men only please?

Question

I always seems to get things wrong went it comes to relationships. I always attract the wrong man.

Why is this?

Answer 1

Because the loud, bad, extroverted guys come across well in a pub, club or company and you are attracted to that
But as you have realised they are not so good in the one to one relationship bit.


And you said guys only, look how many women jumped in LOL


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Answer 2

Men are like a box of chocolates, you never know what's coming next. There are no guarantees in relationships. However, I have grown up among other people, and time and again I see the men that most women are attracted to usually make the worst partners, (and short lived marriages!!) If many women are attracted to a man, then he can wander, or play away from home, whenever he chooses. And men, like women, do give in to temptation. There is also a correlation between looks and personality, the better looking, the worse the personality. Average looking people tend to be the nicest in all areas. I can't be bothered any more ....................

Answer 3

Most often it is due to not really knowing the person before you start dating them seriously. Women have a tendency to get interested in a guy and stop looking around to see if there is anything better. An exclusive relationship is good but I don't think they are worth while until you have been seeing a person for a long while and actually have a good idea who they are.
Do you actually know what you want from a man and a relationship? If you haven't thought about that you can't look for it.

Answer 4

Kind of confused as to why you wanted answers from men only. Actually, it was that fact that enticed me to click on your question in the first place. Why would a man give a more enlightening answer than a woman? In my experience, women are the ones who are always thinking about their actions.

Attracting the wrong men has to do with patterns. Maybe you have a "type." I know I do. I like guys who are sweet and funny, but who also know their own minds and aren't afraid to challenge me. I have girl friends who like bad boys too, or guys with accents, or...whatever!

Maybe it also has to do with self-image. I think people with positive self images tend to attract those who are also positive, whereas those who don't have a positive self-image attrac the unsavory types.

Answer 5

Could be a number of reasons.
1. You don't present yourself in a way that would attract the type of man you are looking for.
2. Your actually scared of finding that type of man for fear for of rejection, so you settle.
3. You aren't patient
4. That man is a figment of your imagination and he doesn't really exist.
5. You are looking in the wrong places

Any combination of the above or perhaps other reasons that I haven't thought of. Hope that is helpful.

Answer 6

Its funny how many of us spend 18 years growing up, and the rest of our lives compensating or chasing things that we feel we missed in our childhoods.

But, what do you mean by the "wrong man"?

More importantly, what is the "right man" for you? If you don't take the time to get this clear for yourself how will you know when someone comes along who is at least an "80%" match?

Answer 7

You most proberly seem to atract to bad boy because you think that they are more "Exciting" and the quietier guys are more boring more stable and that's simply how it is you want the right sort of guy look for one on his own kinda attractive and not totally depressed that will be the sort of guy you are looking for trust me they are able in corners of pubs sat at the bar playing pool with people they don't know. If they are playing pool go and ask if you can have a game of doubles with them and try to get them to help you learn it's a good way to flirt.

Answer 8

If you always attract the wrong guys you are either in the wrong place and or you are sending out the wrong vibes

Answer 9

Your expectations are not set in the beginning of the relationship!! When the honeymoon period is over and reality sets in, you then realize that this person is not for you.

Write down on paper the qualities you want in a relationship. That way, when you meet someone, you can check your list before your heart takes over and you fall into your dating trap!

Answer 10

You don't attract the wrong one's your attracted to the wrong one's. Look at all the men you've been involved with and see what the common denominator might be....they each have it and that is what drew you to them.