how do i stand up to bullies?

Question

every day when i go to skool these bullies come up to me and say no chance to get the girl i like and i try to stand up for myself i always think wat they might do to me if i talk back how should i stand up for my self

Answer 1

by dating them - well you posted this question on "singles & dating"!

Answer 2

One way is to try to provoke one of them to attack you in a public place. Pick the one that is the least tough. Calling them gay in front of a lot of people usually works. Telling him if he had any guts he's do something about it right here right now, all by himself, without his boyfriends for protection. Do this when you are around a lot of people and the fight is not likely to last long.

There are several laws of bullies here.

1) It is 10 times eaiser to physically fight defensively then offensively. All you have to do is survive until the fight is broken up.

2) Challenging a bully verbally in public usually makes them very nervous, they need to make all kinds of decisions about how they will proceed. Press them to act now, not later or tomorrow. If they back down, you win. You may have to do it more than once. Do not let up on your insults until they fight you or walk away.

3) They like to fight in packs so focus all your attention on one of them, you should be able to tell who's the least tough. Also make responding alone part of the deal. Ask him if he is the girl of the group, ask if he needs his boyfriends to protect him. Ask the other ones why they put up with having such a wimp in thier group. Ask if they lost a bet. Getting the other ones to laugh at one of them will really help you avoid problems the next time.

4) You may take a few bumps and bruises, but keep the verbal insults up. Your goal is to stay defiant, even if you don't fight well.

Answer 3

Well First of all have u talked to the girl, maybe asked her to a movie or dinner? tell the bullies that it doesn't matter if u are smooth with the ladies or not and that its non of there business. if any threats happen after that tell a trusted adult (mom, dad, teacher, principle or even a friend or relative) bullies like to pick on kids that r defenseless. so the bullies are actually cowards and cant pick on someone bigger, so think of that once u get picked on. also if u imagine them all embaressed in there underwear or something then it will make u fell like u have more confidence. hope this helped u. ps remeber dont start or ingage a fight.

Answer 4

Being the mom of a bullied kid...this is very familiar territory to me.

The answer is simple...but it's hard to do. Once you do it a few times, you'll be OK and they will eventually f^ck @ff!

Ignore them completely. You are such a great target for them because they get a response out of you every single time! Why should they quit? They're having a blast at your expense!

Walk by them...and keep on walking no matter what they say to you. Have you ever heard the saying, "Know when to pick your battles?" This is one of those times when you are fighting a losing battle. No matter how much you "stand up to them" they will keep winning, and you will keep feeling miserable about it!

Give it a shot, it worked for my son. Good luck!

Answer 5

Rally up a group of your friends and confront them. If you should find the need to fight, so be it. It's better to fight then be pushed around.

I've had very few problems in my life with people who try to bully me around and I've found that the best way to handle an entire group is to counter them with a group of your own. But, if it's one person then it's a one-on-one, of course.

Some people will find my strategy un-civilized and immature. But I ask those people: What's a better way to handle the problem? IMHO, there is no better way. Because bullies will be bullies. They don't negotiate and they don't fall into the rules of adults. Tell them straight up: Either fight now or **** off. Infact, I garuntee you if you do this, you'll never have a problem again.

Answer 6

I tell ya what you have to stand up for yourself no matter what they might do to you.....most bullies are just mouthy but there are some that are not but are you going to go through your whole life hiding and being scared from everybody that pushes you down, calls you names,\? You will never get anywhere in life if you dont fix it now and make a name for yourself and make yourself feel confident in things that you do. Its now what other people think of you anyway it is what you think of yourself and if this continues your self esteem will be low and you might never get it back up again.....hope to help

Answer 7

back in middle school I used to get picked on a lot for being a nerdy kind of guy. One day these bullies came over and started shoving me so i told them to stop and before you knew it I pulled my pants down and pooped right on the ground. The bullies were so astonished at what had just happened that they walked away bewildered from the excitement and stench. They never really talked to me again.

Answer 8

Like the old saying goes, "If you gonna talk trash you got to back it up", with a fist. Stand your ground and don't let those bullies push you around.

Answer 9

Best to report this behavior to your parents, and let them deal with it through your school authorities. It's wrong and does terrible things to a person's self esteem. I hope your school takes action against them. Some schools even suspend these types of creeps. Good luck, and don't wait any longer.

Answer 10

O.K. you're afraid of them. Stand up to them anyway. If you get knocked down, get up and attack them. The more guts and determination that you show them, the more that they will fear you. If you give in to today's bullies, you will be used as a doormat, by tomorrow's bullies.

Answer 11

Don't back down. That's the only way. If they get in your face just move in closer. If you think they're going to hit you, just go crazy on them and get your licks in while you can.

After a while, even if you keep losing, people will respect you.