Ok, if you get confused I'm really sorry.
Next month is a very busy month for me. For one, I have a doctor's appointment Thursday May 10th at 3:00PM and will have to take time off from work for that (2 hours to be exact as I get off at 5). Also, my 21st birthday is Wednesday May 16th and my boss has suggested I take the following Monday off (the 21st) just in case of a hangover from the weekend I plan on having. My brother's elementary school graduation is Wednesday May 23rd and I plan on taking time off to be able to go see him graduate. My mother informed me today that my cousin in Houston, Texas (we live in central Georgia) will be graduating Friday May 25th and told me to also take time off to fly to her graduation. I told her I wouldn't be able to make the trip because I'll be taking enough time off from work as it is. I've only been at my job for 4 months and didn't want to make an early bad impression. Continued.....
2007-04-27 08:15:10 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mother is upset with me that I refuse to take time off and my cousin will surely be upset. My mother even suggested I miss my brother's graduation to go to my cousin's but I told her no because my brother is... well, my brother, and means more to me than my cousin would obviously. What should I do?
2007-04-27 08:16:50 · update #1
Diosa, who said anything about a wedding? lol!
2007-04-27 08:22:33 · update #2
Sorry, but my family here in Georgia plans on throwing me a pretty big, drunken 21st birthday bash and has told me I must sucome to their demands of me that weekend. I'm pretty sure I'm gonna need that Monday.
2007-04-27 08:23:51 · update #3
Also, due to certain health problems I have, the dr's appointment can't be changed...
2007-04-27 08:44:06 · update #4
My brother's graduation is 9:30 AM that Wednesday so I'll be able to go into work afterwards.
2007-04-27 09:15:14 · update #5
Your mother is being unreasonable. No if's, and's or but's about that. Here you are, trying to maturely coordinate your own schedule as an ADULT, with the great support of a nice new boss. A person can only DO SO MUCH WITHIN A GIVEN AMOUNT OF TIME THAT REQUIRES CHOICES TO BE MADE. You have done a stellar job of this and sharing the information with your Mother, AND, by making a winning choice to attend your brother's graduation over that of your cousin's.
Stick to your guns. Your mother is out of line - and I say that, AS A MOTHER myself of a young adult...I would expect him to put me in my place on this matter.
Goodluck dear...
Sincerely.
Grace
2007-04-27 08:26:31 · answer #1 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry my Mom would just have to be upset. You are already taking more days off than anyone should with only 4mths on the job.
Is your brother graduation during the day? Most of these function are at 6 or 7pm. If that is the case there is no need for you to take off work. If you have to you can change at work and leave from there.
No matter how "big" the b-day bash is, I assume this will be on Friday or Saturday, why would you need the following Monday off. You will have all day Sunday to "recuperate".
Even without having taken any days off it is still unreasonable for you mother to expect you to take off at least one day possible 2 to fly to Texas to see a cousin graduate. I understand graduation is a big deal, but geez. Also some schools only allow a certain number of people per graduate to attend the ceremony. Will you even be allowed to attend? Flying to Texas can be costly, plus the time missed from work, and other trip related expenses. Just used part of the money you would have lost and send her a large cash graduation present!
2007-04-27 16:22:00 · answer #2 · answered by just being helpful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a professional stand point, the doctors appointment is fine. But I would choose one out of the other three to take off, that is if you honestly want to make a decent impression. My suggestion; take the Dr. appointment, but only use a half a day. Then pick your brother's graduation. As for your birthday, you can party Friday and Saturday and recover Sunday. But you should be at work that following Monday. As for your cousin, send her a graduation gift, and call it a day, your mom will get over being upset with you. That way you have only used 1.5 days for the month, instead of 5 in one month.
2007-04-27 15:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you are having a bash for your birthday does not mean you need a day off for a hangover. You are an adult with adult responsibilities. Don't get drunk and go to work on Monday.
Do you need an entire day off for your brother's graduation? Maybe just a morning or an afternoon?
If you were my employee taking that much time off & had only worked for 4 months - I would not be thinking very highly of you.
2007-04-27 16:06:43 · answer #4 · answered by molly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely not take the 21st off. Speak to your boss and explain you would rather work that day but have the 25th rather. As you say you have only been there for 4 months and that would be pushing your luck a little bit. First see what days you can get off before accepting any invitations. Definitely your brother is your first priority. Good luck and Happy birthday for the 16th.
2007-04-27 15:27:58 · answer #5 · answered by Kevon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your brothers graduation skip the cousins graduation go to work the Monday after your birthday after all its on a wed and you have all of Fri and sat to truly celebrate and that gives you Sunday to recover. After all you can go out and party every weekend know if you want. As far as your mom is concerned you are grown and she will have to understand and get over it. Good luck.
2007-04-27 15:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by pandamgy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I understand that he is your brother but it is just an Elementary School graduation. Just work early and get out so that you can take him to dinner or something cause a wedding is more important but if you are not close then don't worry about and yes, you are missing too much work and will end up loosing your job if you keep it up. Good luck!
2007-04-27 15:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by diosacubana04 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ots a good advice to skip the hangover monday and go to work
but if not, your mother should understand
maybe she has some family obligations and thats why shes insisting so much
let her be upset
you know whats best 4 u!
2007-04-27 15:28:33 · answer #8 · answered by ADA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am still not sure why you are planning on taking the 21st off for a possible hangover. How about you start off your adult life by being carefull and don't plan on drinking to excess.
Then you will have an extra day to schedule.
2007-04-27 15:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by chinamigarden 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ok...i read all of the answers before mine...and I would probably have to agree with Diosa....except for the wedding part? LOL...what wedding?
2007-04-27 15:27:54 · answer #10 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋