what should i do??possibly be extremley happy or miserbale for the rest of my life..lol?

Question

hi, i lost ahuge amount of weight sensibly over the last nine months 8 stone to be exact or 116lbs going down from a size 24 now a 10 i excercised alot and am toned everywhere aprt from my tummy where there is alot of loose skin, subsequently this has seriously effected my self esteem, to the extreme im on antidepressents..hm not good i know lol..however my nhs has agreed to give me atummy tuck because how this has effected me physcologically..trouble is we have adoctor in the family who has told me this is quite a dangerous operation and isnt worth risking my life over, yet i never have heard anyone dying form atummy tuck, and whilst i realise any operation has its risks its still ahuge worry, but if i turn it down iknow for sure this wont be offered to me again....im so confused and quite frightened if im honest...do i live with what i have got but carry on in my depths of dispair and low self esteem which is affecting my relationshipsand most other parts of my life or just go for it

Answer 1

Firstly many congratulations on losing so much weight. You should feel really proud of yourself. As for the tummy tuck. Would it not be possible for you to speak directly with the surgeon, after all, he is the expert. I am sure he would be able to put your mind at rest and point out all of the negativity's as well as the positives. Alternatively you could go back to your doctor and tell him of your fears and maybe he could get the surgeon or someone in his department to contact you. Best of luck with whatever you decide.

Answer 2

Well done you!! That's fantastic!
Talk to your own GP or the surgeon who is going to do the operation. All operations are dangerous and shouldn't be taken lightly but spending the rest of your life either miserable or on anti-depressants isn't good either. I have a friend who not only had a tummy tuck but had surgery to remove loose skin on her arms too. She was fine and said it was no worse than having a C-section as far as the recovery went.
The family member obviously cares but perhaps is a bit old-fashioned, dislikes cosmetic or unnessacary surgery but it's not his body or feeling is it? Try and find out as much as you can about the procedure (I'm sure you'll find a lot on the web) before finally deciding.
Whatever you do decide to do, I wish you all the luck in the world!

Answer 3

Well done on losing the weight. I'm a size 24 now, and when I see people like yourself who have halved their size, it really gives me inspiration as I know it is possible. If it were me, I'd have the tummy tuck. I can't see it being much of a risk as you no longer weigh heavy so the anaesthetic won't be life threatening. Good on you and good luck in whatever you decide to do.

Answer 4

i would defo go 4 it... they cost a lot of money and ur getting it done 4 free.......... you've earned it as well... take the plunge. i think u will regret it if u dont? im saving 4 1 now by the way and theres sooooo much info on Internet about it, try googleing tummy tucks and look at the befor and after pics, if that doesn't make u go 4 it nothing will??? good luck and well done x

Answer 5

go for it girl, a tummy tuck isn't nearly the danger it used to be.
Any doctor that would tell you that is obviously not a plastic surgeon and doesn't really know what he is talking about. I had a tummy tuck after my weight loss, the recovery was uncomfortable, but I'd do it again in a heart beat.

Answer 6

its a hard one mate, are you sure its the flab thats makin you upset though? if it is then you should have the op. the doctors will take you through all the risks before you commit to it.

you should be really proud of losing all that weight, but why did you do it? for your health, for your looks or because of what you want other people to think about you?

its your decision babe, if your deeply unhappy with the way you look then lop it off. if your deeply unhappy with who you are then a bit of flab wont make much difference to how you feel. you need to be more confident with yourself babe!! time for some inner reflection.

i hope everything goes well for ya, im sure your a wonderful, brilliant person!!!

ps what diet were you on????

Answer 7

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Answer 8

After all that weight loss you deserve a tummy tuck. I think tummy tucks are for cheaters if you havent worked hard .. but go for it girl, its not dangerous, millions of people do it and theyre very happy :)

Answer 9

Research the medical sites on the web, there's a lot of information, and by the time you finish, you loose skin will have shrank some more!

Answer 10

go for it