Just curious, as to how many people have been dumped out of a relationship, because of being mentally ill? Did they leave you when you were in the hospital? Did they stick around for that and then leave you? Or has your lover stuck by you the whole way through.
Do you think being ill has driven people way from you? Does this, inturn make it hard to trust others? Just curious, as to to other's experience!
Please discuss and share :)
2007-04-27 07:33:59 · 5 answers · asked by Spider in the Salt 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Good question!First I'd like to say, THEY SHOULD BE YOUR SUPPORT, NOT YOUR WHOLE ARMY! This is why.. I have multiples of mental issues, as well as physical ones! I started dating and even got married before I even realized that I had real problems. It was impossible for me to be a good partner, because I expected too much from someone else, I expected him to comfort me and make everything perfect for me. Others had left me but I never expected my hubby to. It was about 2yrs into our marriage when I found out there was a real problem(I wasn't just imagining things!) He hung in there but he had his own battles to fight and all WE did was fight. After he left, I really took some time to evaluate my life and I've learned that YOU HAVE TO BE ABLE TO LIVE WITH YOURSELF AND YOUR PROBLEMS BEFORE YOU CAN EXPECT ANYONE ELSE TO ALSO! Remember, EVERYONE has problems, IT'S AN AWFUL LOT TO EXPECT THEM TO CARRY YOUR LOAD TOO!Don't be too hard on someone who can't hack it, and DON'T BLAME YOURSELF IF THEY CAN'T HANG! Believe me, it's a hard lesson to learn!! Let them know before they take the time to get to know you. If they are still willing to get to know you,and love you anyways, then you have something!!! Good luck!
2007-04-27 09:19:13 · answer #1 · answered by Aunt K. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He came back from the war --
Marriage was not pleasant, but I stuck it out with him much longer than I should have - through 4 hospitalizations and 7 years. His illness got so bad, and they didn't know how to treat him living out his life as a 3yr old. After he tried to take my life, and was obsessed with my death, I had to leave to save my own life.
So, yes, I left because of his mental illness. Even though I was committed to marriage "until death do you part" when I was given back my life, the marriage was done.
2007-04-27 14:55:44 · answer #2 · answered by Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have ocd and i've been in a hospital for once, and my bf was totally supportive and we broke up not because of my condition, though my personal traits, resulting from my condition, might have influenced our relationship. My parents know about my ocd but don't ever talk about it or ask me how do i go on with it, i believe they feel a bit guilty for the way they treated me when i was a kid. My friends know but also try not to touch upon this issue. Unfortunately:)
2007-04-27 14:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by friday's child 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a girl break up with me while in the psychiatric ward.... Its better off not to be with those type of people anyways... because now i have the most wonderful fiancee and she supports me 150%. I have problems trusting others before she came along (borderline paranoia) but she sticks with me thick and then and i love her =)
2007-04-27 14:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am not mentally ill. You assume everyone is mentally ill but lots of folks are not.
2007-04-27 14:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋