I really don't think they like me. Just cause I'm quiet and shy and I feel kind of picked on because of it. I keep telling myself I don't care but I get so nervous and paranoid I can feel my skin in my whole body heat up in embarrasement when I talk and after. How can I completely just not care what they think of me? And please don't suggest going to see the doctor, if I could afford it I would.
2007-04-27 06:42:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
rather than focussing on what they think of you, focus on what you think of them. Your own thoughts and feelings are more important to you than theirs. So change your focus. If you like some of them, act like it, let your thoughts guide your actions, if you don't like some of them, do the same. What you think of yourself and what YOU think of others is more to the point for you.
2007-04-27 06:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That coworker has that much "influence" over other coworkers? Goes to show you how gullible they are. Ignore, ignore, ignore. There's always one, or a few who have little or no self-esteem, who try to make the workplace a minefield and a toxic environment. Your coworker doesn't sign your paycheck, therefore she doesn't matter and the same goes for your coworkers. Why care about them? Your job performance will matter to your boss. Bottom Line. Good luck.
2016-04-01 10:08:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your self-esteem needs an overhaul. A few things you should know.
1. You are a worthwhile human being despite your faults and imperfections.
2. You are an equal member of the human race- regardless of what others say...
3. If these coworkers are talking about you or giving you attitude it says more about the kind of people THEY are, than who you are.
4. Don't take them personally. Just be you and be happy being you and eventually people will respect that but if you apologize for existing all the time you'll never feel good about yourself.
2007-04-27 06:49:34 · answer #3 · answered by LB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set goals for yourself each week. Start by setting a goal that you will smile and say good morning the first time you see your coworkers each day. Just that, smile and good morning. The next week make a goal to ask one person how they're doing each day. Keep taking small steps and you'll find that it gets easier every day. It's hard to overcome shyness but it is possible and you'll be super glad you did later.
Try really hard not to worry about your coworkers disliking you - if they don't know you and dislike you then they're not even worth the concern. When I started working I was really shy too but I forced myself to overcome it. Focus on breathing when you feel like you're about to panic, it will help calm you down. Good luck.
2007-04-27 06:59:00 · answer #4 · answered by Susan G 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'm quiet & shy myself. I used to care SOO much what people thought of me or what they said about me. Now, after having the same job for 8 and a half years, I'm more open. I don't care what they say or think. It's their opinion. If they don't like you, it's their loss, you're a good person, keep your head up! :o)
2007-04-27 07:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by sunnydee826 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. its not that they don't like you since you have not given them much to go on.
2. you are probably making them feel uncomfortable becuase they don't know why you are acting like that. they may think you don't like them.
3. did you ever talk to your doctor about anxiety attacks? it sounds like you have the symtoms for it.
4.. if your doc says your fine and you want to be part of the crowd, pick out one person you know is pretty popular and ask him to lunch, then hit him with your problem and ask him if he has ever been in that situation.
now you have someone on your side who will probably pass it around that you aren't so bad and would actually like a few friends.
2007-04-27 06:50:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to go and make as many friends outside of work as you can. If you have lots of good feedback from friends, you'll care less about what your co-workers think, and it'll be easier for you to talk to people at work once you've practised making friends! Good Luck
2007-04-27 06:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by ottavia88888888 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may not be your co-workers at all. Sounds like you need to work on your self esteem issues.
2007-04-27 06:47:42 · answer #8 · answered by qtpisunshine 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know waht you mean. It happens to me all the time.
I turn the other cheek, in 6 years i retire then i can tell them all to GO **** THEMSELVES
2007-04-27 06:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋