I have been seeing a guy for almost 6 months. We were having sex then he told me he thought we should just be friends; still we hang out every night...now he wants to have sex after he has been drinking...Its important to me but everytime I try to talk to him about it we fight. What should I do?
2007-04-27 06:33:01 · 27 answers · asked by Red 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Im sorry to break it to you but it sounds like he really doesnt care much about YOU or YOUR needs!! If he is only willing to have sex w/ you when he is drunk then get rid of him! You DESERVE MORE!! If he is saying he only wants to be "friends" and then wants to have sex when he is drunk.. he is simply looking for a "booty call!" BOOT HIM TO THE CURB and find someone WORTHY of your love and affection.. this guy just ISNT worth it!!
2007-04-27 06:37:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry you were used like this. This is part of the problem of giving up the goods before you find the person who you will spend the rest of your life with. You really need to stop having sex with him. Try this and see if he really wants to be with you for who you are and not for what you can do for him.
If you care about relationship and want a decent relationship/marriage then save the sex for the wedding day. Then, go hog wild. Until then, you will know who is really sincere in a relationship with you if they can keep it in their pants. If they can't then you won't want to spend the rest of your life with them, anyway.
Sex is natural and is wonderful. It is also emotional. Don't let anyone try to tell you that it is just something to do. I hope you find the right person who is able to see the value in who you are. I hope someone will be able to appreciate your heart and love you more than you can imagine. Protect yourself and find out who you are, what you value, and what your dreams and goals in life are. Don't let anyone take away your self respect and dignity by using you like this.
Peace
2007-04-27 13:35:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beer-goggle sex is NOT good. It shows that he's only interested when he's not fully in control of himself -- and that's just not fair to you! And the sex isn't usually very good when alcohol is involved either, so a double-no-way to that scenario.
Tell him no sex means no sex, *especially* when he's been drinking.
2007-04-27 13:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep talking to him about it so that you fight and don't have sex. But dame sex every night is good who cares about talking? Just kidding but you got a good thing there.
2007-04-27 13:37:58 · answer #4 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your being used ... now he sees you as a friend with benefits ... best thing you can do for yourself is stop having sex and see if he still wants you around .. if not cut ties with him .... you dont need these kind of users in your life .... espically when it comes to things like sex ... .its the worst way to ever be used .. weither you know it or not ... everyone around you knows your being used for it ... believe me its not a secert becuase boys like him dont keep things like this on the down low
2007-04-27 13:49:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him before you give it to him theres a few things on your mind that need discussed. Then figure out if its worth it or not, sounds like he's playing games with your head.
2007-04-27 13:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by ♥RaCheL♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is totally using you as a booty call and is getting away with it bc he knows that you like him..jerk! my advice is totally stop seeing him and find a guy that actually deserves you. he is obviously fighting with you about it bc he knows your right and is just defensive. stay friends if he really means something to you but stop giving him what he wants!
2007-04-27 13:38:24 · answer #7 · answered by princess113chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop playing his games. He's trying to have his cake AND eat it too. Give up on him and move on to somebody more worthwhile. You are worth way more then this guy is giving you credit for - He is NOT respecting you.
2007-04-27 13:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by Avvi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he only wants to be friends, then hold him to that, even when he has been drinking. Your relationship with him shouldn't hinge upon whether some one is sober or not.
2007-04-27 13:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by wizbangs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him. he doesn't deserve you or your time. if he broke up with you just because you had sex...it just shows you are a convience to him....that you didn't really matter to him as a girlfriend....so if he wants you to keep givin it up to him as a friend, tell him to GET LOST! Or in my words : the candy shop is closed....find another easy treat elsewehere. ;]
2007-04-27 13:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Liya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋