Every symptom of depression I have. I have so many reasons to be depressed I don't even know where to start. I'd really hate to burden my parents by asking them to take me to the doctors. I also feel as though If I told them I'd be looken upon as a faluire or werid or maybe they wouldn't even believe me. I'm 13 and have been depressed for 2 years now and I'm afriad If I countinue to not seek help I might have an emotional breakdown. How do I tell them I'm depressed, I have no choice.
2007-04-27 12:47:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Be completely honest with your parents about how you feel. They love you and would want to know if something is bothering you. If you feel you can't tell them, then talk to a counselor at school or a teacher and ask them to help you talk to your parents. You're not a failure and you're not wierd for feeling that way. Thousands of people in the US alone feel the same way, you're not alone, so dont' feel that way. If you were the only one who felt that way, do you think there would be so many psychologists in the world? That's what I tell myself because I'm going through the same thing. So don't wait any longer and just go talk to your parents, they will understand and you will feel so much better afterwards. Good luck.
2007-04-27 12:53:57 · answer #1 · answered by fmxkrazyone 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Oh gosh, you poor thing. Just the fact that you recognise your depression is the first big step - you're one-up on hundreds of others who suffer alone. Adolescence is always a tough time, so you are definitely not a freak! You also seem quite intelligent (darn good reason to be smiling!) Anyway, sounds like your parents love you to bits, and they would appreciate the opportunity to help. They'd probably be more upset if you didn't tell them, so maybe choose a nice time when it feels "right" and say "guys, I really need your help on something. I've really tried to work it out myself, and I need you to understand it's not your fault, I know you do your best for me..."...(the rest should just pour out now). If you can't bring up the subject, do you have a school councellor who you can talk with, they could phone your parents on your behalf, or offer more suggestions on how to approach the subject? They may even have some great strategies to deal with your feelings at the moment?
In the meantime, hang out with happy positive people, and smile - you're worth it!
Best wishes! :o)
2007-04-27 13:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might seem awkward to tell your parents you are depressed. Maybe you could write them a note or letter and tape it to their bathroom mirror or put on their pillow or on the dresser next to their keys/purse. For some people, getting it out on paper is a little easier, and then you are able to say what you feeling before you actually talk to them about it.
I agree with another responder - school counselors are a great resource too. They would be more than happy to call your parents and talk to them. They usually know how to word things just right when telling parents these sorts of things.
You are not weird by any means, and I say hats off to you for being in tune with what is going on and how you are feeling. There are kids your age who are depressed and have no clue they are depressed.
Be brave, you can do it, and you'll be glad you did after you get some help or treatment. Hang in there! You can do this!
2007-04-27 13:03:42 · answer #3 · answered by Joyce P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok to be depressed. You can't choose to be depressed, it's who you are. I made the mistake of not telling my parents when I was about your age and I have suffered lots of trauma from not being dealt with. I was finally diagnosed when I was 15 but the doctor said that I'd had from birth. As a mother I can tell you that your parents would want to know that you are getting help. Suicide is a high risk factor of not getting help. Hope this helps a little. I'll be thinking of you. Get the help you need.
2007-04-30 09:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Stacey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ohh, my dear...
When my daughter was 13, and 14, and 15, she got depressed once in awhile.
She just sat on my lap and said:
"Papa, I'm feeling so sad today, I just can't get over it."
So I would give her lots of love, sometimes tickle her for awhile, and sometimes take her with me on a trip to King's Dominion or Busch Gardens.
We would laugh a lot, and she seemed to feel better.
It's so hard to be a teen, especially in these times.
My heart aches for you!
Just remember God loves you, and you are such a special girl!
Be sure to cry a LOT when you feel sad...
It relieves tension and makes you feel a little better.
If you were my girl I would have known you are depressed long before now, and maybe your parents do, too.
You are not a failure! You are a normal young lady
who has a tender heart, and lots to think about.
Just be frank and tell your parents.
There are things to be done about it.
I'm praying for you!
2007-04-27 12:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Paul 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
After 2 years, your parents should have noticed that you are depressed. I think everyone experiences it from one time or another, but if you have been feeling this way for 2 years you just need to come out and tell them. They aren't going to think your weird and they should believe you. If you're not comfortable telling your parents, tell an adult you trust such as a school counselor or another relative. I Depression is treatable and sometimes just talking to someone whom is objective may help.
2007-04-27 12:58:57 · answer #6 · answered by starsandmoon123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell then. there ain't no easy way to do it. And you are not weird, if anything your brave for saying 'look, i need help because I'm having problems.' i doubt very much that they wouldn't believe you. its not something that you'd joke about is it. Well done for realizing you need help. it took me til i was 16 to properly admit it. now I'm fine at 18. It might take you longer, it might not. but you want to do something. So go and do it. you'll feel so much better when its not a heavy burden upon your shoulders.
2007-04-27 12:55:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lifeless Energy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with them. You are not a loser. I have been batteling depression for years on and off agian. They will be glad you said something rather than take a chance of hurting yourself and otheres. That is what they are there for to protect you and to help you with all your needs not just some. Good luck and I hope you get the help you need.
2007-04-27 13:18:52 · answer #8 · answered by charitydowling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe, your parents love you. As a parent myself I would be very unhappy if I knew one day that my boy was unhappy and did not tell me or allow me to help him. I would feel as of I failed as a parent.
Tell your mom or dad whom ever you are closer to, sit them down and quietly tell them how you feel. Write it on paper first so you don't get lost (when I am sad I somehow talk so much and give 0 info so I tought myself to write the points I want to say, i helps alot).
I am more than sure they'll do what they have to to get you feeling better. If seeing a doctor would help, they'll take you.
If they feel you dont need a doctor dont get angry with them, my poor mom refused to take me when I was younger, she believed medication would only make me worse, and oh she was there for me (i think in her mind she felt if she took me to the doctor it would have made her out to be a bad mom who does not know how to deal with her own child).
So put that in mind. It doesn't mean they hate you , no it means they love you and only want best for you in their own way.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-04-27 13:01:14 · answer #9 · answered by WICCA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, depression can come from lots of things, including abuse and familiy situations, etc. too. I had a hard time getting my parents to believe me. The only thing that helped was telling them to research it themselves and then my dad knew I had the symptoms and it wasn't "just in my head".
2007-04-27 13:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Matt G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋