She is 25 and still living at home,just graduated from college last May.. and is not a nice person to live with. I have lost all control over her and can't get her to help with the house or even be nice. Oh, and she is a Type I diabetic so she needs to be living with someone. She is ruining my marriage [not to her day, 2nd one for me] No one should have to put up with her crap but I can't get her to get it together. She has always been this way. HELP!!!! How to I take back control? How can I help her so she is in control of her thoughts and actions???
2007-04-27 08:11:28 · 9 answers · asked by dana 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a13yr old son with ADD, he has been on medicine since he was 6 and doing great. I'm 40 and about 2 years ago when my live in and I split up I started having panic attacks. I went to see a therapist and discovered that I also have ADD, I saw what medicine did for my son so I started to take it also. It has changed my life, my moods are less erratic, I can get things done and stay on track with what I am doing and to tell you the truth it was the best thing I ever did. Can get her to the doctor and see if medicine is an option? Maybe you can check the CHADD website for some more answers or support. Hope this helps.
2007-04-27 08:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by Girly1 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You give her an ultimatum, that she boths has SPECIFIC chores to do AND be more civil, or she needs to move out into another's house and rent a room. If she rants and raves, tell her you're sorry, but you are not about to allow her to manipulate you in YOUR OWN HOME, and, that if she doesn't start cooperating, you will follow through and the NEXT confrontation will be TELLING her to leave and giving her 30 days in which to find a place to live. If she doesn't heed you then?
See if you can't get the both of you into counseling for a few sessions to arbitrate the situation, and perhaps even your relationship...She needs to grow up - you need to get on with your life, as she does. I'm wondering if this second husband isn't resented by her? Hm...counseling will reveal all in a safe environment.
Goodluck...
Sincerely,
Grace
2007-04-27 15:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She has ADD and she graduated college? I'd say that is pretty darn good for a person with that problem. As for the other problem, Mary Tyler Moore is the same type diabetic and she manages on her own. If you want to help your daughter, find some way she can live on her own! Get in touch with a diabetic association!
2007-04-27 15:20:27 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that maybe you should do a little research on ADD. You have no compassion for your daughter. I pity her growing up with a parent who did not understand her needs. Now that she is older then you should talk to a social worker with her, to help find out what things she could do to help her get her life in a little order.
2007-04-27 15:17:23 · answer #4 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's 25 ... Cut the cord. Make her go out on her own. Sounds like she needs a dose of reality. By the way ... I really hate this ADD for adults crap. I don't buy it.
One good thing about ADD for adults ... It helped the pharmaceutical companies tap into a whole new market. It seems as though they have tapped out the kids ...
2007-04-27 15:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
You are her mother and that will never change. You find her a group home to live in. Or leave thing the way they are because she is your daughter.
2007-04-27 15:21:16 · answer #6 · answered by LDJ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My boys both had attention deficit disorder, and she in no way resembles how they are. Are you sure that this is it and not manic depressive or something? I would kick her butt out. She will find someone else to drive nuts!
2007-04-27 15:16:47 · answer #7 · answered by karenhar 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Get her into counselling with the goal of her living independently.
2007-04-27 15:15:48 · answer #8 · answered by SueB 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like she should have been put on meds years ago. Send her to the best doctor (a real doctor, not a PhD) you can afford.
2007-04-27 15:15:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋