Soul mates?

Question

I used to beleive in soul mates I don't anymore. Not the way I used to anyway. Now I'm thinking it's all about who you are and what you want but how long is it going to take for me to find someone compatable. Is there a formula for this sort of thing?

Thoughts on compatablility please.

So far I'm loving the honest responses. Like I said my ideas on the subject has changed and I could spend forever trying to define it but hearin others opinions helps me understand what i definately don't want.

Comments please!

Answer 1

No, I don't think there's a formula, but I did read somewhere that over half of married couples surveyed had met through mutual friends or family. The rest met at work or through company events/networking, and a few met by chance (bar, elevator, coffee shop, etc.)

So I guess what I'm trying to tell you is that the larger your circle of friends/acquaintances, the greater your chance of finding someone you are compatible with.

Take me, for instance: I met my hubby through mutual friends. Neither one of us was looking to be in a relationship, since we had both been burned pretty bad, and were just looking to have a good time bowling the night we first met.

There was no "love at first sight", since love is all about knowing the person inside and out, but I will say that I knew he would make some sort of impact on my life. I didn't know how, but I could feel this . . . energy between us. I guess it did the trick!

I think if you are looking for that "magic moment" you may end up being disappointed more often than not. You want sparks and chemistry, but making love at first sight a requirement is unreasonable.

Mu hubby and I got married 9 months after we first met. Everyone is different, but for us it worked out really well. I guess you could call us soulmates, but what I always like to say is "we may not be perfect, but we're perfect for each other." We fight and make up and squabble like any other married couple, but I can honestly say I am madly in love with him.

I call him my penguin :D

Answer 2

I used to have a woman co-worker who desperately wanted to find her "husband for life." She had several dates a week for many years and was never satisfied with her suitors. Although she shopped for men like she was at a fire-sale, no matter what, she'd always find an unacceptable flaw. As the years passed, she became more and more depressed, eventually turning to homosexuality in her search for love. To my knowledge she never found happiness.

In the same department, we had a man from Iran. He had never been on a date in his life and his parents arranged his marriage. The first time he saw his bride was 24 hours before he married her. Amazingly, his marriage is healthy and happy. He's got an adoring wife and several beautiful children. They've now been married over thirty years and if you saw them together, you'd swear they were custom made for each other.

My point is that good marriages are created by two partners working together to build a healthy and strong relationship. You will never find happiness if you relentlessly date one man after another, searching for Prince Charming in an infinite pool of ordinary men. Human men and women have a standard set of complementary instincts that allow them to love the one they're with. All you have to do is stop shopping around and commit to someone who will commit to you. Then just let nature take its course.

Answer 3

Hey babe! Don't worry about looking for a solemate. The world will make you believe there is one person out there of the opposite gender who has everything in common with you! Don't listen to that lie!!! Relationships happen between two people who are friends and will spend time with each other. Spend time with enough people to see if you are interested in anyone and that is how you will meet your match.

Answer 4

Compatibility is the ability of each parter to meet the needs of the other.

That is 1/2 of a good relationship. The other have is a strong underlying friendship.

Answer 5

Yes there is a formula , or better there is an algorithm for this. You need to google for the hall and marriage and discrete :

http://mathworld.wolfram.com/MarriageTheorem.html


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Answer 6

Don't worry about when you'll find a soul mate-
It will happen naturally...

Answer 7

i believe that when 2 soul mates meet, they will lock eyes, the entire world around them will slow down and in that moment, they will fall in love.

Answer 8

Maybe you are looking in the wrong places.