Ahh! I don'tlike this classmate! He's always on my nerves! What should I do?

Question

Well, this classmate always gets on my nerves, as I said. He kicks my backpack, calls me names, etc. This classmate does this everyday. He has the support of friends, I don't. I know he's coming back to my school next year. Even though I tell my teacher about the many times he's abused my property or hurt me, he always continues! He threatens me everytime I get hurt because he doesn't really want to get in trouble, even if he already is. One of his threats is: "If you don't want to get hurt or get your faced caved in, then don't tell on me and I won't hurt you anymore". Anyways he still hurts me anyways because he always forgets his threats and this cycle keeps continuing. I only have a few friends, but whenver I get hurt, my friends either don't care or aren't there. He also has friends who help him destroy my property and hurt my feelings. I know it's almost the end of school, but the less time he has, he'll increase the damage and pain he does to me. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

this guy, unlike others, does not stop after first time punishment. he not verys smart apparently, so he doesn't know about VT or Columbine. we also have a policy that when you harm others you get demerits

Answer 1

Dude, tell this to the prinipical, cops and definitely your parents! Send those bastard back to hell before they make another VT and Combuline.

Answer 2

I know it is supposed to be the lamest thing but has anyone brought this to his parents attention? If not, why not? This boy obviously has issues that need addressed. When you tell on him who do you tell? Is it the school councilor or a teacher you trust most? Don't waste your time with the nearest teacher they get distracted easiest. If you have reported it many times to the administration office and this has continued for a long time have your parents press neglect charges against the school.
For that matter you could always take self defense courses. There are so many types of martial arts surely one can strike your fancy. Find a way to take back the power he has over you. Figure out what he is vournable against and make a fool out of him for a change to make him feel what it's like. If you are no physical match that is fine. Mental and social damage goes much deeper. Do not abuse what you learn though. Because then you become like him!

Answer 3

Sorry to hear that. Well, some people hurt others because they enjoy the effect (they like to see the others scared of them, screaming, etc). Also, most of them have this complex of weakness so they need to prove all the time that they are strong and scary. Just asking him not to do this or telling on him won't help. You have to change your behavior. NEVER let him feel you are weaker than him or scared of him. If he is a big, strong guy, you have to PRETEND and ACT that you are stronger emotionally. If you are physically equal, make him feel you are stronger, but you didn't hurt him back only because you were above that childish level. Give him that look. Hurt him back just once! Make him be afraid of you. But better yet just make him feel that way without hurting. Don't try to look for protection from your friends or teachers, this way you demonstrate your weakness.
Best thing to try: when he hurts you next time, look straight in his eye (always make an eye contact!) and ask him: "hey, what's your problem? Is there anything I can do to help? I know you are very strong and we all know it, you don't need to prove it every time. I am not afraid of you - you just make yourself look stupid and weak doing that..." Say something like that looking straight at him. This is called psychological manipulation - always work.

Answer 4

Get some more friends. Get a friend to tell a teacher so it won't be you who told. Stand up to him. Put all your property in your backpack and put a lock on it. Set up an ambush. Do some spywork and destroy his love life. Tell his parents and right before a big party. Write a horrible letter to one of the teachers and adress it from him. Pay someone tough to pretend he's your cousin and get him to tell him off. Ruin his property. Spread a rumor. Find out a secret about him and BLACKMAIL him into wearing retarted clothing to school.

THOSE ARE MANY SOLUTIONS.

Answer 5

For one thing this guy is a bully. What you need to do is stand up to him. He might act all tough to you because he thinks that you are not going to do anything and you are the bud of his jokes. When you stand up to him, you will show him how strong you really are and not afraid of him too. Another thing... your friends seem to be "fairweather" friends. Only they are around when times are good. Leave you behind and maybe even laugh at you behind your back. You need to tell a trusted person if you don't want to stand up to him. There are legal steps that you can to make him leave you alone. Just think... Bill Gates used to be taunted as a kid and look where he is now. Just wait. You be become something in your life where they will be behind bars. Good luck and have a great day.

Answer 6

There is nothing you really can do except tell him to stop of fight back. There are no laws that make parents or schools stop this from happening, their hands are tied behind their backs. If you were to get involved with the law, all they would do is blame it on you and move you to another school, because they cannot do nothing to this asshole that is messing with you. Tell your parents about him, they will move you to a different school. It may sound like a bad or drastic idea but that is the most you can do. Like I said, there are no bullying laws in any state yet, like there should be so if someone is being bullied to most anyone could do would be to tell them to stop or a teacher could give them detention.I would transfer schools next year to one where they do not allow bullying, usually a uniformed school is like this. And I agree with the very first answer, you would think people would of learned by now about bullying others. When I was bullied in middle school, II had been since kindergarten and in middle school when this girl, who was mean to everyone who wasn't black, made a remark about me sitting next to her, I just was so upset and I punched her in her face. Everyone at school including her stopped picking on me and I did get in trouble but my parents were glad I stood up for myself. Good luck though hun, I know it sucks being bullied!

Answer 7

Listen, he's got serious problems, and there's not much you can do about his behavior -- all you can do is modify your own.

1. Not telling isn't working. Keep a written diary of the abuse and damage, and show it to your teacher every time the abuse happens.

2. Ask your school counsellor what you can do to deal with him.

3. Sometimes guys do this out of a respect thing. If you stand up to them and say, "Don't do this to me." And then take revenge, *sometimes* it solves the problem. But sometimes it escalates things.

4. Minimize the damage -- don't bring stuff to school, avoid these guys as much as possible. When you see them coming, pick up and leave. Don't run, but just get out of there.

5. Build up your own group of friends. Read books about making friends and body language.

6. This summer, try to work out. Sometimes if you look bigger and tougher, it will act as a deterrent. Also, work very hard on building up your circle of friends this summer.

7. Remember high school/jr. high doesn't last forever. People *do* get civilized.

This guy needs to prove he's someone who can pick on other people -- just make it worth his time to find someone else to pick on.

Answer 8

First, make sure that your parents know what's going on. They need to know so that they can talk to the administration at your school.

Ask your teacher to switch everyone's seats around, placing you closer to where your teacher spends most of his or her time. This way your teacher will be aware of the threats first hand. You also need to go talk to the guidance counselor at your school. This person is there to help students work out their problems. You can also ask the principal to place you guys in different classes next year so that you're not in constant contact with each other. You don't deserve to be bullied. You deserve to be treated with respect.

Answer 9

When I was in 6th grade, a girl kept bugging me and making fun of me. We were all walking in line from the cafeteria to the classroom one day and she kept mimiking me. Did everything I did and I just couldn't stand it any longer! I flipped out! I yelled stop it! and pushed her hard onto the ground. When the teacher asked what was going on, everyone said "nothing". That girl never bothered me again. I had to stand up for myself. That was the first of my learning NOT to be shy and let people walk all over me. Now, mind you, I don't condone violence, but often times when you confront the bully and tell them to stop, they won't know what to do and they may just stop. "why do you have to always bug me?" you may ask the bully. Just stand up for yourself. "stop buggin me!" Confidently and look him in the eye. Your confidence will scare him. These bullies pick on people to gain their own self confidence. They have none. It's pretty sad. I have been working on being less shy and more confident all my life and it has helped tremendously! you can do it! Just suck it up and stand tall! Hope it all works out for you! I've been there and it's really hard, but you can make it! Remember, Later in life he's gonna be the one with a poor job and an ugly wife with a bunch of kids he can't support because he's had several divorces. You're going to be the one with the great marriage and a great job, house and car. My husband also was picked on because he was so small. He finally grew up, but he's got a wife (me!) that loves him, I take care of my figure, we have three properties, great jobs, a beautiful home and nice cars that are paid off. We have lots of friends in the neighborhood and life is worth living. can't say that much for the people who used to bully us!!! Again, hang in there and it will pay off. Oh, and take karate lessons. : )

Answer 10

How about you kick the snot out of him the next time. If he kicks your backpack again just sling it around a whack him good. This sounds like a high school or middle school bully. All they need is a good butt kicking. I beat up bullies and that was the last day they messed with me. You just have to take care of business yourself. Most of them are weak. You might get suspended but if nobody is doing anything you just have to take care of it. No weapons! Just good old-fashioned fist action.

My mom always said non-violence and my dad said you have to do what you have to to protect yourself. I don't condone violence of any sort but if nobody else will listen to your pleas then you have to look out for yourself. That's why we end up with these disgruntled children who shoot up places, because nobody listens to them. Then we gather in mass to pray when we could have helped these children in the first place. Old-fashioned fist fights are sometimes the last resort, imo, and sometimes necessary.

And running to your parents only makes it worse. You guys have no logic at all. Obviously, you people who suggest this have not been bullied like this kid or I when I was that age. Some bullies keep doing it because they see you as an easy target. My sister even kicked some tails. I ignored this guy for so long in middle school and finally one day I said enough was enough. I did the job myself. Sometimes you just have to man up.

Answer 11

Tell the teacher/Principal and if they don't care tell your parents. You can ether turn the other cheek and ad-nor him or you might half to just show him your not going to give in and punch him in the face a lot of the time bully's are all talk and no action, but its up to you if you want to take that chance.