Okay i know you have to pay processing fees, and sometimes adoptions fees. Lets not forget many people that adopt children from third world countries bribe officials.
Morally i think no money should be exchanged when adopting a child as it looks like your putting a price tag on this child and buying them. What do you think?
2007-04-27 07:08:20 · 9 answers · asked by iceblendedmochajavo 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Money has to be exchanged in an adoption. Even if adopting from foster care and no money is paid by the adoptive parents, it's paid by the state.
First, depending on the state, birthmother expenses can be paid by the agency for a specific amount of time. So, anything relating to the birthmother's loss of wages due to being pregnant, food, maternity clothing, housing, etc. can be legally paid for.
Secondly, there are legal fees and lots of them. There is a homestudy fee that pays someone to do all the paperwork and home visits that the state requires. There are court and attorney fees for the termination of parental rights and for the finalization.
We adopted twice and I do not view the money we paid as "buying" our children. Everything was within the law. Our agency charges on a sliding scale basis and they used our income as a way to determine how much fees we could afford.
We never paid the birthmother any money ourselves. We didn't buy her expensive gifts or give her cash. When the agency paid for her rent for example, they paid the landlord directly.
The federal government even gives us a tax credit of $10,960 on the adoption fees we pay.
2007-04-27 07:52:46 · answer #1 · answered by onerockinmamato2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a parent that has adopted two boys from a third world country I can assure you that parents do not even meet the officials in charge of the adoption so I have no idea where you are getting your information. Your question or statement is not one of of a moral issue its more a legal issue and we all know attorneys are not cheap. International adoptions require either an attorney/adoption agency here in the US plus an attorney in the the country your atopting from. If your asking if I think the cost should be lower the answer is "of course I do" but dont just assume that since the cost are high the "people that adopt children from third world coutries bribe the officials" that is just a totally false and misleading statement to make.
To answer your question on whether money should be exchanged the answer is yes, it must in order to be legal but its not like going to the store and giving the cashier money in exchange for a few cans of soup.
2007-04-28 02:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think as long as you are just paying medical or legal expenses then it is ok. You definitely should not pay for a child, but if you have a baby you will have to pay medical expenses and there is a fee to get the birth certificate. I don't think that you should pay the birth mother anything other than paying her medical expenses, but I think you should pay those directly to the doctor/hospital, not the mother. I guess if you are adopting from a third world country and you feel you need to bribe an official then you might just look at is as the cost of getting that child out of there and not as a payment for the child. I think it is terrible that officials expect to be bribed.
2007-04-27 07:20:49 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree with you. If you go through legitimate channels for adoption, none of the money you pay is a "payment" for the child. It is all for "fees" and "expenses". Nobody is profiting from it except all the useless lawyers and beaurocrats. If you don't go through official channels and do pay some bribes, then even those are not payments for the child. They are the cost of doing business with corrupt people.
2007-04-27 07:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Larry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
mm more than likely yes. We pay money to adopt animals so they are sure we will treat them right. If people were given animals for free, they might use them for animal testing or something else. But more than likely if someone has to pay or an animal they won't use them for testing.. So is probably the same with children. Only they cost more lol
2016-04-01 10:10:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents adopted me and 5 siblings , a long time ago, i am 40 and the youngest, people did not adopt as much then, it was hard to find homes for children , so it went like this, My brother chuck, as infant 4oo.00 determined by taxes, my sister as infant 300.00, my brother as infant 350.00, my eldest brothers age 7, 9, they paid my parents as fosters for one year, then were adopted, under the condition they could have another baby, me as infant free, they bought 5 got one free, family joke lol I think this is how it should be, if my parents wanted to adopt now a days they could not have afforded it, and what a shame because they were great parents
2007-04-27 07:23:59 · answer #6 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nice concept, but it is a little more complicated than that.
Attorneys, educated social services personal, adoption agencies. Organizations to help place children, and it goes on.
ABC Adoptions
http://www.abcadoptions.com
2007-04-28 08:58:42 · answer #7 · answered by abcadoptions 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exchanging money would mean you were purchasing a child.
2007-04-27 07:15:45 · answer #8 · answered by L J 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH YOU. THEN THAT WOULD BE SELLING A CHILD AND THAT IS AWFUL!!
2007-04-27 07:12:46 · answer #9 · answered by LOVE MY LIFE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋