i started watching this little girl, since monday, i want to be a nice person?

Question

but, she just told me she had no money to pay me intill her mom can transfer her some money behind her father's back, and i have to pick her up myself from 430pm to what ever time she comes, one time she came at 11pm i was so mad and exausted since i have to be up at 6am anyway she olny offer 20.00 dollars a day, and i feed her and her mom wants me to feed her too when she comes to pick her up she wants to come in and sit for awhile, i just want her to pich her up and go home, so today am going to tell her that am not baby sitting her nomore i feel am taken advantage off, she is going traing school, because they order her to do that since she lives in a shelter. what should i do.

Answer 1

um she is useing u.. dont baby sit no more until u get money

Answer 2

This question is about what's best for you and how you see things.

I always felt that what comes around goes around.

It may be perceptual that you feel taken advantage of in some way; had the girls mom had Money, and failed to share it with you, despite the fact you watch her kid all day, I might agree that your being taken advantage of. Yet, the mom is in a shelter without much money; However, she did come in a 11pm which leaves the question " what was she up to at that time".

Be up front, tell her you baby sit for this time period, for this sum.

This is a fair proposition and it leaves You the option of work and her the option of deciding what she wants to do also.

Answer 3

you are definitely being taken advantage of. I used to babysit for a co-worker of my husband who had a habit of "forgetting" his wallet.

I had to firmly set down some guidelines. I wrote up a "fact sheet" stating I was willing to babysit until 6pm for a fee of $40 a day. If they were later than 6pm, they would be charged $10 an hour for the additional time. They had to pay the $40 daily charge on the day of service or I would not babysit again until they had paid off the balance they owed me.

Offer her a similar arrangement at whatever daily rate you feel is fair. If she is unable to pay you, then she needs to find another babysitter/daycare. Perhaps she can check with the trade school, a lot of schools have day cares that charge based on the student's income level.

Answer 4

Tell her to find someone else, she is using you.

I am sorry that she is in a shelter, but she obviously has no regard for you at all when you have to get up at 6:00 a.m. and she just comes whenever she feels like it to pick her up. And the way you say she goes to training school because they make her, it sounds like she is only doing it because she has to. And she should not expect you to feed them both when you are not even getting paid.

Sometimes people like that have to find out how tough it can be with no help at all before they learn to appreciate the help
when they do get it.

Answer 5

You're being used. 20 dollars a day is no where near enough. If the government is ordering her to take classes because she lives in a shelter, you best believe that they either arrange chilcare themselves, or allow children to come. The government isnt going to make a homeless person magically find care for their child to attend classes. And NO training class goes to 11. 8:00, at the latest. Something sketchy is going on, stop babysitting for her.

Answer 6

well, it sounds like she is going through tough times. its nice of you to help out. but if you feel taken advantage of then maybe you should stop. $20 a day is a lot of money to someone living in a shelter. Thats like a hundred a week. Most daycares charge about 150- a week. But a good friend will work it out in trade.

Answer 7

It's really sad that's she is in that situation, but you do not have to put up with it. If she is in such a horrible financial situation, there is government help. WIC (women infants & children) isn't just for babies, it's for women with children who need help. Also, there are government programs that provide daycare. She's waiting for her mother to give her money, so she obviously has a mother, if worse comes to worse, do you think her mother would let them starve or go into poverty? Probably not, the mother can watch the kid for her or help her out. Tell her you're not available, I know it will be really hard but you need to. Maybe your mom can help you handle the situation. Good luck!

Answer 8

You just need to politely tell her that this arrangement is no longer working for you. Let her know when your last day watching her child will be and stick it out until then. You probably won't see any money from her, and she may yell and scream at you (she has nothing to lose at this point). Then chalk it up to a learning experience and set more concrete expectations and requirements next time.

Answer 9

i'm sure she's not taking advantage of you. She's just unable to find a caregiver with the amount she can afford. You can let her know that you arent able to care for her with the pay you are receiving, but maybe she can find other assistance. The mom can get child care assistance checks from the government, if you want to give her that advice.

Answer 10

You have to take care of yourself and your family. If you have horrendous guilt don't tell her the complete truth. Just tell her this is too much on you and give her a weeks notice. That will give her a chance to find replacement care. I definitely would not watch the girl for the long term.

Answer 11

If she lives in a shelter she is probably getting financial aid. And the state will also pay for childcare! So tell her you won't babysit anymore until she can pay you! I have had that happen to me before.