So just how bad do you want your man to be?

Question

Seeing so many quality women in relationships with guys they are constantly complaining about gets old, and I hear women making the same complaint--the quality men are already attached, and usually to obnoxious women.

Some women say they want to be someone's princess, but experience has taught me that they never really go for that guy. I can act like a jerk, but I don't think I could become one full-time. What balance between respect and self-centered irreverence do you want?

Is arguing with boyfriends so much fun that I need to find or create reasons to argue with you? Do you actually like it when a guy is wrong but insists he isn't, and can't apologize for anything?

Sometimes it seems that everything women say they want in a man is the opposite of what they really want, so think for a minute about the guys you have actually dated (not some mythical prince you dreamt up), and tell me how important conflict, anger and stubborness is to winning your heart.

Answer 1

I cannot speak for all women, but I believe that women are drawn to bad boys and men who argue because they represent strength. Women like to feel safe, and strong men make us feel safe. The problem with the bad boy is that they are sometimes missing the sweet side that is absolutely necessary in a relationship. You don't have to be a bad boy or a jerk to show strength. Be confident. Stand up to me when I am wrong, but admit it when you are wrong. Don't pick meaningless fights-no point there, but fiercely defend and protect me when it is necessary. It might also help you to stop trying to figure women out. Just figure out what you like, and when you see it in her, go for it. That assertiveness and confidence on your part can be very appealing.

Answer 2

wow! you've started a gud topic.
every woman dreams of the perfect guy who never comes by. Maybe an imaginative person who we never realize that he could be the guy we already have.
It's just like a parking lot, the" good spaces are already filled up and the "empty spaces are for handicapped spots."
I had a boyfriend who wasn't fond of my male friends and i so much wanted him to be part of them. He was isolating himself most of the time.Then my other boyfriend was so outgoing and he has lots of friends and he could possibly hang with them and forget about my presence. I was either behind or ahead,whenever we walked around town with some of his buddies.
Situations like this would make every woman not want more of anything except $$$.we just can't take too much of any guy's behavior.
I like stubborn guys but not guys who can't apologize for mistakes.In arguments,we always have to be the winners if you guys want peace of mind.
It finally comes up,why ain't guys attracted to the humble,decent and hardworking ladies but rather the irresponsible heavy partier or the well-known gold digger. I sometimes wonder why most guys would go after the ladies who don't know when to say "no" to sleeping with different men. Isn't that your problem too,guys????????????
I think we all don't know what we want in life.

Answer 3

It's totally unimportant. I love my boyfriend to death because he's not a jerk. We've been together for five years and we plan on getting married when I graduate from college. He has treated me with total respect the whole time. Yes, we fight, as any normal couple should. But we always say we're sorry, make-up and move on. Real women don't want jerks, but they do want someone who can stand up for himself, even to his lady when she's wrong. Women often mistake irreverence for this.

Answer 4

LOL ... that's a classic issue. Women are instinctively drawn to bad-boys like moths to flames and then they sit back and whine about how their boyfriends are bad ... uh, duh! You date a bad boy then things are going to end up badly. It only makes sense.

Men are not pigs, it's the men that these women choose to lie down with that are pigs.

Why can't they find good men? They are surrounded by good men, but they refuse to look at them twice because they aren't all that exciting, they aren't drinkers, gamblers, bikers, players.