i have a five year old who wont listen to a word that i say. ive tried everything someone help me?

Question

spakings taking away hes fovorite toy no tv u name it ive tried it

Answer 1

Try more difficult consequenses. No TV for a week take away several toys etc. The trick is to follow throgh with your words and don't give in. Children at this age will test you as long as you let them. Be consistent. No spanking needed.

Answer 2

He is five years old...not twenty five. He is a child, he doesn't think like an adult. Spankings aren't going to work because he doesn't know WHY you are hitting him. All you are teaching him by spanking is that it is okay to hit when you are angry or frustrated...so in a few years when someone on the playground at school makes HIM angry you're going to get a call that your son has been suspended from school for beating on that other child. I used to go by this rule when my daughter was small and I didn't have many problems with her.
"A child has the right to: A roof over their head, food in their stomach, clothes on their back. A child has the right to a warm comfortable place to sleep at night and a loving supportive atmosphere in which to grow.
A child does NOT have the right to: on demand television viewing, on demand video gameing, on demand computer access, on demand phone. All of these things are PRIVELIGES and should be EARNED rather than handed over the moment the child says "I want". Priveliges are EARNED by following the "house rules" and obeying their parents, by acting appropriately they will be rewarded." I also used time outs which were quite effective when I would explain to my daughter WHY she was getting the time out before I placed her there and reminded her WHY she was in time out when I took her out. I never had to resort to physical "punishment" in order to parent effectively. I don't view hitting (spanking) to be either effective or intelligent, it only proves to the child that indeed you don't have the intelligence to parent effectively without resorting to physical punishment. Apes hit their offspring, I'm smarter than an ape.

Answer 3

I'm the mother of a VERY VERY bright but stubborn and sometimes downrigh ornery 5 year old too! I have literally been in tears and pulling out my hair over some of the things she has done before and being so frusterated at the lack of "listening". It's likely not your son's hearing; it would be very apparent in all areas if that were the problem.

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Answer 4

have you tried time outs? Kids hate to stay in a place they don't want to be. Don't raise your voice to him or spank him. It won't work. You need to sit down and explain to him what he has done and why what he has done is not okay. If he doesn't correct his action then you can put him in time out for a length of time, and he can only come out if he agrees to behave correctly. I also see parents overly yelling at their kids for minor things as well. Parents will YELL at their kids for picking up an item at a grocery store, when it isn't necessary. You need to decide what is really crossing the line (for punishment) and what is not. When you take away toys, yell, spank on a daily basis they get used to it.

Answer 5

Train them by giving them a tiny treat when they do obey, i.e., positive reinforcement. Another idea is to give them so many minutes on their favorite game or tv if they do what you want. 2 minutes for eating one green bean or whatever. Negative reinforcement isn't very helpful with that age.

Answer 6

Try to spend more time with him. Once kids are in school full time and seem fine playing on their own, you forget to pay attention to them.

This is him telling you he wants to spend more quality time.

That and consistent time outs should do it.

Answer 7

If there is no medical reason for it, try just ignoring him. Children crave attention, so if he isn't getting any, perhaps he will begin to listen.

Answer 8

have you had his vision and hearing tested? He could have problems with either one that could be prevent him from the task at hand (focusing on what you want him to do).

Answer 9

just grab him by the arm..like if u wanted him to pick up toys..then you grab his arm and pick up the toys..so its either he does it or he comes along anyway

Answer 10

He might be deaf?