Why are people soo rude to fat people?

Question

Gosh there not deaf they hear you mooing and laughing. And Guys you are the worst! They are always talking about fat girls and say mean things and then people wonder why people go crazy. I'm overweight but my dad's the head football coach at my highschool so people don't make fun of me nearly as muh as they used to because i have the whole team to back me. For instance my friend and i were just standing minding our business and this random guy comes up to her and said "my friend overthere likes you" and laughed as saying that was a way to get back a his friend. But Guys are shallow (not all but most) especially the ones between the ages of 13 and 25. if you don't like fat people it's ok but don't tell us and try to bring us down to make you feel better. I'm in highschool and i have already givin up on love because guys are losers(again most but not all) why are people just soo rude and unsentative to larger people unless they have a motive not to be Jerks. we need kindness too & love!

Answer 1

Sweetie...

I hate to tell you...that is life. The human animal can be as cruel as it can be kind.

But let's look at being large in America for a moment...
What do you see splashed in magazines as beautiful? Who seems to always give their "professional opinion" about anything on television? Who seems to always sell us stuff?

Some toothpick with grapes for breast!

America has set a standard for what is considered beautiful and acceptable and anything outside that perception is to be ridiculed and scoffed...which is wrong. Like you said, just because someone is big, does not mean that they don't have feelings too.

Unfortunately, what you, me and the rest of the the F.A.T. (fabulous and thick) people are going to have to do, is grow a tough skin, strut our stuff and show skinny people that big can be beautiful.

Queen Latifah, Camryn Mannheim, Jennifer Hudson and Monique had started changing the standard of beauty to the American public and you can do it also in your school by the way you carry yourself.

Ignore rude comments thrown your way. Hold your head high. Don't give up on love, because love is not a keeper of size, just heart! Know that you are wonderfully and beautifully made by the creator of this world Jesus Christ! And be bigger in heart than those that are small in character...and size!

Hope I helped some!

Answer 2

Your story is heartbreaking and I admire you for not hating the world for this. I have no explanation as to why people are so insensitive but I can tell you that the ones who do love you are going to love you all the better because you are so much stronger than so many of us. Beauty and thinness, regardless of what you read, are a lot of times something we are born with and not obtained unless through very extreme circumstances. It shouldn't be held at a pedestal and people usually grow up and realize this truth.

In the meanwhile, I wish you the best.

Answer 3

its because society has made the perfect women out to be this skinny, size zero blond haired petite woman, when in reality not even half the population looks like that! people pay tons of moeny to try and look like that, but why spend moeny when you could just be happy with yourself. You seem to be pretty mature so all i can say is:

1) don't give up!!! theres surely a guy thats mature enough to like you for who you are
2) don't let the fact that you may be heavier than some girls get you down ... guys in England actually perfer girls with meat on their bones to girls that are skinnier, so if the US doesn't work out for you theres always overseas :P

good luck!

Answer 4

sad, most people are mean because they just want to be cool. I no a guy and he is always mean to this girl i try to tell him to be nice but he said i will if you go out with me, but i aready have a bf. foot ball plarers are probally the worst, you should just ignor them, i am only a 5th grader but it works, just because i have a bf doesent mean i don't get made fun of. some people also make fun of me cause i am very shy, but i get over it. Hope that helps! One more thing it's on the inside that counts, not the out.people should except you 4 that.

Answer 5

I have no intention to be cruel, but you can fix that yourself! Just go out and work it of, change your diet.. these are all things that can be easily fixed with some effort. I used to have horrible acne because i was eating chips, and fries for lunch everyday. I just changed my diet, and it went away. I understand weight is different but that doesn't mean it can't have the same effect. Being over weight is a habit, all you have to do is break it. As for people not liking you.. stop complaining about it, and change it! Good Luck!

Answer 6

I am sorry, but I believe in the mental and emotional causes of illness and health issues. I think that people who are fat are afraid and so insulate themselves and gain weight to distance themselves from society on a psychological level. I think society reflects back to them their own fears - just as it does us all. What we dwell upon in our heart and in our mind is wha we experience - and when I see questions like this I worry, because you have now documented your existence to the powers that be and further solidified your own negative image of yourself and the world. You will get love and kindness when you give it - just like the rest of us. Expect the best in other people and expect good things for yourself and you will get it. Expect the worst in people and the worst in life and you will get that too. Please, check out Louise Hay's book http://www.amazon.com/You-Can-Heal-Your-Life/dp/0937611018/sr=8-2/qid=1170052295/ref=pd_bbs_2/102-6980058-2916931?ie=UTF8&s=books It has changed the lives of so many people for the better. If you want love and kindness you have only to make it so.

Peace!

Answer 7

I don't know, but I wish people would stop with the rude comments. I think that the media puts so much emphasis on being thin and people have to be so politically correct when it comes to race that they pick on overweight people simply because they can. It's rude and insensitive and it needs to stop. Many cultures appreciate plus size women. Too bad ours isn't one of them!

Answer 8

I think that most people are unsure of themselves, and unfortuanlly they take it out on the people that are diffrent. wither it be because you are overweight, have a learning disability, or just because you are the odd duck out, I personally think that they are trying to make you feel as bad as they feel about themselves. I think if you continue to respect yourself and Love yourself you will be just fine not only that but that right guy will come into your life and treat you like a queen..

Answer 9

they are just insecure baboons!!! i find it awful that people are so insensitive and rude it can be so damaging what these people do, and im sorry to say it'll happen for the rest of your life its like you're branded. the only way to deal is to either become thick skinned and love yourself and like who you are inside and out or try to change and lose the weight, but only change because you want to. Personall ive been at both ends of the spectrum overweight and underweight and you get crap from people at both ends

Answer 10

Everything in life is about how we make it and how we feel about ourselves in the process.alot of people have a low self esteem and dont even realize it,or they have insecurities.I too am overweight and people try to make fun of me,but because I feel good about who I am than it does not bother me.Sometimes I crack the fist fat joke before someone can beat me to it.this settles any negative attitude anyone may have about me.Keep working on your self esteem and continue believing in your beauty,remember God does not make junk. Hold your head up and never settle for anything less than what your heart desires.God Bless you.