He is young and believes he is doing his country good service,
how can I look at him and encourage him on when I do not believe we should stay in the middle of a civil war? When I believe the will of the people shows it should stop and Our President is not listening? How do I hide my fear of his being returned to me in pieces and for what ? A Country that is hell bent on killing all its citizens? What do I tell him the day he leaves?
2007-04-27 10:51:55 · 22 answers · asked by searching 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
For those who do not understand this question I have a very good relationship with my child, my job has always been to give my children advice and love,
it is very difficult to allow him to believe blindly in his government and follow them when my conscious is screaming no.
2007-04-27 11:34:20 · update #1
This is so difficult, and my heart breaks for you. All you can do is to love him, and miss him, and pray for him, and write to him as often as you can.
It would be much easier if the people we love all shared our same political views, but that isn't always the case. You have obviously done a fine job of raising a young man with strong values - he loves his family and wants to serve his country. He is old enough now to make decisions which may not have been the ones you want him to make, and one of the most difficult parts about being a parent is to love him for the child he was while respecting the grown man he now is.
Regardless of one's feelings about the Iraq war (for the record, I happen to agree with you), our service personnel deserve our highest support and respect. I'll keep you and your family in my prayers.
2007-04-27 17:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mel 6 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Tell him your proud of him for being a man. A good man at that. He's doing the right thing. Not to mention, I'll be right beside him as I leave for Iraq June 9th. I, and many men like us take pride in what we do and regardless of an opinion on political drive, a whole country is thanking us and living better because of what we're doing. Tell him you're behind him 100%.
2007-04-27 14:00:50 · answer #2 · answered by Billy Bob 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Look at him with pride - because you apparently did a good job raising your son.
And once he gets there - listen to what he has to say. Then wonder about why what he sees and what you base your opinions on do not agree.
Personally, I think that you need to talk to some people who have actually been in Iraq because you have some really erroneous ideas.
Hint: it is not a civil war in Iraq. The media just says this because it sounds more dramatic.
2007-04-27 13:08:49 · answer #3 · answered by MikeGolf 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The same way my dad looked at me....with pride. Yes Bush is an A hole but you can't alwase work for your ideal boss, I know its a little different cause lives are an the line but it is a job and its under contract. When his time is up he can get out, as long as he does the best to support the men arround him and you do the best to support your son thats all that maders.
2007-04-27 11:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by tommy 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You sure are a scary mom. You should look him in the eye and be PROUD of him and support his decisions. Children almost always do something that parents dont agree with (I know I made many crazy decisions in my teenage years, and my parents probably thought I was nuts to run off and marry my soldier), but our job as parents is to love and support our children. Love your son unconditionally. And if you arent giving him the support he needs, I hope he finds it elsewhere. Keep your opinions about the war to yourself and find other ways to vent those issues.
2007-04-27 13:48:06 · answer #5 · answered by an88mikewife 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
The same way you look at him in the eye when he does anything else you do not agree with. Your job as a parent is not to live his life for him but to encourage him to live his life for himself.
If it helps, you can tell him what my dad told my brother and I when we went to Iraq. "While I may not agree with your choices I'm proud to know that I raised a son who is not afraid to stand up for what he believes is right".
It takes courage and moral fortitude to stand up for what you believe when others disagree. Sounds like you raised your son well.
2007-04-27 11:27:41 · answer #6 · answered by David C 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
You tell him you love him and you're proud of him. You tell him to do the best he can and to act in such a way that it gives honor to what he is doing. Anyone can affect positive change in any job. He won't be able to change the overall situation, but at least the people who come into contact with him might be able to remember his moral fortitude.
2007-04-27 10:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't want your child to go to war and not know if you're ever going to see them again or if they might get killed in Iraq. We don't know what it is like to be in the middle of a war andI'm guessing it hurts a lot. Just be sure HE understands how you FEEL...
2007-04-27 11:50:13 · answer #8 · answered by Apples69 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
NICE: just tell him you love him and you dont agree with it but you hope to see him again, and just tell him to be careful and aware, and he might make it outta there.
NOT SO NICE: Tell him he was not brought up as a retarded half wit blindly following a gluttonous republican agenda with no thoughts or questions of his own.
sorry lady i hope when that day comes you can handle it, and I also hope your son survives
2007-04-27 15:50:35 · answer #9 · answered by take it or leave it 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Look at him with love, joy and how proud you are of him. It is the hardest goodbye any parent has to say. For your son he is doing this for his country. We are all proud of him and wish him a safe return.
2007-04-27 11:29:45 · answer #10 · answered by Feline05 5 · 5⤊ 1⤋