Questions on my wild 4 year old?

Question

I have a 4 year old daughter.. she is will swear/curse sometimes, part of it is me I know I slip up, and she hears it from other people as well. We are not sure how to get her to stop. Putting her in the corner, stiff pops on the butt, it all is a temporary solution so two questions..

1. How do we get her to stop cursing so much? Even if she doesn't hear it, she will stay say the words.

2. My wife swears up and down that our child can be taken from us by Dfax if they hear her cursing, or someone reports it, from her school. Is this true?

Answer 1

She will stop on her own when she turns 4-5 years old scare her tell that devil exist and that he takes little kids that curse in spanish we call it El Cucui or El Tutu

Answer 2

Second question first. Child protective services doesn't remove children from the home because a child curses. You might be spoken to by the school, but your child will not be taken away.

It is much better have your childs behavior be based on a reward system rather than taking something away. 4 year olds love charts, for each day that she goes with out swearing have her put a sticker on a chart, when the chart is full you get to reward her with a movie or a trip to the library or something like that.

Answer 3

I have never heard of a child being taken away from their parents for cursing, that is just abit silly. For the cursing problem i just recommend that every time she says a bad word tell her how ugly the word is how impolite is to speak in such a way an if she continues put her in the corner for a time out consistently.

Answer 4

Dear Mike,

YOU GO, BOY!! You're on the right track...just follow it for a little and you will figure it out for yourself. You already figured out where she is getting her bad words. Now you need to figure out how to substitute good words for the bad. The suggestion that you substitute another word (I think one word was "pickles" was OK), but didn't go far enough. You not only want your daughter to stop cursing, you don't want her being made fun of later, either. The best thing you can do is learn to control your own tongue and reactions to aggravating situations and show her how it's done.

When she uses an inappropriate word, ask her what she means and give her a different word to use, better yet, give her a different reaction to use so that she stays in control of her temper and her situation.

When you get angry, take a deep breath and let it out slowly. Then, say something that acknowledges that you are irritated, but that is not obscene. Like, "Oh, wow!! That made me mad." "That hurt my feelings!" Now, you've moved from reaction (where you have no control) to acknowledgment and communication .... where YOU are in CONTROL. Good for you and good for your daughter!!!!

Thanks for asking a great question!!!

Answer 5

If you think swearing is okay, so will she, regardless of her age. If you give her a spanking for saying a bad word, she's going to see that you don't get a spanking....she won't understand why she gets punished for swearing but you don't. Don't scare her with things you don't believe in or things that aren't true. You're not doing her any good by telling her lies.

If you swear, she will swear; if you pray, she will pray; ultimately, your daughter will become what you are now. You're her example, and will be for several more years. If your life leaves some to be desired, so will hers.

If you're not sure why you should stop swearing, other than it's just wrong, try reading the Bible---I'm assuming you've heard it's rubbish, but it does have a good list of morals to live by, even if you don't believe in the God who inspired it.

Answer 6

We as parents should model appropriate verbal manners and behavior to our children. As a therapist, You as parents ahve to be firm with her by establishing what are acceptable and not acceptable words to hear not only at home. If there is a toy or an activity that she really is interested, try to use that as a reinforcer. If she curses, take it away. Never forget to praise or reward positive behaviors.
Social services only takes away children if somebody reports them as being abused at home or neglected by the parents. Disciplining is a totally different issue.

Answer 7

Yea, never heard of a child being taken away for cursing, however; I will say how distasteful! Potty mouth. What did you expect from her? Kids are like sponges, you may think that they are not listening, but they are, ALWAYS! I would suggest not using those words anymore and replace them with "shoot" or "aw man" and she if she reciprocates.

Answer 8

When my 4 year old says a bad word, i give her a flick on the lips. But i've only done it once or twice because she will not dare to say another bad word again. And I admit sometimes my husband and I will slip out a word, but we have decided to replace those words. Like Sh!t, we will say, Awww pickles..etc..

Answer 9

Just keep putting her in the corner everytime she says one. And let her know it's not appropriate. And especially stop swearing sround her and tell others to please watch their mouths. And I don't think they can take your child away just cause she said a swear.

Answer 10

no ur not gonna get her taken from u just tell them to mind their buisness. mt daughter is three and sometimes we slip out one word or two, i yell at her not to say that because its bad. let me tell you spanking is not bad ,i used to get spanked when i was little and im fine.im tired of people saying ur gonna scar the poor children or time out this. time out is bs. as long as u have there attention and tell them what the spanking or yelling at them for bad things(of course explain why they are doing wrong) id not a bad thing. For the others get over your political correctness.