. But, if you said no and that you wanted to wait....then a) he would wait and he really does care about you. or B) he leaves you. and if choice b happens, then that should answer the question about what would probably happen after you two were intiment. you have a tough decision to make and a LOT of pressure on your shoulders. i wish you the best of luck :)
2007-04-27 15:14:02 · answer #2 · answered by Elizabeth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, sex is not love, it is a result of love. If he loves you and you love him, then both of you will not mind waiting, since in EVERY state in the USA 15 is illegal.( If you aren't in the states, then I don't know the laws.) Anyway, 15 is too young. Get out of the house or backseat and do something else with your time, go somewhere that keeps your mind from wandering to sex. Keep your hands to yourself, and respect yourself more. I was a virgin until a few months before I turned 19, and I am still proud of that to this day. In doing so I have set an example for both of my teenagers. Good luck.
2007-04-27 15:15:57 · answer #3 · answered by blondietatt04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young, but aside from that if you have to ask this question then no. You should trust your boyfriend not to dump you and you shouldn't have sex because your scared he won't think you love him. Love and sex are separate. You don;t have sex to prove your love. You should be ready to have sex and if you are you won't have to question yourself. I suggest waiting a little longer until and if it feels completely right. Don't worry about him wanting to sex, think about what you really want. If you do have sex use a condom, no matter what.
2007-04-30 14:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
like what I've been saying. it is a given, that us guys, think with our ***** first. that is already a given.
make an observation, if sex is all his thinks about, (mostly we do) and gets cranky if doesn't get to be physical with you every time you go out. then yes. that is the tell tale signs of "wham bam thank you ma'am"
at 15, the only thing I'm concerned of is legalities. but other than that, nature designed women to have kids at 14. so that women are still physically strong enough to handle and bond with the baby. may be not mature enough, but that is where grandparents come in.
there are a lot of contraceptives out there. do it or not just be safe and responsible about it.
don't go crying to your best friend or mommy because you got STD, pregnant or hurt.
2007-04-27 15:10:56 · answer #5 · answered by z3bastian 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have the power to decide when and where you decide to have sex or play with your partner... don't let any one make you feel like you have to do anything you aren't sure you are ready for... and if you are taking the time to ask the question here then maybe your not ready. If your boyfriend really loves you then he won't care how long he has to wait! I appreciate your maturity and not just jumping in the sack... BE SAFE no matter what you decide.
2007-04-27 15:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by callieshearer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey. i'm new to this whole Yahoo thing, but i saw your question in the recently added. Here's some advice i hope i can help..
Before you are sure about doing anything, talk to him. Wait a while if thats what it needs to talk to him and find out if he really does love you, or if he is just using you for sex. If he does love you and you want to and feel comfertable with it, then go for it. But if he says he thinks you dont love him because you dont do anything, he doesnt truly care about you as much as you would want to, to have sex. But yeah, just find out if he really cares for you enough to help you through it and be there for you.
2007-04-27 15:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a fulltime job? Are you financially stable enough to raise a child on your own...including supplying college tuition for that child without having to depend upon your parents, or welfare to take care of you and a child?
Are you financially prepared to pay for an abortion considering your parents may not want to do so.
Are you financially prepared to have a baby and pay for all the doctor bills and hospital expense before birth and the birth itself?
If you say no to ANY of these questions then you are NOT ready to have sex. And until you are any guy who would pressure into doing so does not love YOU. He is after one thing and once he gets it he will kick you to the curb...YOU kick first.
2007-04-27 15:13:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex... sex is a memorable experience that your first time will be lost to a boy who you arent even sure if he is going to stay around.... I would say no deal.
Sex should be a bonding of two people who love each other to the depths of thier souls. And could not imagine bieng with anyone else. He must prove to you that you are his world. Before you give into sex. Men and boys alike are horny little toads and generaly dont care who it is until its love.
So if its not love then NO do not have sex, you will regret it if you do.
2007-04-27 15:10:43 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are only 15. If you feel hes gonna leave you after sex, then dont do it. Only do it with someone you love and trust and when you are ready to accept the responsibility of having a baby, because that can happen, no matter what precautions you take.
2007-04-27 15:05:51 · answer #10 · answered by kittykat34 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋