My boyfriend's dad is very abusive to him. He has a past with such abuse. During 4th ofJuly of 2006, he told me that his father was blowing punches at him and abused him for NO REASON at all until he was bleeding. He had to write about that incident in his personal diary for his teacher- teacher told the police about and they talked to his father about the abuse. He didn't deny it and nothing else happened, other than the fact that the cops just told my boyfriend to tell them if anything else happens between him and his father.
And just yesterday after I left his house... My boyfriend told me that his dad was punching him. This morning at school, I saw a red mark on the side of his forehead and a big gash inside his lip. It made me very upset...
What do I do? I'm too scared to tell the police on him / seek help. I've asked my boyfriend too why doesn't he tell? But he said he's too scared of the consequences from his father.
What do I do? Please help.
2007-04-27 13:39:44 · 9 answers · asked by hysteria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He is 16 and I am 15. He's suffered abuse here-and-there since he was about 10.
2007-04-27 13:55:19 · update #1
hi there IT'S CALL GETTING HELP there is no excuse for a person to abuse a child or even a adult . it's the law you must tell the police before his dad kills him. tell your boyfriend not to wait for a next time it's his life and his future. I too was an abuse child but I protected myself cause no one would help me and still my life is in danger from this abusive person only thing is. They do not know where I live and I'm a grand mom you see once a person has an abusive problem and sees that he/she do not report them to the police they toy with you as they please. they put fear in your heart and keep on abusing the person as much as they heart desires.
That is why I am telling you to go to the police and report him you both must go and if your boyfriend does not go you do it or look in the telephone book under abuse kids AC'S AND TALK TO THEM let the department of social services take care of the rest and if it's in NEW YORK CITY the laws have gotten very strong when it comes to abusive children simply cause many children have die in the hands of abuse people.
do not be scare of his dad tell your boyfriend the same you both need to get his father help with his abusive problem cause it is a problem .
May God Bless you both be well be safe
2007-04-27 15:24:17 · answer #1 · answered by sugarlove_one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your boyfriend? I understand his fear and yours, but he needs to reach out to someone if he is really being abused like this. It looks like the cops failed him the first time by not doing something about it. It could easily cost him his life, you never know when the next punch from his father could end up to be deadly. Why dont you talk to your parents about it and tell them your concerns? Maybe they can help you figure out what you can do for him. He is obviously in trouble and has been abused emotionally as well since he is afraid to seek help.
2007-04-27 13:47:54 · answer #2 · answered by Sandy K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have no power in the situation at all---OTHER than to urge your bf to stop putting up with the situation, go to the police and protective services and request placement in a foster home!!! It sounds like that's his only hope to form a decent life for himself!!! Get himself into a protected place that he can finish growing up, plan for his own life and not have to fight for his life!!!! Good Luck to you BOTH!!! But don't be surprised that your bf won't go against his father...he may have had a lifetime of conditioning to accept abuse....SO SAD...but so often true.
2007-04-27 13:55:53 · answer #3 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must go to the school councilor or the police. I went through the same thing with a friend I had in High School and she go help. Do it now before the evidence is gone.
2007-04-27 13:45:10 · answer #4 · answered by Reta, Bears mommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to your principal, teacher, or minister and talk to them about this. Your boyfriend may be mad, but it may save his life in the long run. There is no excuse for a parent to abuse their child. Seek help now. If you don't feel comfortable talking to the above people, talk to your parents. Ask them to help!
2007-04-27 13:43:38 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell the police, because maybe your boyfriend is just scared that that same thing will happen again and so he just doesnt even want to try but someday it could get really ugly and you would hold that against your-self for like ever!
2007-04-27 13:46:24 · answer #6 · answered by ♥XoxMADxoX♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoudl tell...because if eh says hes going to change or stop he's lying...i had a sexualy abusive father and after 10 year i finally todl teh police and i feel free and im still dealing with teh trials and teh charges and things but atleast the abuse is done. talk to ur boifriend and tell him that if he wants it to stop eh has to tell...=]] gud luck
but dunt do it with out him knowing because you dont fully know his situation maybe he didnt tell you everything...
so0o talk to him and TRY really ahrd to make him tell..
and be sure to do it wen teh scars or brusies are theres o0o its no duaght taht your tell teh truth...as proof
2007-04-27 13:44:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard, but you need to go to the police. His Dad is sick, and one day will seriously hurt him.
He needs to be out of that house.
It will take courage.
Tell the police.
2007-04-27 13:46:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your BF needs to tell!!
it is real inportant!
2007-04-27 13:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by jonas bros rox my sox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋