Me and my fiance' want to go to Cancun Mexico. But we just can't afford both. So we were think to have a wedding here and not have a reception at all to afford our honeymoon to Mexico.
2007-04-27 11:36:01 · 27 answers · asked by lalacabore 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I know mexico is cheap but i have a really realy large fam and so does he. In this case we can't do both. Not too many things are cheap when you live suburban Philly.
2007-04-27 11:55:49 · update #1
Its just a question. AND NO its not for the gifts.
2007-04-27 14:35:02 · update #2
Thanks for all of your comments---But to those who think they know about what I'm thinking and think they know how I feel about this wedding you must really have alot of time on your hands judging others people's QUESTIONS-KEY WORD IS QUESTION!!! Telling me your opinion is one thing but---telling me what Im thinking is right or wrong and then judging a simple question is another. I some of you feel that a reception is really needed--PAY FOR IT--others wise say your opinion don't judge me cause you don't know me and stop thinking that you do!!!
2007-04-28 03:40:27 · update #3
What about getting married in Cancun and then having a party back home for everyone to celebrate. You can make the celebration party as formal or casual as you want (and can afford). Even an open house, or something at one of your parents homes.
2007-04-27 12:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by CincoBride 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Many people do inexpensive weddings. But if this had been asked in etiquette you'd have everyone quoting Emily Post and Miss Manners telling you that it is outrageously rude to not be willing to thank the guests that came so far. It comes across as you only invited them for the gifts.
One suggestions is just doing a cake and punch reception. For less than $100 you can get sheet cakes and make a punch for everyone. Just an opportunity after the wedding to see the friends and family that traveled to your wedding, thank the people who came, and give them the opportunity to meet your new husband.
You don't have to do some elaborate show--with dj, caterers, a huge tiered cake and an open bar. That is completely unnecessary.
Are you getting married in a church? Usually when you pay the cost for the church, they also allow you free access to the fellowship hall. Most brides don't use it as it's nothing fancy. However, it would not add extra money to your costs since you are on a tight budget. If you are not having a church wedding, but in an alternate location--you've already rented the location, why not use that for your reception as well.
A friend of mine had a BBQ reception for her country wedding. She opened up the house and asked a friend (with a smoker who makes bbq often) to cook a pig as his wedding present to her. Several members of the family/church made some side dishes--but slaw, beans, and potato salad are rather cheap dishes.
There are tons of inexpensive ways to have a reception for less than $200. But it would be very rude to say, "just put the gifts down--we're outta here". I mean they came to speak to you and your fiance, wish you well in your marriage--not to hand you presents. If you can't afford everything, have a smaller wedding with fewer guests.
2007-04-27 14:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. Sorry, but there is something terribly wrong here with what you think a wedding is all about. A wedding means having a ceremony where the couple takes their vows and the people attending are witnesses to it, then there is a reception (almost as important as the ceremony, really) where these guests of yours, family and friends celebrate your marriage that they witnessed earlier.
Frankly, your honeymoon plans are irrelevant. If you can't afford the honeymoon, you save and go another time, or do something local.
The reception doesn't have to be elaborate at all, doesn't matter what city you are in! It's all in the budgeting and planning.
Hope you rethink your initial plans.
2007-04-27 15:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lydia 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Like some of the others have said I suggest going to cancun and having your wedding there. Alot of hotels offer incentives and will pay for your honeymoon if you hold a wedding there.
look into it, in the long you might even save some money.
2007-04-27 12:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is your day not theres. have drinks or something right after with a small group and then that is that. you can always let it be known that it would be nice to have a "get together"when you get back and then hint that it would be a nice gift for others to put it together. i think you will find that will work nicely.
when my brother got married. the wedding was on one day and when they got back we put on the reception for the family who could not make it to the wedding and that saved the money for their honeymoon and it made a nice gift for the newlyweds. considering they already had their home together and it is hard to find gifts for that so we all gave them a party as our gift.
congratulations and may you have a long loving life together.
2007-04-27 12:34:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's absolutely OK!
your wedding is about the two of you.
do what you can afford, and what will make you happy.
my fiance and i are having a private ceremony for the same reason, because we feel we deserve a nice honeymoon and we can't afford a big wedding & reception beforehand!
good luck to you both, and may you share a long and happy life together!
2007-04-27 12:36:07 · answer #6 · answered by jj 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about having your wedding in Cancun, that way you are getting the best of both worlds - your wedding and your perfect place. This will also keep the numbers down as not everyone will be able to travel.
2007-04-27 12:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by cheap_wedding_solutions 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess it would be ok, but you are going to have some people who will be a bit put off by you not having a recption after the ceremony. Instead of the wedding up here, why not just get married in Cancun?
2007-04-27 11:43:40 · answer #8 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Too many people think only about the wedding and not about the marriage. Why don't you elope in Cancun and just send out wedding announcements?
Don't listen to the jerks who are telling you that you're selfish. All traditional weddings do is cause stress. They aren't personal, and they are very rarely about the bride and groom. It's all about entertaining guests. Why does a marriage have to start off with stress and debt? It doesn't! Do things your way. If people are mad because you aren't having a reception, then they are the selfish ones who probably only want free food and booze.
Congratulations and good luck!
2007-04-27 16:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Unless someone offers to pay for the reception, do it your way. However, if his parents for example would like you to have a large reception except the offer only if they are willing to pick up the bill. If no one wants to pay then no one should feel offended that you don't want to pay for a reception either! Or just elope and skip both parts.
2007-04-27 12:03:05 · answer #10 · answered by Krystal 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋