At the starting of 7th grade there was this girl who asked me to be her friend and I said yeah. She was a girl I knew that everyone hated but I thought I'd give her a chance. Now she sends me like 20 emails a day and gets in trouble for talking to me in class. I don't talk back to her, so I don't see why I'M the one who gets in trouble. She is way too honest and tells me all my flaws including my friends. She's such a bugger! And I don't know when to believe her because she ALWAYS lies. She says she doesn't anymore but who knows? She could be lying about THAT TOO! I think I'm obsessed with her, but how can I not? She's always trying to be with me. I've called her many names before like brat, loser, freak and more and I even tell rumors about her but she won't take the hint. She knows I hate her, but she won't leave me alone!
2007-04-27 09:33:13 · 15 answers · asked by demon_prada_girl 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
srry i didnt mean 2 put this in pets and dogs i never realized lol oops!
2007-04-27 09:38:53 · update #1
First, IGNORE HER! Be the bigger person here and don't let some stupid chick get to you like that!
Second, you might want to consider posting this in another section - It really doesn't have anything to do with dogs!
2007-04-27 09:37:05 · answer #1 · answered by Yo LO! 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Tell her you no longer want to be her friend. If that subtle hint goes unnoticed, be rude to her, treat her like she doesn't exist, turn your back on her, walk away from her, anything so long as you are not trapped into putting up with her.
You say "She is way too honest " and yet "she ALWAYS lies", so you don't need her conversations. However you will have to watch your back. You might develop an undeserved reputation of some sort.
Now if you'll excuse me I have to let the dog in.
2007-04-27 09:53:09 · answer #2 · answered by itsmyitch 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What a great person you are to have given her a chance when everyone else avoided her.
Maybe you should have a talk with her and say something like - maybe the reason you have no friends is because . . . (and list all the reasons you stated in your question above).
This might open her eyes. Tell her you'd like to be her friend but not if she continues to get you into trouble or any other things she does that's annoying you.
2007-04-27 09:38:34 · answer #3 · answered by Jenn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Often, people like this don't understand subtlety. You will have to tell her that you would prefer that she not hang around you anymore. Be precise, tell her not to talk to you in class and that you will only accept one email a day from her and the rest will be deleted without reading. Forget about the nasty names and the rumors, that only lowers your status to hers. The hardest thing for a chronic liar to hear is the truth.
2007-04-27 12:13:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ah well wrong category but I'm answering anyway.....
This situation sounds SO familiar to me. In my first year at uni, I went through the same thing with a girl who I eventually came to realise was the most awful person I have ever met. She was an arch manipulator, and managed to get away with treating me like scum for nearly two years, yet for some bizarre reason I was under the illusion she was my real friend! She borrowed all my money and never gave it back, shoplifted stuff if I didn't buy it for her, was lazy and selfish and managed to make me feel like it was MY fault if things went wrong in her life and generally made me feel absolutely horrible. We used to have the most gigantic arguments where I would swear I never wanted to talk to her again - I even hated her - and yet somehow we ended up being mates again. Eventually, with the help of my sisters and some other friends I gradually came to realise that trying to be friends with her was only destructive to me, and I managed to shake her off, but it wasn't easy. In fact, it was hell.
How do people manage to do this to others? I'm not a walk over, and will forever kick myself for being such a mug for so long, it was so unlike me. It's often only in retrospect you see the truth of the situation once and for all. The more I think about this girl, the more I realised the extent of her lies - I actually think the majority of things she said and did were lies, lies, lies. I never knew it was possible for someone to lie so much THAT convincingly.
I strongly advise you to lose this girl, she's obviously not a real friend and having her in your life is only going to be bad for you. If it's anything like what I went through (and it sounds like it) it won't be easy but it will be necessary.
In the end I got this scumbag cow out of my life by just not talking to her, except to calmly tell her than I didn't like her, we weren't friends, and I wasn't having her in my life anymore. She perservered for ages, and she kept showing up and causing havoc in my life for about another year, prank phone calls and other sad stuff, but in the end it was over. You need the support of other people to do this too - friends? family? teachers?
This girl is a bully and has serious issues - don't let her drag you down with her. Just be glad you get to learn this lesson at age 13, I had to wait til I was 21 to learn what people can really be like!
Chalice
2007-04-27 10:32:58 · answer #5 · answered by Chalice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it could be that her home life is not stable and is sick for company even if the person hates her try not to talk too her or try to tell her to clam down on the e-mail and talking in class talk to your mom people like that can snap and kill people you need to talk to someone a grown up and see what they think you need to do and be careful around her
2007-04-27 09:41:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
explain all the things you don't like about her to her,then tell her these are the reasons that you can no longer be friends with her,if she is willing to stop,then she is a true friend,if she really wants you as a friend she will try changing her ways,if not cut all your ties with her
2007-04-27 11:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by hotrotties08 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have not made it clear to her then do so. If that do not work go to a superior at school.
From now on, make your limits clear with people you are around. I made this mistake once and learned well from it.
2007-04-27 09:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can block her e-mail address.
You can move away from her in class (just ask the teacher)
Or just get a restraining order!
2007-04-27 09:38:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
drama, drama, drama......
see guys dont have this problem....whoops....im gonna get some thumbs down for that .........
Tell her to leave you alone....then, just stop talking about her....let her do whatever she wants....just ignore her...eventually she'll go away......
2007-04-27 09:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by bob 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋