losing hope?

Question

well quite frankly im losing hope. im 20 years old and am currently a virgin, now this is a problem being that out of all my friends i am the only one.....i was thinking of waititng for the right female, but obviously ive only had one girlfreind in my lfie and it was only a fling. im not reacting off of peer pressure but merely the fact that im too old to be a virgin. i feel like time is slipping away i feel like im 60 years old and nonethgin is going right

Answer 1

Take the initiative! Go places where there are lots of people and where talking to strangers is acceptable, and approach someone you find attractive. The only one in your way is you!

Answer 2

Yeah, you FEEL like you are 60 years old... but you are NOT. You are 20. That is nothing. Where in the law books does it say that 20 is too old to be a virgin? That is ridiculous. I hate to be mean, but you are being a big pansy. It might be time to go talk to your doctor and see about getting some therapy. You are defining yourself in a totally illogical way, and placing arbitrary restrictions on who you are and what is important in your life. You're TWENTY!! That is YOUNG! Go out and have some fun and stop worrying about this nonsense. It'll happen when it happens.

Answer 3

Well, let me tell you, I have a friend who is the only virgin out of our group. Sure it bugs him, but it satisfies him that he will have sex with someone who isn't a hooker and wants to make sure that it isn't empty feeling. You probably feel this way because all of your other friends did in fact lose their virginity, but I wouldn't worry too much about it. There are other people like you who still have their virginity; some out of happenstance and some because they feel it is too sacred to lose during their teen years. I think the only way you will live to 60 is if you continue to lack confidence within yourself. Think about it, 40 years is quite a while, and you can do so much in those years to find someone you truly care about!

Answer 4

Don't lose hope. I would feel flattered if I married someone who was still a virgin, to know that they waited for me would mean so very much. Way too many people these days take it way to lightly. It's not all it's cut out to be. If you want to meet some new people try different clubs, churches, anywhere there are gatherings. I'm sure you will find someone very special and she will be lucky to have you!

Answer 5

so?
Virgins are very rare nowadays. If I could turn back time I would have waited. BUT, I have to say that sex is good. I only truly experience great sex from last year on.....And I lost my virginity 12 years ago! Even if u start having sex now, it does not mean that it will be good, beware and use a condom ALL the time.

Answer 6

The male conquest seems to be these days about how many notches in his bed post he has made. Honestly, from this woman's perspective, I think I would have appreciated my husband "waiting" for me. We didn't marry until later in life, and he had succeeded well in the conquest. But after the initial honeymoon time, he isn't even interested in me, like he is bored or something. I have 100X the desire to have sex than he does, but he's too tired most of the time.
If he would have waited for me, I think things would be radically different. His honest confession to me was "I didn't think YOU existed, so I lived like I would never have YOU."
I don't know if this helps or not, but the RIGHT ONE for you is out there, and I believe that she will greatly value your sacrifice of saving yourself for her. Who knows, she might be saving herself for you too.

Answer 7

well i was in the same boat as youonly i am 19 turning 20 , every one arround me was not vergins but i was i just ignored it and pretended that i was not one , and my sujestion 4 you is to wait for the right person to come along it is actualy worth the wait trust me , i did not lose mine untill i was 19 and i felt hopless but then i met my future wife and babys mother , just wait bc if you end up doing it with the wrong person u could end up with negitive consequences if you catch my drift .

Answer 8

You are not a loser. I applaud you for still being a virgin. It is better not to engage in premarital sex. By the way, there is so much to life than sex. Occupy your time and mind with other things.

Answer 9

in line with risk you will desire to commence staring on the bright edge. think of suitable to the struggles in touch as we make the attempt to do sturdy. Allah supplies us ten circumstances greater advantages whilst appearing on a sturdy deed, and purely supplies us one undesirable deed as quickly as we dedicate a sin. And as quickly as we intend to do a sturdy deed yet do no longer out of forgetfulness and so on. we get a advantages for it, yet as quickly as we intend evil yet do no longer act on it, we don't get any sin. does not that provide you a ray of desire?? Or are you purely being ungrateful, and to no longer point out, lazy? Salam alaykum~

Answer 10

Your lucky i can never have a girlfriend even if i try iam almost 20 and ive not had one girlfriend.