Why do some adults say your to young for a boyfriend/girlfriend when your 13 that's just so stupid please just shut up i dont want to hear you saying your to young its not like i'm doing any sick things with my boyfriend just up to kissing and that's it so please stop saying i'm to young. i bet you people that say that never got a boyfriend/girlfriend when you where my age so be quiet and let me be young while i still am ok.
2007-04-27 14:52:43 · 18 answers · asked by lovecell86 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 13 also but my parents say the same thing it may be for our protection but it is sort of annoying.
2007-04-27 14:57:02 · answer #1 · answered by Grizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the fear is that that simple kissing as you call it can easily turn to more. Young people are not as educated about sex or have access to neither the right info and the right equipment as in contraceptives so, the real fear is that my little boy or little girl will become pregnant and she will have a hrd time studying which will make her life more difficult because people that do not graduate from college tend to make jack squat in the work force and I as the parent will probably will have to maintain the two of you. Thats the real reason.
The thing is that every day you gain a little bit of knowledge. This in turn changes you. As you get older you will see a bit more about how the world trully works. Long story short the way the world works is that in order for someone to be at the top of the food chain, many have to be at the bottom so, your parents want to give you at least a fighting chance to make it at least to the middle level. Now, I'm not saying that single moms are the lowest person. No No nO, they are very brave. The thing is that they are at a great disadvantage money wise and time wise. Try studying for your test when you have a kid that is screaming because their belly aches or just because they have nothing better to do.
I know you will say that you can controll it but I doubt it. Sex is a very strong thing. Is like a drug and we are meant to feel this way and want it. Increasingly the temptation will increase. Is like a vampire craving for blood. Anyways, you may say no every now and then but eventually you'll give in. its just too strong.
As you grow older you will come to understand that your parents do care about you. If they didn't they will let you do whatever you wanted. Caring about someone means that sometimes you have to make the unpopular decision but, the decision is made base on what the adult thinks is best for the minor.
2007-04-27 22:05:50 · answer #2 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you are too young to date at that age. I see nothing wrong with people your age going to the movies, bowling..etc.. its good to learn how relationships work. The reason why your parents are concerned is because they were your age too...they know what simple kissing can lead to. You are still young, and I think at your age boyfriend or girlfriend is just another name for someone you really like... it is the same when you are an adult but we add more meaning to the word that someone your age would.
p.s. it is really immature to say something like " i bet people that say that never got a boyfriend/girlfriend when you where my age so be quiet and let me be young while i still am"
if you acted just a little more mature, maybe your parents would not have a problem with you having a boyfriend...learn some maturity and you will see their attitude change
2007-04-27 22:08:24 · answer #3 · answered by omorris1978 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The homes for unwed mothers and the abortion clinics are full of 13 and 14 year of girls who weren't planning on doing anything besides kissing and that was it!!!! Oops, did they get pregnant from kissing?
During your teenage years your body is changing from a child to an adult. You are not going to like to hear the rest of this. You are not mature enough to handle your emotions you react like a child in the body of an adult. If it feels good and gives pleasure lets do it nothing will happen to me.
FYI guess what your parents are trying to do? They are trying to let you be young while you still are instead of a mother at 13.
If you get pregnant you can tell your mother that you didn't do it that much. Sounds pretty lame doesn't it.
2007-04-27 23:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by don n 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm....if you didn't want an answer then on earth did you ask? See your mentality is the #1 reason why everyone is saying what they are saying. Look at your response! That on its own is immature. Your response is in no way mature which reflects your level of understanding which is close to mute...which makes me tell you your response alone answered your own question.
You are too young #1 and your parents aren't worried about you they are worried about HIM!!! You are sick in your mind and deserve not to date if you don't think that your boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with you. Get that in your head!!! You are not old enough to handle any type of sexual advances from a guy who believe it or not may have already had sex before! Wake up and get a clue! I had a boyfriend when I was 13 and wasn't allowed too...guess what??? SEX!!! You need to buy a vowel! And get some common sense....So excuse me I think in this case I have earned the right from, being 13 and having a boyfriend who I had sex with to tell you about yourself!
Now you said let you be young while you still are....being young has nothing to do with boys. Excuse me when your mama gave birth to you I'm 100% along with everyone else you didn't come out being hot in the tail and wanting to date. You couldn't conceive it! And dating is an adult thing ultimately. And biblically speaking you don't see dating anywhere in the bible...so technically you shouldn't be doing it all. God said to avoid fornication let each man/woman have his own wife/her own husband.....you are wrong....it's no more plainer than that for you...
2007-04-27 22:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by shilandriat8@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The reason your parents say those things is because they no what's possible. I had a boyfriend when I was 13 and now I realize that it was a big mistake. I'm 24 now and majority of time no matter what a guy tells u they're trying to get in your jeans. Everything is not what it seems sweety but after kissing there isn't much to do but the nasty.
2007-04-27 21:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dating when you are young is not bad..... but you have to be mature enough to know that some things shouldn't happen until you are much older.... and dating so young often makes other things happen too soon.
So be aware that dating has responsibilities too. But waiting a while would be a smarter thing to do.
2007-04-27 22:04:06 · answer #7 · answered by westfield47130 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. My parents are the same way. They probly say that because your not ready for dating Emotionally. they probally think you wont be able to handle having a boy/girlfriend because your not mature enough. They might think you'll get REALLY upset when your heart gets broken.
2007-04-27 21:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um.
I'm 13.
and first of all.
You should really learn to spell.
Lol.
But my boyfriend's nearly 16.
And you really shouldn't give a damn
with what other people think unless your
out sleeping around with different guys & not
in a serious relationship.To awnser your ?,probably
because at our age they got hurt,and don't want their
children going through that.
2007-04-27 21:56:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
because they think we are too young to make decisions or think of the responsibilities in the future. they might also be old-fashioned and think its completely wrong. if we date at a young age they think we will fall head over heels in love and not think about what might happen. this then leads to pregancy and single parents and parents dont want these problems to happen to their kids when they r still at school
2007-04-27 21:56:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋