She will be coming back in a few weeks, but an exact date has not been set. Many people have raised their eyebrow when they here this, but I don't think it's a big deal. I'm a single mom and needed a break, and she's with family. What's the big deal? It would be great to hear both sides of this one...
2007-04-27 10:45:45 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I work with a girl who "farms" her child out to her parents all the time - 1 week/month before he was in school. Her excuse is that she needs a break because her husband is out of town 3 or 4 days a week... Well, guess what even though I'm married I still need a break every once in awhile too and do you know what I do - I get a babysitter for a few hours and go shopping, out to dinner etc... I don't send my child away! Your child is your responsibility - not your mother's. I personally, do not think it is good parenting - just my opinion!
2007-04-27 11:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by KaseyT33 4 · 1⤊ 5⤋
I think its great that your family wanted to take your daughter so that they could bond with her and you get a break at the same time. I do have to have add this: I was a single mom too and the most my kids were gone from me was 2 weeks when my oldest daughter took a vaca with her dad when she was 3 and by the end of that 2 weeks I was dying to have her back. I now have a 10 year old daughter, 23 month old son, and one due in July. I havent had a "break" since my son was born and I would love to have one but I think the most I could handle him being gone is a weekend - maybe a week - maybe... but your situation doesnt make you a bad mom. I have family here and now a husband that can help out when I need it. I may feel different is I was completely by myself with no support system near by. No one here knows your exact situation and no one knows your family so I wouldnt take anything anyone says here too much to heart. when she does get back she may be hesitant at first especially the longer she is away from you due to how young she is. Know this and be ready for it and make sure not to be upset at her if she doesnt react the way you think she is going to when you get her from her grandma.
2007-04-27 18:03:33 · answer #2 · answered by Kristin Pregnant with #4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents and my aunt BEG me to let my 4 yr old son stay with them. It's a big fight either way. At this point in time, he is an only child. I think it's a good experience for children to see that there is more out there than what they are used too. We live in a pretty big town, and take advantage of what it offers of course. my Parents live in a tiny town of 500 people, laid back, quiet and safe. My aunt lives on a ranch with animals galore that he can touch, and feed and chase. And my aunt is even teaching him to ride horse. ( I should add that she has 3 kids of her own and her horses are VERY TRUSTWORTHY, and he is, technicly just being lead around on one for now) You don't have much of that in a big city. And while at either place he is completely surounded by a flood of family. Another thing that he doen't have here at home. I do admit that I am lost and lonely without my little boy, but part of being a good parent, also requires you to spend some time on yourself, how ever long that may be. Due to issues with work, the last time he spent time away from us out of state, he had to stay for a week and a half before either of us got time off to go get him. It killed me. He enjoys it so much that he cries when he leaves to come back with us. As long as your little girl is in good hands, which i'm sure she is, and you feel right by it, there is nothing wrong with allowing your family to take over for a bit.
2007-04-28 00:41:55 · answer #3 · answered by Wild1577 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Colleen and Kasey need to get a grip. If your family has little or no contact with your child (being as they're in a different state) then being able to stay with them to get to know them and to bond is the most wonderful thing in the world. Though I do raise an eye brow at the "no set time". The most I got to stay with my grandma was a week. We had been doing it since I was 2 or 3. Being a single mom is hard, I know this. You need a break, more power to you! Maybe Colleen and Kasey are jealous because they're family disowned them 'cause all they're kids are from different daddys.... :)
2007-04-27 22:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by Ghost Writer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Mom LOVES having her grandbabies (16 mo old b/g twins) at her house for a visit!! They have gone to Grandma's house for weekends when I have had something with work to do or just so she can spend time with them and be a Grandma!! We live 3 hours apart and I call every day, several times a day!! I talk to the twins on the phone and always get "reports" of how they are sleeping, eating, playing, etc. I LOVE it when they come home!! I miss them the entire time they are gone, but YES as a single mom we do need a break every once in a while!
I wouldn't worry about what other people think. Like I said, my Mom loves having them there and taking them shopping, showing them off to her friends and just having fun with them. She even asks when she can "have" them again for a weekend. She comes to visit and encourages me to go out with friends in the evening!! Gotta love Mom/Grandma!! 8^)
2007-05-01 12:28:40 · answer #5 · answered by heatherle74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see nothing wrong with grandma and granddaughter having some special time together. Since you live in a different state this will give them a wonderful opportunity to bond and build a relationship. As a single mom you need some time off to rest and rejuvinate. However, don't forget that you are the mom and your daughter needs you. You also need to keep in mind that your mother may not want the responsibility and extra work for an extended period of time. Make sure your mother isn't burning out and that you are not taking advantage of her.
2007-04-27 17:52:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
More Power to you!!!! I think that is great that you will have some time to your self, and your daughter will get a break. If she doesnt see Grandma much I say GO FOR IT!!!! All moms are entitled to Me time. a lot of people Dont realize how hard it is being a single mom... I have been a single mom for 4 and a half years now and you better believe me when I say that I Love it when He goes to Grandmas or Grandpas for a little while. It doesnt mean you dont love her any less.... youll miss her like Crazy and She will miss you, but Its not going to Kill either of you!!!! Just make sure to call her and let her know you love her and miss her!!!! Well Good Luck, and Enjoy your time free!!!!!
2007-04-27 19:16:41 · answer #7 · answered by ~ Rachel B.~ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is, I find it hard to leave my daughter with Grandma for just one night, let alone a few weeks. I ball my eyes out and don't know what to do with myself. But, I guess some people don't experience that. It doesn't make you a bad mother, so don't let people criticize you for it. So you need a break. I'm sure you'll be thankful to finally have her home though.
2007-04-27 17:54:54 · answer #8 · answered by ticktock 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I couldn't part with my kids. We had to travel for my husband's work and left the kids with my sister for three days and I was a wreck. My husband works from 7:30am to 10:00pm or later everyday and so I am alone with the kids all the time and have to do everything by myself but I still don't need more than a naptime's worth of break. A few days I could see but a few weeks would be too much for me.
2007-04-27 17:52:15 · answer #9 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't see anything wrong with it. It's just the same as if she was older and going to visit for the summer. I think it's good that if you need a break to take one. It will probably make you a better mommy than being stressed out all the time.
2007-04-27 18:00:15 · answer #10 · answered by Nyomi's Mommy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋