you knew couldnt really afford it? i know i have been guilty of doing things for my boyfriends that are way above my means but, as a persons signaficant other if you noticed this bad habit would you nip it in the butt or continue to let this person dig themselves a hole so they could please you and shower you with nice things? if you have read any of my other questions this refers to the guy that tells me he is"transition dating" well the other night he told me about the other girl ( that has a kid lives with her parents and has a dead end job) that she is buying him a computer & in my head it seems alittle cold-hearted to expect and recieve gifts like this from a person who can barely take care of themselves. am i crazy to think this way? is my inner drama queen coming out?
2007-04-27 06:12:44 · 6 answers · asked by live in the magic of life 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah, this guy sounds really weird.... Or like he uses people, or something, I don't know. I would tell him it's not right to accept or ask for things from people who can't afford it. I know right now my friend has a boyfriend who takes her debit card and buys himself lunch when he knows she can't afford it really, she is inbetween jobs and doesn't have money right now. He gives so many excuses as to why he can't get a job right now and she just doesn't realize he likes to get something for nothing and he's self-righteous about it. I don't know if you can relate but just be careful to not let yourself or others get used by people like this! If you have a feeling about it you should trust investigate, you are probably right!
2007-04-27 06:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by akfjlkjfeijofoofososd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are only out for themselves and as long as they benefit, they do not care what it puts the other person through.
I think that this is wrong and I would never accept a gift from someone that I thought that they could not afford it.
Depends on what kind of person that you are.
2007-04-27 06:18:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is self-centered to take gifts from a person who cannot afford it. I would only expect things according to income level and stage of the relationship.
2007-04-27 06:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by megan261980 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you care for the person then you should straighten them out. If you only care for the stuff you get then who cares how they dig themselves.
2007-04-27 06:17:44 · answer #4 · answered by IKNOWALL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well its okay if your signaficant other to spoil you a little.. just dont get way into it.. tell him to save his money and my something for him self.. then he would notice that you really like him more than his money and you are not a gold digger.. so he wont feel weird buying you expensive gifts.. so its okay.. just say no sometimes
2007-04-27 06:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by i ♥ Food 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. He is a user. Some people seem born to take advantage of others.
2007-04-27 06:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋