Hi please can one tell me how I can stop thinking about my boyfrnd .Im, totally obsessed about him.He's starting to hate me cuz im too controlling.I know he will ditch me in a month or two.I wanna leave him before he does it.The problem is ive tried leaving him a hundred times,in the end its me whose begging him to take me back.I seriuosly need help.
2007-04-27 07:23:35 · 21 answers · asked by Aleera V 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you obsessed with your man...or scared of being alone?? If you want to leave him before he ditches you...can you really love him? You need to make yourself number one and not rely on other people to make you happy and be there for you. You shouldn't keep dragging him around like that...it's gonna mess the poor boy up in the head. Give yourself some space to find out who you are. Good luck.
2007-04-27 07:28:31 · answer #1 · answered by geminiqtpie22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok if hes just ganna leave in a month or two any ways then ditch him n leave it at that but if u can make it better by not being controling then just read some cosmo or somthng it help with that kind of thing. u hav to understand that guys need there space. your there to make him happy not be his mom! u should encerage him to do good things and let him b free! let him hang out with his friends. u should encerage that! just dont keep him on a leash or some day he just might break it and break ur heart as well. be careful how you treat him if you really care about him you will want him to be happy, and if that means telling him to turn off his cell phone and go wit his friends then maybe you should do that. even though it might drie you crazy he will see that you are trying for him, and he will try for you to. :) good luck!
2007-04-27 14:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by Niki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some outside interests, such as :painting, drawing, sports, and build your self esteem through these activities. If you already have outside interests, then becoming really good at something takes mental focus ( so some will be taken off from boyfriend) and the accomplishment will make you feel that your world is wider and more interesting. (I am not suggesting you are boring---I am just saying turn your focus) I am also not saying to leave him, but the obsession will lessen, and the drama will lessen. And if it doesn't work out with him, then you will be happier anyway, and ready and more stable for next relationship.
I have learned to live with my way of "overthinking" and obsessive ways by making it "my friend" ----you definitely have the capacity to become excellent at whatever you choose to do---your mind is built for it!
2007-04-27 14:34:36 · answer #3 · answered by * 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a life! I mean that in a serious way. You are obssessing over him because you probably don't have other activities that you get involved in. Being controlling and emotionally abusive is wrong. Find outlets to fill your time and hang with other friends every once in a while. Don't make your life completly about him. As far as wanting to break up with him before he does it to you, that's a dumb idea. You don't just break up to beat someone to the punch. I doubt that he is planning to break up with you anyway. You are probably just paranoid and overreacting because you think of him so much. You obviously like him, so instead of that just work on fixing the relationship so that it doesn't need to be ended. Good luck.
2007-04-27 14:30:47 · answer #4 · answered by Vince R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completly understand where you are comming from but the best advice i got is back off a little bit and if you like/love him as much as you say then you will try to make things work out between you guys. Good luck
2007-04-27 14:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Der 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was exactly like you when I first started dating my now husband. I really wanted to get out of the relationship, but I also came running back after breaking up. The thing is you really love him, just stick with it for awhile and things will fall into place.
2007-04-27 14:28:42 · answer #6 · answered by chilli2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to be alone for a while, no more serious boyfriends for the time being. Learn to love yourself and be secure within yourself. Once you're comfortable with who you are, you'll be able to appreciate the companionship of another, and have a strong, loving relationship.
2007-04-27 14:31:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dirtbox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am know married to my boyfriend who i was and stilll is obsessed with he gets mad at me but he understands that i do it out of love all i can say to u is just back off a little bit cause if u don't he will leave u if not leave just always be upset with u just tell him the truth why u are like that i did and we worked out fine
2007-04-27 14:31:08 · answer #8 · answered by stevenson-battle@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you weren't controlling, you'd be a dream come true.
Flattery with obsession is great. It's the controlling part that destroys everything.
Try controlling yourself and see how easy it isn't and maybe you'll respect your BF's views
2007-04-27 14:30:12 · answer #9 · answered by avengress 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are is infatuated with him. And, yes, being in his face all the time is not the best thing. The only way to leave, is to leave and not go back.
2007-04-27 14:28:21 · answer #10 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋