I am 19 years old. I have an 18 month old girl and a 2 month old boy. I feel stressed to the max. On top of raising children I am a full time nursing student. Some days I just want to crawl in a hole and never come out again. I keep lashing out at my boyfriend because I am so high strung. But I dont like taking pills for bs. Also when I was in highschool I was on antidepressants and they made me gain alot of weight. What should I do?
2007-04-27 06:44:17 · 8 answers · asked by hnh573 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My boyfriend helps as much as he can. But he works alot. Also we spend half of our time arguing over parenting techniques. ( my daughter isnt his biologically although we have been together since she was 3 months.)
2007-04-27 06:53:37 · update #1
Perhaps couseling or support group would work. I'm a single mom, work fulltime & am in a masters program and there are days where I just want to crawl under a rock & wait til its all over. But I joined a support group for awhile when she was younger - somehow helped to hear other people can relate & were going through the same feelings. I've maintained friendships with some of the woman I met there & I still have my hour long phone calls with them...
Plus I learned that having a "date night" or just going out to a movie with a friend can kinda let you remember what it is your fighting for.
You have a lot on your plate & you have to remember that no one is expecting you to be perfect, do it all ,or not to have a meltdown occasionally.
As for medicating yourself, i would go talk to a counselor (your school should have one) and see if they recommend that you start seeing a psychologist. Just make sure when you talk to the counselor you let it all out - you would be amazed how much that can help sometimes. They can also give you suggestions on how to handle stress etc...
I'm just afraid that if you start popping pills, you might be covering up the problem instead of addressing it (much like an alcholic does). Now thats not to say that there may be a problem that will warrant pills, but that should be your last resort.
2007-04-27 08:32:00 · answer #1 · answered by jen070480 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it sounds like you have your hands full, no wonder you're stressed!
Do you have any sort of support network? Maybe some counseling advice on how to deal with the stress might be worth a try before meds. Sometimes talk therapy is a good way to express your frustrations, rather than taking it out on your boyfriend. Speaking of your boyfriend, I hope he is pulling his weight and contributing to taking care of the kids.
2007-04-27 06:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's better to fix what is causing the anxiety, in your case, you have way too much on your plate. Give yourself a break, delegate. Your boyfriend, family, maybe an agency, can come to your aid and watch after your kids while you rest, study, do something for yourself. Lighten your load at school if you can. Plan some fun, relaxing time for yourself if you can.
And enjoy those kids!
2007-04-27 06:52:21 · answer #3 · answered by Julie S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my collection:
Tips and Tricks to handle "Anxeity"
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When it comes to driving a car, you don’t drive around anticipating, What if a squirrel runs out in front of my car, should I hit the brake first or should I…? You don’t do this because you trust your ability to react, in the moment, to the road’s changing circumstances. Living with insecurity and worrying is no different than anticipating life’s squirrels (i.e., the doubts, fears and negatives). Next time you find yourself anticipating, worrying, or ruminating, remind yourself, Stop looking for squirrels! Trust your instincts to handle and react appropriately to what crosses your path in life. Release yourself from the congestion of anticipatory worry and then turn up the music.
Lesson # 1; TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS
I certainly preach what I practise . I was given xanax for anti-anxeity. I went to internet and collected information about xanax (from www.drugs.com) and how people have used that drug for the last 20 years and its implications on them . This led me to avoid the pill. Unfortunately I dont have the collected document to show you the results. How ever you can check up with this forum for many users feedback http://www.drugs.com/forum/
2007-04-27 07:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by Charming 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consult a professional before taking any sorts of medication. For your health, it would be the best idea. Anti-anxiety medications have a lot of side effects, and you need to be prepared for that.
2007-04-27 06:48:01 · answer #5 · answered by Avvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a glass of wine for dinner is what I recommend
get some turning leaf or any white wine.
2007-04-27 06:54:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say Hormone much?Doc can see you get something for that.
2007-04-27 06:59:28 · answer #7 · answered by oregoncheeto 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to your doctor about it. one thing about Axieity medications is that they are very addictive.
2007-04-27 07:18:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋