overheard roomate & a mutual friend trashtalking me in my own room..?

Question

so one of my friends from the floor i live on was in my room with my roomate this morning. the lights were off and i was laying in bed taking a break from a paper. they both came in here, assumed i was sleeping, started whispering and saying all sorts of really mean stuff about me. making fun of me for studying, for turning the lights off when i leave, the way i arranged my half the room, for stuff i had shared about myself and what was going on in my life, just any stupid little thing. they have no idea i heard everything they said and later on when they saw me again it was the same fake niceness as always. im not really sure how to act with them now know that i know someone i trusted and thought was a good friend of mine just laughs at me behind my back. in my own room too when im there!! whats the best approach to act towards them for the last few weeks of the semester. they are both dropping out of this university as a result of poor grades so i wont be seeing them again ever

Answer 1

People tend to trash talk for 2 reasons:

*They feel intimated by you in some way, so they talk trash about you to bring themselves up & at their level.

*They verbally abuse you to make YOU feel lower than you are & at their level.

So my guess is that they feel threatened by you because you're smart, you study & actually managed to stay in the university.

My advice: Leave it alone. Don't cause yourself unnecesesarry grief over two people who are soon leaving anyway. After they leave, let them know you over heard them if you wish & cut all ties w/ fakers.

Answer 2

Hey, sometimes girls can be envious brats especially in college. You aren't doing anything wrong in wanting to study, or turning the lights of whe you leave, you keep doing what your doing cause when your done with school you will have the career and you will have the money and you will be in a better place. Just Ignore them and If you feel like it tell themthe next time they are two face with you, (since you won't see them again) that you over heard them that day and you feel sorry for them! and that will make them feel really stupid!

Answer 3

I had horrible roommates my first year in college too. One of them would make fun of me for studying all the time - then she'd want to take the same classes as me so she could try to copy my assignments.

They're idiots if they are making fun of you for studying while they are failing out of school. In 4 years they'll be working at McDonald's and you'll have a degree. They're probably just jealous of you. I say ignore them and avoid them as much as possible for the next couple of weeks. Once finals are over and you move out of the dorm, you never have to see them again.

Answer 4

It sounds like they are just jealous of you for being able to do so well in school. Since they are leaving in a few weeks and you will not have to see them again, why make things difficult for yourself? Just don't talk to them unless they talk to you and don't pay any attention to what they say. They are clearly aren't very smart so just ignore them as much as possible and focus on your studies.

Some people might advise you to confront them, but what would be the point? It will just make your life miserable for the last few weeks and you don't need the distraction.

Answer 5

How about in thirds? If the trade-off for a private room is street parking, so be it... or the two pick up an expense like cable tv or high speed internet connection and allow roomie #3 to use it for free...or use the assigned parking on a monthly rotating basis, so that all three of you get some time on the street, and equal time in the assigned parking. There are lots of ways to do this. Have fun in your new apt!

Answer 6

Your mutual friend if she has been a good friend in the past may have just been trying to impress your roommate and said some dumb things that she may have not meant. I would just pretend it didn't happen and see what happens in the future. If you start booting all of your friends the first time they make a mistake you will have no friends. If she continues the practice, it may be time to move on and find a better friend.

Answer 7

I know this situation sounds like it really bothers you and I've been in situations like this myself. You don't want friends in your life like that.. it's too much of a hassle. And yes, you study, but you're staying in school, and they're dropping out. You don't want these people as friends. Just slowly cut yourself out of their lives so that way, if you don't want to talk to them again after the semester's over, it's easier. You're so much better than that. Don't let it get to you. Just know you're better than that and deserving of honest friends who are nice and support you. Keep your head up, you're the better person in this situation. The semester will fly by with studying and stuff. You'll get through this :)

Answer 8

For one I would stop telling them anything important. They obviously do not appriecate that you trust them with your feelings. I wouldn't be mean to them or anything and don't talk behind their back you don't want to end up like them. School should be over shouldn't it so I would let it go. Find some new roomates next time and don't worry about what other people say.

Answer 9

Then why get yourself worked up over it now ?? Jealously is a b*tch sometimes, but names will never hurt you~

To be real honest , If i heard the conversation, i would of turned on the lights and tell them how stupid they are , because of their academic dramas.

Just let them go~ good riddance !

Answer 10

Meh, people are people. That's just how they are.

But seriously they were joking about your studying while in school? Isn't that the whole point of being in school, well it is for me anyway. Also, for turning off lights when you leave? I always turn the lights off and it pisses me off when people leave them on. For Christ's sake, if you're not in the room turn off the TV and the lights, it keeps me up!